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  • Queen bed Asked on March 14, 2020 in Question of the Day.

      Being a woman, I know it’s possible to be emotional and logical at the same time. Emotions can get in the way if we’re not careful, but I’ve found that being emotional/passionate about something makes me more inclined to think it through and find answers. When Ravi Zacharias said that women are as logical as men, yet associate emotion with the thought, I knew exactly what he was talking about!

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    • Praying for you and your husband!

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    • I hang clothes on racks, sometimes outside and sometimes inside. Usually the only place I hang bras/underwear is in our bedroom. IMO they look out of place even around the house. My aunt had a bra hanging up in her house and a guy came to work on the furnace or something– and there was the bra by itself! And my husband says his mom used to leave bras around the house, I guess not really hanging but she would just take them off randomly. Lol!

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    • My husband used to work with a guy who shared immodest pictures of his wife, just to make other men jealous. I think it’s crazy that some worldly men do that, because it seems like they would want to keep their wives to themselves. My husband thinks he can understand men showing off their wives, even though of course he would never share anything indecent like the guy at work.

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    • Queen bed Asked on November 8, 2019 in The G-spot & Female Ejaculation.

        FE = female ejaculation? I do think sometimes it’s just stimulation that makes it wetter.

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      • Queen bed Asked on November 5, 2019 in Activities & Items .

          We haven’t really done a romantic atmosphere other than  a dim light at night. For me it’s about us being close, and for my husband I sometimes “dress up.”

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        • Queen bed Asked on September 25, 2019 in Question of the Day.

            Yes, I’ve had ups and downs in pregnancy and postpartum, but the biggest change was when I intentionally spent more time thinking about my husband. Thoughts make a huge difference!

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          • Queen bed Asked on September 21, 2019 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .

              We met through friends at a Christian college. My first memory of him is when he had a plate with about 12 biscuits. Lol! During the first 2 years he was just an acquaintance. Then one day he sat next to me during a college meeting and I started to like him. But there was another guy I liked during the time (not dating) and I was annoyed with myself for liking someone else… crazy because there was no commitment or even friendship with the other guy. It wasn’t much longer before I realized God had other plans.

              First impressions- I liked how we both had an interest in missions.

              Dating to engagement was 1 year.

              Engagement was 8 months.

              Wouldn’t change a thing, but there are some things I’m glad we did do. We prayed about God’s will, and each saw answers to prayer about each other. We didn’t touch at all–until the wedding rehearsal, when I turned around and saw the bridesmaids & groomsmen walking hand in arm, and my husband & I were separate (lol!). So then we went with the flow. 

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            • Queen bed Asked on September 20, 2019 in Prayer Needs/Praises (Any and all prayer request and praises.).

                Update: Things have been pretty good, but I could use prayers today for mutual understanding.

                So my husband and I are trying to conceive again, and he’s very mechanical about it, not romantic… for example, not looking at me or kissing, etc. I think it’s because when we got married 8 years ago, it took us a long time to figure things out, and as we were trying to having children, my husband naturally learned to separate “work” from romance. (One part of it is having a different position, so hopefully we can work that out.)

                This time around, I’m more affected by how mechanical/unromantic it is, and I ended up crying while telling my husband about it. He thought my talking & crying were a problem rather than part of the solution, and didn’t understand. Male/female difference! It wasn’t an argument or anything, there were no hard feelings, it’s just a hurdle in communication. So today I need prayer for wisdom as we talk about this. 

                By the way, when we talked last night he was fine with the idea of making it more romantic, so I know he would do it for me. But he has the mindset of “getting it over with” when we’re ttc, and it’s a distraction for him.

                On a positive note, I’m so thankful for the things God is doing. One day I was thinking maybe I should give up talking about things like this with my husband, but 3 times I felt God strongly show me not to give up, and that day I saw an answer to prayer! He has a plan and I’m sure He will bring understanding this time too.

                I pray that you’re all doing well & would love to hear more updates!

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              • Queen bed Asked on September 20, 2019 in Marriage Roles, Headship/Submission, Unsaved .

                  Thanks for the help! 

                  There are a couple things I didn’t mention about her situation.

                  Her husband wants her to say “yes sir” and she was wondering if she should do that. I know it’s biblical (1 Peter 3:6) but it seems like a nice thing for a wife to choose to say, not really something he should make her say. Not that she should disobey, but this is just one of the things bothering her.

                  The other thing is, she wondered what to do if he says not to talk about it, because one time she tried talking about it and he shut down the conversation. (Yikes!) This is the most concerning thing to me, because if there’s ever a time he tells her never to talk about it again, they’re stuck. And what if he’s not willing to get outside help?

                  All of these things are recent and he’s not too much into it. I really hope he doesn’t end up doing DD (domestic discipline). My issue with DD boils down to the separation of husband & wife. They’re one flesh but DDers are not treating their wives that way.

                  When a man disciplines his wife with spanking or grounding, he’s usually not sharing in it as far as I’ve heard, even though his wife is like his own body (Ephesians 5). Physical abuse could be a risk, but I know that some men do it carefully. And honestly I’d rather be spanked than grounded.

                  I saw on a website where one man says he cancels date nights when his wife does something wrong, leaving her alone. That’s anything but unity! He should at least stay home with his wife. He’s not really treating her like they’re one flesh.

                  SLS is right on about headship & the wife being equal.  One misunderstanding that leads to issues like this is what it really means for a man to be the “head.” The Bible says he is head of the body, head of the woman (Eph 5:23, 1 Cor 11:3) but it doesn’t say “head of the family” because then the wife is lumped together with the children. His authority shouldn’t be in a way that treats his wife as a separate person.

                  Her feeling like a daughter just sounds unromantic and disconnected.

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