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  RE: What is the biggest difference in the marriage bed now compared to 100 years ago and how different will... By JLoydH - 2 hours ago

  As others have noted, I believe procreation was a bigger factor in the "why?" than it is today... America was...

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  RE: What Effects Have You Seen from "Purity Culture"? By Scott+Zelda - 4 hours ago

  @Brynna regarding your question on what is "Purity Culture":The term is loosely defined, but the "courting" and "I Kissed Dating...

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  RE: How to move past partner not waiting until marriage. By SeekingChange - 4 hours ago

  Get outside help, a counselor, a therapist, a pastor, etc.

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  RE: What is the biggest difference in the marriage bed now compared to 100 years ago and how different will... By alexschulze - 4 hours ago

  In hundred years same sex attraction would be considered mainstream and there would be less discrimination for homosexual sex.  Society...

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  RE: What is the biggest difference in the marriage bed now compared to 100 years ago and how different will... By SeekingChange - 4 hours ago

  A hundred years ago.... I do think that @NWNL threw in some great points that I never would have considered. ...

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  RE: What Effects Have You Seen from "Purity Culture"? By Brynna - 5 hours ago

  I am curious as to what exactly is the "Purity Culture"? I have only heard about it here and not...

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  RE: What Effects Have You Seen from "Purity Culture"? By SeekingChange - 5 hours ago

  This was pretty much before my time, and we never got onto the whole "purity culture" with our kids, even...

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  RE: What is the biggest difference in the marriage bed now compared to 100 years ago and how different will... By Happily married - 5 hours ago

  Lingerie and toys! 🙂 I like what NWNL said and I'll add that I think, though I wasn't around 100...

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  RE: What is the biggest difference in the marriage bed now compared to 100 years ago and how different will... By newwifenewlife - 5 hours ago

  I think there is: - more understanding & knowledge about bodies and responses, especially women. - more women are involved...

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  RE: What Effects Have You Seen from "Purity Culture"? By TinyTim - 6 hours ago

  From my perspective a mixed results. Most are virgins until marriage and once married they have children within a year...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By Happily married - 6 hours ago

  I can see intimacy in two ways. In one way I can share an evening with several close friends and...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By LoyalLis - 6 hours ago

  Mr Oldbear, I’m certain it must make sense. It’s my lack of knowledge that is confusing me. I have never...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By LoyalLis - 7 hours ago

  Mr Oldbear I find your answer interesting. Especially this   ”Sex with latent intimacy: Solo masturbation with sweet thoughts of...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By Oldbear - 8 hours ago

  I think that it’s possible to have one without the other and together. Sex, only: Solo masturbation to get quick...

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By ALL_IN - 8 hours ago

  I've never come right out and asked DW  "why don't you like giving me OS"?  The only feedback she's offered...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By ALL_IN - 9 hours ago

  In my DW's eyes, there is NO sex outside of intimacy. If she's not "feeling it", sex is off the...

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  RE: Smaller Penis Size By LoyalLis - 9 hours ago

  Short can be a matter of opinion and long a fictional brag.

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By LoyalLis - 9 hours ago

  We enjoy sex and intimacy together. But we have intimacy without sex as well.  And yes on rare occasion we...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By one_woman_man - 9 hours ago

  They typically differ in the minds/experience of women and men.  For many women, feelings of intimacy are paramount in order...

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  RE: What Effects Have You Seen from "Purity Culture"? By LoyalLis - 9 hours ago

  Not certain I understand. But sex questions from our children is a complicated topic.

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  RE: What Effects Have You Seen from "Purity Culture"? By Tracker - 9 hours ago

  Did not know such a thing even existed!

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  RE: Smaller Penis Size By Michiganman - 9 hours ago

  Thanks TMB folks. I am not sure what I said to cause concern. But I respect the words from you....

