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  • Queen bed Asked on April 8, 2020 in Activities & Items .

      My schedule has changed – laid off on my Chinese delivery job, getting mega overtime at grocery store (3rd shift stocker)

      We’re usually together between 3-8pm, but frequency is still rather low.

      “DW, we’re like one of those old married couples, when we’re in bed together, we’d rather be sleeping than ML.”

      (19 years married on Thursday)

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    • Queen bed Asked on April 4, 2020 in Question of the Day.

        Three states in 19 years.

        We don’t get out much.

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      • My wife and I are both in essential industries – working different shifts at the same grocery store.

        However, I was laid off from my second job – delivery driver for a Chinese restaurant.

        So, there’s a larger window when we’re both home at the same time.

        Sadly, it hasn’t changed the frequency of ML.

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      • Queen bed Asked on April 4, 2020 in Question of the Day.

          Make very very sure that no one else is downstairs, because things are about to get 🔥🔥🔥.
          Then oral on her …

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        • Queen bed Asked on April 4, 2020 in Question of the Day.

            If it’s (tell me something or lose the friends), “Our most frequent position is missionary, but there’s something beautiful about woman-on-top … Oh yeah, that’s DW”

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          • In the last five weeks before the big day, DW and I crossed several lines – pretty much did anything that could be done with my 👖 on.

            DW was my first real girlfriend, my first (everything sexual), and is now my first (and current) wife.
            She had a rocky past. She left an abusive relationship when she was three months pregnant.
            Early in our engagement, she thought that it would take her a long time to warm up to making love with me.

            We enjoyed what we did, although there were times that I wondered if I’d went too far, or if there was a line between kissing and foreplay that was the line between ok and sin.
            She told me that she was willing to trust me on which lines I wanted to cross.

            We saved PiV for our wedding night.

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          • Queen bed Asked on December 31, 2019 in Marriage Books, Resources, Sites .

              Picked it up sometime in the first three months we were married, back when we were young and no one knew who Tom Brady was.

              Book format : 50 sealed envelopes for him to initiate, 50 sealed envelopes for her to initiate, 1 grand finale. Each envelope has ideas, some can be done very cheaply, some take more $$$, preparation, and or time. I remember a few ideas, but none that I recall were morally objectionable.

              For my DW and me, it didn’t really work. Combination of factors including DW’s comfort zone, low income at that time, and scheduling around jobs and our 1yo DD.

              That and me, her, bed, 3-4x a week was sufficient for newlyweds in early 20s…


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            • Queen bed Asked on December 11, 2019 in Theology of Sex .

                Putting together a few thoughts from what I’ve been taught and what I’ve read recently, including
                Gregoire, Davidsonn (link from both TLHV article and another poster), Jordan (, and Clarke (

                1) Narrator of 2 Samuel points out David as the one mostly or entirely in the wrong. From where he was (not leading his armies) to his actions with Bathsheba, Uriah, and Joab, to the end of chapter 11, “But the thing David had done displeased the Lord.”, to Nathan calling out David but not Bathsheba.
                Narrator pointing out that Bathsheba is keeping the law with ceremonial bathing may be a contrast, showing who is righteous and who is not.

                2) Being the granddaughter of David’s advisor, and the daughter of one of David’s great warriors (and husband of another), Bathsheba would have been more acquainted with David than the average resident of Jerusalem. She would’ve known of his exploits and also of his anger – see the Nabal incident in 1 Samuel 25.
                This can be read either as additional coercion – she thinking she dare not deny the King anything, not even her body; or read as additional persuasion – she thinking he’s all that and a cake of raisins, willingly accepting his advances.

                3) Hebrew has a word for forcible rape – it’s not used in this case.

                4) Definitely an age difference in this scenario. Jordan makes a case that David is about 50 and Bathsheba about 21. (Yuck) 🤢

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              • Queen bed Asked on December 10, 2019 in Theology of Sex .

                  In regards to Mary and Joseph, our Catholic sisters and brothers believe that Mary remained a virgin for her entire life, and lean towards a theory that the “brothers and sisters of Jesus” mentioned in the Gospels are children of Joseph from a previous marriage.
                  Which would mean that Joseph had enjoyed the “be fruitful and multiply” before, but didn’t with the mother of our Lord…
                  (Not Catholic, don’t think it happened this way, but some do.)

                  I heard a podcast in which the guest said that a better translation for concubine in Genesis should’ve been womb-slave, in which their function in that society was merely to provide children… Ugh.

                  Poor Abraham and Sarah. Thinking about them coming together after the angel’s arrival… So much disappointment and the cultural shame of barrenness, especially for Sarah, now that they knew that Abraham was able to father a child. At some point, they’d both be wondering “is this the time” against years of maybe, maybe…nope.

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                • Queen bed Asked on December 9, 2019 in No Category.

                    Sunday, before ⛪, before kids are awake.

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