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  • I’ve looked into this as well, but I generally take my own. I understand what you are saying about the photos almost being more about your own self confidence rather than something you do for your DH (but of course, it’s a lovely benefit for them as well!). I have not done them, but if I did, I would choose a female who specialized in it and I would research thoroughly. One of the funny/unexpected things about boudoir photos is that you are rarely completely nude, or even half nude, it’s all about the suggestion or possibility of what DH could see.

    For me, the appeal of these sort of photos, done in a tasteful way, means my sexual self isn’t dirty. This is opposite of what I was raised to believe (sex is gross,  women only have sex to have babies, sex is only for men, etc).

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  • King bed Asked on October 17, 2019 in Non-Sexual Romance .

      I love the idea of planning a cooking date! I’m not a chef by any means, but I love cooking and I enjoy making my family melt away because of an amazing dinner. It’s 100 times more pleasant if DH is genuinely pleased. And I’m not even Italian!

      Where we live grilling outdoors and eating dinner outdoors in fall is lovely! Especially taking our time, maybe with a glass of wine…. Anyhow, I could imagine a grilled steak with a side I make and call a fall harvest salad. I get a butternut squash, skin it and cut it into bite sized squares. I roast this in the oven with a bit of olive oil. Once cooked, softened and cooled, I add this to a salad of spinach, VERY thinly sliced green apples, pepitas (pumpkin seeds), and raisins or dried cranberries. The final touch is some yummy salty shavings of a good quality parmesan cheese on top. The salad dressing for this is a basic homemade balsamic dressing, 1 TBSP each of balsamic, olive oil, dijon mustard, maple syrup and apple cider vinegar, then add chopped garlic and salt and pepper to taste. Whisk or stir thoroughly and it’s done.  Dessert? Dark chocolate and strawberries in bed :).

      In fall, I’m really craving soups and stews, but those can leave me feeling really full and heavy. Maybe, if I was planning a special meal with the idea of moving to the bedroom, I’d half the portions. There’s nothing better than a yummy creamy potato soup with onion, celery, peas, ham or bacon (or both!), and cheese. But maybe half the portion and add a crisp salad on the side. Here’s a version I like. I normally make this with leftover ham from Thanksgiving, but it’s delicious whenever, just pick a cooked ham with lots of flavor.

      https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/56927/delicious-ham-and-potato-soup/

      Pinterest is a good place to look for recipes, as well as allrecipes.com. I’m a savory person and can’t help you much when it comes to desserts or sweets, but you might find ideas from others. I hope you find just the right meal to enjoy together!

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    • Check the latest answers before you further your correspondence, SC…

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    • @MarriageBed2020, I got your PM but I didn’t and don’t feel comfortable answering privately after this display… You seem very persistent in the area regarding mirrors in the bedroom. It’s not rocket science, just put a large mirror where you and your W will get a good view from wherever you choose.  I just hope you are here for the right reasons. Any moderators, feel free to check my PM’s and any activity, this is actually quite disturbing and makes me hesitant to contribute.

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    • King bed Asked on October 9, 2019 in Desire Problems (men and women).

        Medications prescribed to treat conditions generally attributed to an excess in weight, i.e. hypertension, can also effect drive.

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      • King bed Asked on October 9, 2019 in Question of the Day.

          We’re boring too, but only if you base that on strange locations!

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        • King bed Asked on October 8, 2019 in Sexually Refused .

            I’m sorry that you are going through this. As a former refuser and gatekeeper myself, I’ve seen in hindsight the results of rejection and neglect. Is seeing a professional counselor an option?

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          • King bed Asked on October 8, 2019 in Question of the Day.

              We just discussed this yesterday. For me it helps that DH sends me texts throughout the day. I never asked for this, he’s just always done so. I’m a quality time person, so it lifts me up that I’m on his mind when we’re apart. Sometimes it’s racy stuff, sometimes benign, but either way it helps the connection.

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            • This goes along with a few podcasts from Sex Chat for Christian Wives! I’ve enjoyed hearing them talk about the differences for men and women and how us wives can learn to appreciate those differences more.

              If I had to give a percentage of the time that I am able to shut out the world around me and shut off my mind to enjoy the moment, it would be 20% completely immersed and the rest would be thinking “please please don’t let the kids need something right now” or “maybe if I move my leg over here and tilt my hips like that…”.

              But then again, I generally have to focus fairly intensely to the sensations in order to O, so maybe it’s more of an issue during foreplay and I’m able to switch it off as I’m building up to the O? Yes, I think that’s more likely to be the case.

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            • King bed Asked on October 7, 2019 in Other (Other non-sexual marriage issues.).

                @Seeking Change, I like that your study is making you think about respect, it’s an area many of us women would benefit to understand more.  But maybe this situation isn’t that bad? I’m trying to imagine if my DH would be offended if I reacted the way you did, but I don’t believe so, unless there was some other issue going on with us. He would only get offended if I said “text me”.  But then again, that sounds like it would be an acceptable thing to say to your H, since that is his way of keeping track of to-do’s. I do think I’d pause and ask if it’s a pressing issue or not, or I’d revisit it later.

                I think I misread your initial post for some reason. I went down the path that you were prioritizing your DIL’s sister’s problems over your H. I have done this in the past in similar situations and it leaves me so out of sorts thinking about it that I’m not emotionally invested in my H. I really had to curb my “free therapy” with a particular friend bc it became an emotional drain on me. Anyhow, that’s where the disconnect was!

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