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By newwifenewlife - 9 hours ago

  @luvabug - part of the key you shared in there is that you co-created an answer which shows intimacy. Too...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By luvabug99 - 9 hours ago

  @Scott love your point about vibrators when used because you know each other and your needs well enough. One of...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By Scott+Zelda - 10 hours ago

  As the others have said, sex is a physical act, whereas intimacy is a sharing of each other for mutual...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By newwifenewlife - 10 hours ago

  When sex and emotional intimacy intersect, it is a complete and powerful union. I would submit that, barring physical or...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By Tracker - 10 hours ago

  Um......remember there are different kinds of intimacies, and well different kinds of sex too. So many permutations really. Sex with...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By Crazydaddy - 10 hours ago

  I feel like sex is just the physical act. It is really easy. I've said it before, but just "getting...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By Brynna - 10 hours ago

  Well, a married couple can have sex without intimacy, but will they have intimacy without sex? Barring any health problems...

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By SeekingChange - 11 hours ago

  Intimacy is to know and be known. "In-to-me-you-see". This is applicable to every single relationship, with others and with God....

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  RE: 08/06/2020 - Today's Question of the Day By luvabug99 - 11 hours ago

  Sex is a collection of physical actions, where intimacy includes the relational components. True intimacy requires emotional and physical vulnerability,...

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  RE: How to move past partner not waiting until marriage. By Happily married - 14 hours ago

  Great question Scott to help understand the context of the inquiry. I would say in addition even without that information...

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By Happily married - 14 hours ago

  Thanks S+Z for highlighting some of the quotes from the podcast. I'll add just one comment to the thread as...

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  RE: About Trolls By 69greyshades - 16 hours ago

    Thanks Dale (or Sam?)    🙂 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ralph_Wolf_and_Sam_Sheepdog

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  RE: How to move past partner not waiting until marriage. By Scott+Zelda - 21 hours ago

  Hello Kago89, Can you please elaborate on if you're already married (and if so, how long), engaged, or just looking...

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By rojet1 - 23 hours ago

  My DH doesn't much care to have his penis sucked and I don't find doing it particularly stimulating either. But...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By Duchess - 1 day ago

  I feel like I started out with great enthusiasm and energy ( so maybe an 8?) and then after depression...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By Nova - 1 day ago

  5. I'm pretty average in every respect.

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By Oldbear - 1 day ago

  9 and 9: Both of us would rate each other in this way. Can’t be a 10 - always room...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By LBD - 1 day ago

  8, 6.

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By Tracker - 1 day ago

  Only report last two years. Best at times maybe a 5 Average for that time period 1.6.

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  RE: Any one ever.... By Happily married - 1 day ago

  To take a phrase from one of the characters in the movie National Treasure (okay, it was one of the...

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  RE: Any one ever.... By Oldbear - 1 day ago

  @NWNL a wonderful faux pas! If anyone who saw your innocent move doesn’t smile and appreciate it - they need...

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  RE: Any one ever.... By SeekingChange - 1 day ago

  This is funny @NWNL... I think this kind of thing is pretty common for my husband, it doesn't really leave...

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  RE: Any one ever.... By Jpops - 1 day ago

  Back when the kids were doing online school near the beginning of lockdown we were all working at the dining...

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  RE: About Trolls By Happily married - 1 day ago

  Very helpful and positive.

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  RE: pray for lebanon By LBD - 1 day ago

  I had a good friend from Lebanon. He made excellent lamb kibbe. He wanted to go back but couldn't. He...

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  RE: Any one ever.... By Twue_Wuv - 1 day ago

  On a somewhat related note, I will try to fondle my wife while she is on the phone with someone...

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  RE: About Trolls By one_woman_man - 1 day ago

  Appreciate all you do, Dale!  

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  RE: Any one ever.... By LBD - 1 day ago

  I am waiting for the YouTube compilations of these type events....I know they are coming, may already be out there...

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By LBD - 1 day ago

  Ok  @Scott+Zelda– good discussion – #1 – I agree, women do not relate to their genitalia like men do. BUT...

