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  • California King Asked on March 16, 2020 in None of The Above.

    The effects of social distancing are starting to take effect now. Our governor closed restaurants for eat-in customers. I mentioned to Wifey that we probably shouldn’t see her Dad for the next few weeks since he had bypass surgery two weeks ago. Her anxiety went sky high last night; she doesn’t do change well and normalcy is changing pretty rapidly. Stay safe everybody!

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  • California King Asked on March 10, 2020 in Question of the Day.

      Oral for me is something I long for and hope will eventually be a part of our MB. I love giving Wifey oral delight and would gladly do so any time she wanted. Alas, I am the one who asks if I can enjoy her dessert, and it’s probably a 25/75 chance that she allows it.

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    • California King Asked on March 9, 2020 in None of The Above.

      We’re a little more insistent about our kids washing their hands, especially after interacting with other kids at school and church. Our biggest concern is secondary infection with Wifey’s dad who just had open heart surgery, and with Wifey who is taking a low dose immunosuppressant for an arthritic disorder. Other than that, we’re not overly concerned.

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    • California King Asked on March 5, 2020 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .

        We are most certainly geeks, although I’m a little deeper into geek culture than Wifey is. I am likewise an engineer, but aerospace rather that electrical. I made it through my one EE class in college by thinking about current flow as an incompressible fluid through a network of pipes. Wifey is a self-described nerd because she was more into book fandom as a kid.

        Our top fandoms are:

        Harry Potter; we started reading The Sorcerer’s Stone with the kids as our bedtime story

        Superhero movies (Marvel and DC),

        Firefly; we love Nathan Fillion as an actor, we both really liked Castle until they messed with the storylines

        I grew up with Star Wars, Wifey grew up in a Trekkie family, but we enjoy both

        In book fandom we split, Wifey is a Twilight fan and every few years will pick them up and read them again. I love the Ender’s Game and Shadow series by Orson Scott Card. We both also liked the Percy Jackson series, but Rick Riordan started pushing a pro-LGBT agenda in the later books that we didn’t care for.

        I’ve described AEs as jacks-of-all-trades, masters-of-none so I can pretty much connect with any fandom. I’m conversationally fluent in Pokémon and Dr. Who, and have friends who are big into tabletop gaming. I was big into simulation and RPG games as a kid, I could talk about Sim City layout strategies or Diablo 2 character builds for longer than people would feel comfortable.


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      • We have added this as a part of our sexual experience, but it is usually a downgrade from a request for a more mutually interactive experience. Sometimes she is more present in the experience and is more willing to touch and kiss me during. This is more what I am actually wanting, passion and intentional pursuit of mutual sexual connection. Like sex without penetration, but still have an orgasm. When Wifey is only able to be physically present next to me without being a participant, it does feel a bit awkward. In those times I think I’d rather MB in the shower alone because the lack of connection hurts.

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      • California King Asked on March 3, 2020 in Question of the Day.

          When I found Christian resources about sex and understood how God designed sex as an emotional and spiritual connection, I tried to force the same epiphany on Wifey and create a sexual awakening. I saved probably over 100 blog posts with notes and organized them into different categories for discussions I wanted to have. Mostly I wanted to justify myself and show her that I wasn’t the sex crazed monster she thought I was and that my desire for her was good and designed by God.

          I totally screwed up 1st Peter 3:7, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

          I didn’t understand Wifey’s struggles with depression, anxiety, and poor self-image. I thought that since she was on depression medication that it was taken care of and that she was choosing to ignore me. I strong-armed her into doing the Passion Pursuit study online with The Forgiven Wife blogger which just put more pressure on her. She quit after a few weeks.

          Now Wifey is on a medication that is actually helping. We’re working together to understand her rediagnosis of Bipolar 2 and better ways to communicate. I still screw up often, but I’m getting better.

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        • California King Asked on February 25, 2020 in Question of the Day.

            When we were first married I would occasionally fondle Wifey in a semi asleep state. Usually she told me to go back to sleep, but every once in a while she would be receptive. Nowadays it is not received well and if I awake with an erection I take care of it myself to avoid waking her. I have to slowly test the waters throughout the day to see if she is receptive to sexual advances. On the flip side, I would love it if Wifey woke me for sex or sexual activity, but it doesn’t happen.

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          • I agree with what others have posted, 25% sounds skewed somehow. Wifey and I only sleep apart when I travel for work, which is rare. We’ve slept in bunk beds when staying at my parents house, which was kinda fun!

            My grandparents slept in the same full sized bed their entire marriage. They had 5 kids, no wonder when you’d just be bumping into each other all night! When my Grampa was dying of cancer she offered to sleep in one of the other rooms and he replied, “We’ve slept in the same bed for 40 years and we’re not sleeping in separate beds now!”

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          • California King Asked on February 2, 2020 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .

              Wifey started going gray in her early 20s. Her grandmother was completely white by the time she was 40, and Wifey is following the genetic trend. She colored it for a few years, but in the last 2 has embraced the gray. She’s about 50-60% gray now. There’s a Facebook page called “gray and proud” that she follows for encouragement.

              My perspective is that I’d rather see her in all of her natural God-given glory than have her hair covered up. I’m the same way about makeup.

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            • California King Asked on February 1, 2020 in Senior Sex.

                The worst sex is the sex that doesn’t happen. The rain check that gets forgotten, or the response, “we can try” which really means “you’re going to have to remind me several times tonight” or “I’m going to stall going upstairs so maybe you’ll be too tired or forget”

                The second-worst sex is the disengaged, bump-on-a-log participant.

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