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  • California King Asked 2 days ago in Question of the Day.

      When we were first married I would occasionally fondle Wifey in a semi asleep state. Usually she told me to go back to sleep, but every once in a while she would be receptive. Nowadays it is not received well and if I awake with an erection I take care of it myself to avoid waking her. I have to slowly test the waters throughout the day to see if she is receptive to sexual advances. On the flip side, I would love it if Wifey woke me for sex or sexual activity, but it doesn’t happen.

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    • I agree with what others have posted, 25% sounds skewed somehow. Wifey and I only sleep apart when I travel for work, which is rare. We’ve slept in bunk beds when staying at my parents house, which was kinda fun!

      My grandparents slept in the same full sized bed their entire marriage. They had 5 kids, no wonder when you’d just be bumping into each other all night! When my Grampa was dying of cancer she offered to sleep in one of the other rooms and he replied, “We’ve slept in the same bed for 40 years and we’re not sleeping in separate beds now!”

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    • California King Asked on February 2, 2020 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .

        Wifey started going gray in her early 20s. Her grandmother was completely white by the time she was 40, and Wifey is following the genetic trend. She colored it for a few years, but in the last 2 has embraced the gray. She’s about 50-60% gray now. There’s a Facebook page called “gray and proud” that she follows for encouragement.

        My perspective is that I’d rather see her in all of her natural God-given glory than have her hair covered up. I’m the same way about makeup.

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      • California King Asked on February 1, 2020 in Senior Sex.

          The worst sex is the sex that doesn’t happen. The rain check that gets forgotten, or the response, “we can try” which really means “you’re going to have to remind me several times tonight” or “I’m going to stall going upstairs so maybe you’ll be too tired or forget”

          The second-worst sex is the disengaged, bump-on-a-log participant.

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        • California King Asked on January 18, 2020 in Question of the Day.

            I have to admit I am jealous of the husbands of the wives on TMB. You all are actively reading, studying, and discussing how to strengthen and enjoy the sexual side of your relationship. Your husbands are truly lucky men.

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          • #2 for sure, and that’s before I read the comments!

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          • California King Asked on January 5, 2020 in Question of the Day.

              2019 was hard. The rollercoaster of Wifey’s medical issues and mental health exploration caused a lot of chaos and stress that I have to absorb so to lessen the effect on Wifey. Lots of family drama with my sister over my special needs nephew. I love my job, but it is mentally taxing.

              The good:

              We found answers for Wifey and medications/therapy are helping.

              My in-laws moved to be closer to us which has helped a ton.

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            • California King Asked on January 5, 2020 in Question of the Day.

                I am an afterthought, alone, unnoticed.

                Wifey will never pursue me sexually. That my needs and desires to feel wanted will never be fulfilled.

                I can’t rely on Wifey. If something needs done, I must do it myself. I must be self sufficient because no one is looking out for me.

                A fulfilling sex life is for other people, not me.

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              • California King Asked on December 17, 2019 in Pornography .

                  I think it matters why porn is being used. In my case I was medicating loneliness and seeking a feeling of being wanted. I probably wouldn’t have been able to express that as a teen or into my 20s. It’s only by revelation by the Holy Spirit that I’ve been able to understand why porn has/had its effect on me.

                  Because I was using porn to fill a legitimate need for connection, responses of being caught ultimately led to me laying low for a bit and being more careful. I’m not proud to admit that. I certainly felt conviction and shame, and vowed to do better, pray more, etc, but satan knows how to push all the right buttons to lure me back. It wasn’t until I reached my breaking point and learned more about how God wired sex in men for emotional connection that I was able to understand why porn was such a strong issue for me.

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                • California King Asked on November 28, 2019 in Activities & Items .

                  We are on different pages too. Wifey is terrified someone will hear us and the added stress of the holidays makes it harder for her to get her mind in the right space for sex. For me, being well rested and spending more time with Wifey causes my desire for the intimacy and closeness of sex to accelerate. Weekends, holidays, and vacations are all hard for me.

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