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By Scott+Zelda - 1 day ago

  Regarding OS on her (cunnilingus), I don't know if I agree the first three are good fits. I would think...

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  RE: Smaller Penis Size By LBD - 1 day ago

  As a friend of mine once said "She'd much rather be tickled than gouged."

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  RE: Smaller Penis Size By David - 1 day ago

  @Michiganman, The subject matter on this forum is intimate, and there have been problems with trolls in the recent past....

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By Tracker - 1 day ago

  Do not do pod casts thanks for summary points Scott. Both of us were free to give and receive oral...

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By LBD - 1 day ago

  Like a sore thumb! Or an erect penis…. 🙂 I’m sure there are a few that overlap to OS on...

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  RE: About Trolls By newwifenewlife - 1 day ago

  Thanks for the update and info Dale. I appreciate it.

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By newwifenewlife - 1 day ago

  It was a good episode. I remember listening to it in January when it came out. Good stuff pulled out...

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  RE: Why men care about oral sex. By Scott+Zelda - 1 day ago

  Thanks for sharing this. I listened to it, and here are a few quotes from the podcast that stuck out...

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  RE: If you could teach your teenage children (real or hypothetical) about married sexual intimacy, what three things would you... By SJP - 1 day ago

  Wow - some great answers here!

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  RE: How to address the younger generation in this area, thru this venue? By LBD - 1 day ago

  Perhaps one of the problems I foresee happening more and more is how does one counteract the social media, narcissistic,...

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By Crazydaddy - 1 day ago

  We have always used any opportunity away from the kids (that sounds bad) as a date. Sometimes date night has...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By MoreBlessed - 1 day ago

  I’m still in the first year of this marriage. I’d say 8 because I can always improve. I’m trying to...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By Wheat48 - 1 day ago

  I have been in places of illness where we were very limited, even no PIV. Neither of us were happy...

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By Twue_Wuv - 1 day ago

  We have regular, weekly date nights.  Most weeks, we simply go out to eat and then maybe take a walk...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By Tabitha - 1 day ago

  I find the guilt and expectation that I should be doing better steals the joy of what is working. I...

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By Tabitha - 1 day ago

  We go out to eat and then to one of the big box hardware/gardening stores so I can get some...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By one_woman_man - 1 day ago

  What does one do when they know things can be better and improve, and they feel they should be doing something, but...

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By Happily married - 1 day ago

  Dating Divas have some great and innovative date night ideas. You know your spouse and what she likes. There are...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By Scott+Zelda - 1 day ago

  Over the last year: 8.0. I have put a lot of effort into making our marriage a priority the last...

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  RE: pray for lebanon By one_woman_man - 1 day ago

  So sad.

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By one_woman_man - 1 day ago

  Over the past year: 9 Over the years 1-10: 8 11-20: 7 21-30: 7.5 31-present: 9

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By Happily married - 1 day ago

  Since I'm not a numbers guy it's hard for me to put a number on a scale, but I think...

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By one_woman_man - 1 day ago

  We love having date nights. We usually go out to eat (but with COVID, that has been reduced to ordering...

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  RE: pray for lebanon By frost - 1 day ago

  From my understanding it was an Israel drone strike.

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By luvabug99 - 1 day ago

  DW and I have made date night a priority (at least since our kids came along). It was challenging to...

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By Jpops - 1 day ago

  Most of our date nights are dinner-and-a-movie, we can usually find a movie we both find interesting or entertaining. Sometimes...

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  RE: What do people do on a date night? By newwifenewlife - 1 day ago

  OK, so I'll give a list of things we've done over the years and some other thoughts as well.  Admittedly,...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By SeekingChange - 2 days ago

  Over the past year: 3 The average over our marriage (1/3 pretty good, 1/3 pretty bad, 1/3 bad): 5 I...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By TinyTim - 2 days ago

  Almost 27 years of marriage about a 6. Lots of improvement needed outside of TMB. Inside right it is incomplete...

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  RE: 08/05/2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day By KFunk - 2 days ago

  Years 1-10: 3 10-15: 5 15-20: 7.3 lol Numbers have a +/- range of 1

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By newwifenewlife - 2 days ago

  What does one do when they know things can be better and improve, and they feel they should be doing something,...

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  RE: How to address the younger generation in this area, thru this venue? By Duchess - 2 days ago

  We can also remind ourselves (as I must often do) that the Holy Spirit is active and powerful and purposeful...

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  RE: How to address the younger generation in this area, thru this venue? By Twue_Wuv - 2 days ago

  Don't assume that all trolls are of the "younger" generation.

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By Happily married - 2 days ago

  Great question SC and one perhaps we should be asking our spouse as well as a matter of better understanding...

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  RE: How to address the younger generation in this area, thru this venue? By Happily married - 2 days ago

  Yes, at times it can be a challenge to know if someone is genuine either in asking a question or...

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  RE: Husband Penis too big By MrMarried - 2 days ago

  Someone mentioned it already, but I was going to have a baby (with natural delivery of course.)

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  RE: The effects of pre-marital sex - By georgewhittington - 2 days ago

  Forced premarital sex will cause to mental depression and dilemma. Another danger is possible exchange of diseases; as premarital partners...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By Oldbear - 2 days ago

  @SC is it an intimacy malaise (not just sexual) between you and your DH that’s creating the ‘stuck’ feeling? An...

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  RE: Swallow or not swallow By Liverr - 2 days ago

  In our marriage of 30 plus years, I will swallow on very few (but important times ... like big anniversaries)...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By Oldbear - 2 days ago

  Sexual fantasies come in different packages. Some are simple fleeting thoughts. Others may be recurring notions. A fantasy could a...

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  RE: Resources for the "larger than average" groom or married man? By Janwill - 2 days ago

  On our wedding night the difficulty was more with girth than length, more specifically whether we could squeeze my glans...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By Brynna - 2 days ago

  No, I don't have much for fantasies, at least in the sexual department. Its more like a doable bucket list,...

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  RE: How to address the younger generation in this area, thru this venue? By Rescued - 2 days ago

  Although I am not in the age group you’ve mentioned, I have found myself to be a part of the...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By SeekingChange - 2 days ago

  @sd595, "Why do you think he was asking, primarily for you or primarily for him? " He was just wondering where...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By SongOfAngels - 2 days ago

  That's what i was thinking...contentment.  Sometimes you are forced to feel that way, speaking of my own situation (not to...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By sd595 - 2 days ago

  Why do you think he was asking, primarily for you or primarily for him?  Sometimes I think a question like...

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  RE: How to address the younger generation in this area, thru this venue? By LuckyInLove - 2 days ago

  Two things to consider when evaluating posts like we’ve seen today: 1. Is there an actual question? 2. Is it...

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  RE: How to address the younger generation in this area, thru this venue? By SeekingChange - 2 days ago

  You could be right, there definitely is a communication gap in much of the younger generation, where their main communication...

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  RE: Not satisfied, but also feel stuck. By Scott+Zelda - 2 days ago

  I've asked this before, but I'm going to ask it again--do you want general answers, answers tailored to what we...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By LBD - 2 days ago

  Yep....and they  often cause problems. In fact, almost always cause problems. I don't know if you could or should call...

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  RE: Swallow or not swallow By LBD - 2 days ago

  BlueLi - I have a feeling why you are getting slammed with all the negative votes on your question, but...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By SongOfAngels - 2 days ago

  Yes i certainly do, i have a vivid imagination and am extremely visual and have shared them w/my husband (and...

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  RE: Smaller Penis Size By MrEden - 2 days ago

  This helps more with girth issues than length, but good general advice for any couple is for the wife to...

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  RE: Resources for the "larger than average" groom or married man? By MrEden - 2 days ago

  The problem with the "it's large enough to pass a baby" argument is that it doesn't help a virgin couple...

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  RE: Husband Penis too big By 69greyshades - 2 days ago

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  RE: shaving By Rescued - 2 days ago

  I recommend using a good exfoliating scrub before AND after shaving. I’ve also found that using a men’s razor gives...

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  RE: What do you think about sexual massage instructional videos? By David - 2 days ago

  You're looking at this and asking if it's a bad idea. The tone of your post suggest that the answer...

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  RE: Smaller Penis Size By Scott+Zelda - 2 days ago

  The link shared by dc9 is certainly a good place to start. In terms of "making up" for being on...

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  RE: The effects of pre-marital sex - By Scott+Zelda - 2 days ago

  @LBD: Thanks for bringing up this topic. It helped bring Zelda and I to a good discussion about our past...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By SeekingChange - 2 days ago

  @luvabug99 that's a simple and clear enough definition....I need to take note of it somewhere. Before reading that I was...

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  RE: Smaller Penis Size By dc9 - 2 days ago

  https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/tag/for-the-less-endowed-man/

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  RE: Husband Penis too big By BlueLi - 2 days ago

  Thanks for great feedback yes probably need more time. Lubrications is not a problem I am soaked down there. I...

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  RE: Husband Penis too big By Deano - 2 days ago

  Make sure you spend enough time with foreplay so you are ready for it. Also, invest in some good quality...

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  RE: Is masculinity really toxic? By LBD - 2 days ago

  Could we call the  Spanish Inquisition "Toxic Religion" or even "Toxic Christianity"? (though I personally prefer not to attach Christ's...

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  RE: Husband Penis too big By MrEden - 2 days ago

  My wife is petite and God was good to me (but not THAT good 🙂 ). We had a good...

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  RE: What does "pure" mean? By luvabug99 - 2 days ago

  For me, purity means operating with sexual self-control, and directing all your sexual energy towards your spouse. If you’re not...

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  RE: Husband Penis too big By manalive - 2 days ago

  I'm not so well-endowed, but my DW still had some pain on our honeymoon. Make sure to get plenty aroused...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By luvabug99 - 2 days ago

  Not too long ago, Dr. Allan of Sexy Marriage Radio had a sex researcher named Justin Lehmiller on the show....

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  RE: For the Ladies: How do I get her back? By Duchess - 2 days ago

  @BioTwin: I just noticed you responded to my advice last year and I never saw it. (It was the day...

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  RE: Wife’s favorite activities? By dc9 - 2 days ago

  My wife’s answers (not a member):What are your favorite things (thing meaning position, act, etc.) to do TO/WITH your husband...

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  RE: shaving By frost - 2 days ago

  Women make a video of you shaving your pubic hair. Your man would enjoy watching it.

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By Tim - 3 days ago

  Yes, I have them. Rarely share them. DW is a vanilla, LD, responsive only, but usually willing wife. Sharing fantasies...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By Happily married - 3 days ago

  Yes, yes, and yes. Yes, I have fantasies, and they do involve my DW  and I have shared them with...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By newwifenewlife - 3 days ago

  Wife's not cared for the role play ideas (although she's seemed a little more open to "the cabana boy" with...

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  RE: What do you think about sexual massage instructional videos? By newwifenewlife - 3 days ago

  Why add the temptation to your marriage bed? Why not avoid it go on your own journey together with your...

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  RE: What do you think about sexual massage instructional videos? By Happily married - 3 days ago

  I agree with SC. To quote the robot on the old Lost in Space series back in the day "Danger,...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By Oldbear - 3 days ago

  @Crazydaddy . . .  Woodworking? One of my favorite things to fantasize! Thinking about and fantasizing about designs, techniques, tools,...

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  RE: For the Ladies: How do I get her back? By LuckyInLove - 3 days ago

  @manalive, I’m not a fan of the decision to include singles, esp. when they are giving sex advice, including how...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By LuckyInLove - 3 days ago

  I would say they play a fun part! Yes, we both have them and are very comfortable sharing. However, they...

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  RE: QOTD - 8/4/2020 By Crazydaddy - 3 days ago

  For me, I feel like the word "fantasy" refers to something that isn't real. I prefer to call fantasizing, "daydreaming,"...

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  RE: The effects of pre-marital sex - By Tim - 3 days ago

  "..do your thoughts about sex only, mostly, or occasionally revolve around your spouse?" Mostly It really depends on how our...

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  RE: What do you think about sexual massage instructional videos? By SeekingChange - 3 days ago

  On the actual videos you are speaking of, I believe they are a "bad idea". Though it may not be...

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  RE: What do you think about sexual massage instructional videos? By SeekingChange - 3 days ago

  If you want a massage video without nudity, check out MELT: Massage for Couples. (I would add a link, but...

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  RE: For the Ladies: How do I get her back? By SeekingChange - 3 days ago

  @manalive, when they reformatted TMB, they dropped a lot of the old rules, including the one around singles. Personally, I...

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  RE: For the Ladies: How do I get her back? By manalive - 3 days ago

  If she asks you to stop contacting her, you need to learn from your mistakes and move on. DO NOT...

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  RE: The effects of pre-marital sex - By newwifenewlife - 3 days ago

  Yep, we’ll said manalive.. Exactly my point. When we regularly have sexual relations with our spouse, they are the one...

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  RE: Is masculinity really toxic? By georgewhittington - 3 days ago

  Toxic masculinity, as a social phenomenon, makes sense. Toxic masculinity doesn't exist. Traits that one person considers toxic, may not...

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  RE: What does "pure" mean? By Eleven0clock - 3 days ago

  This is difficult to answer as it has possible cultural/denominational nuance and could vary a huge amount according to each...

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  RE: What does "pure" mean? By Nova - 3 days ago

  In this context, "pure" is generally understood to mean "virgin," with the intent to remain a virgin until marriage.

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  RE: What does "pure" mean? By SeekingChange - 3 days ago

  Pure to me is filtered through the blood of Jesus, someone who is washed in the blood of the Lamb,...

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  RE: QOTD - 7-27-2020- What's your ideal amount of time spent in sexual activity? By manalive - 3 days ago

  It's hard to state an ideal when the circumstances are always different. But our experience is: Quickies: 5-8 minutes Midweek:...

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  RE: Is masculinity really toxic? By manalive - 3 days ago

  No, masculinity is not toxic any more than sex is filthy. Masculinity is powerful, so it can be twisted and...

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  RE: My wife reads erotica on her phone and tries to cover it up. Should i confront her about it? By Scott+Zelda - 3 days ago

  As people who have been around TMB for more than a few months may remember, I'm definitely not a fan...

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  RE: The effects of pre-marital sex - By manalive - 3 days ago

  I was a virgin, and even a porn-virgin (not sure if that's a phrase) when we got married four years...

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  RE: Experiences writing erotic stories for one's spouse - the good and the bad By mcgruff - 3 days ago

  Thanks for the thoughts, @Eleven0clock and @Duchess. I understand what you mean about worrying about embarrassment. I had worried a...

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  RE: My wife reads erotica on her phone and tries to cover it up. Should i confront her about it? By LBD - 3 days ago

  Ditto on the “seek understanding first” thoughts.  Hiding it from you is telling. It would seem to indicate that she...

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  RE: My wife reads erotica on her phone and tries to cover it up. Should i confront her about it? By rediron - 3 days ago

  write hot married erotica that you could fullfill, and send it to her, as you do suggestions, or any other...

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  RE: The effects of pre-marital sex - By Brynna - 3 days ago

  A very good question, @LBD. I have often wondered some of these things, myself. Raised in a very conservative household,...

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  RE: QOTD - 8-3-2020-What was the first time you experienced deep arousal around your spouse? By Tracker - 3 days ago

  Deep not likely ever too darn old. Arousal second date kiss.