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California King
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  • California King Asked on January 25, 2020 in Question of the Day.

      I guess we are longer than average then. I’ve never purposely timed it but if we both are enjoying it we can stretch it out a while in the right position. I think we have exceeded an hour a few times. I would guess it’s usually 15 to 30 minutes. If we had more frequent sex I think we would shorten it up.

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    • Too much reading for someone with the flu but I’ll be checking back later. This is my experience that I learn and just store it away and hope for an opportunity to talk about it. Not so easy. I don’t put a time schedule on it.

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    • Similarly, I determined that this would be my theme Bible passage for the year.

      Philippians 2:1-11
      Christ’s Example of Humility
      So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

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    • California King Asked on January 22, 2020 in Question of the Day.

        3 weeks one time was the longest. I felt sick I missed my wife and kids so much. It really hit me after week 2. Too long. For the longest time away, we did talk every day and I managed to go the entire time without masturbating so the homecoming was quite a relief. We are apart for one week on occasion but never more.

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      • California King Asked on January 17, 2020 in Question of the Day.

          Yes, and oral was part of it. I have never received it in 24 years of marriage. Once or twice prior to, but not in the marriage where it is free from sin guilt. There are other aspects that we are still working on.

          The difference for me is cherishing my bride and being thankful for what we do have, and improvements that I have seen as we have drawn closer to each other over the past year. It has been my prayer that I maintain an attitude where I consider my wife ahead of myself. When I keep this mindset, I stop comparing. Gary Thomas was talking about cherishing our spouse with an Adam and Eve mindset. She is the only woman in the world for me, so how can I compare her to anyone else?

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        • I often find the morning after a little bit difficult, like I opened the floodgates. DW isn’t a morning person and TMB is the one place where we have agreed that it is okay for me to M, put the two together and it’s the morning after sex that I often want to take care of myself the most. DW wanted me to stop. She said it was for the better for both of us. I respected her wishes but it left me confused. She said it was just too soon. I think maybe it makes her feel like she can’t satisfy me.

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        • California King Asked on January 13, 2020 in SINGLE.

            Every thought. The guilt I feel is when I’m okay with being entertained by sin. While we can’t say that touching yourself is sinful, the issue is always a matter of the mind. I say mind before heart u we choose to entertain the wrong thoughts, and in time I believe it sets in our hearts.

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          • California King Asked on January 13, 2020 in SINGLE.

              2 Corinthians 10:5
              We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,

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            • California King Asked on January 6, 2020 in Theology of Sex .

                Why is it there? First in context it is for the Corinthians. What are the conditions? Corinth was one of the largest cities in the Roman Empire. A hub of immortality, Paul addresses sexual sin in the church in chapters 5 and again in the latter part of chapter 6. In chapter 7, Paul follows these points to address issues that they had written him for clarification (see verse 1). Paul points to marital relations as an alternative to avoid temptation to sexual immorality. Verse 2-5 display an equality between the sexes in the most intimate area of the marriage relationship that was most likely unheard of at the time. To end verse 5, we see that the reason Satan is able to tempt anyone in this area is because of a lack of self control. This again enforced the immaturity of the faith of the Corinthians. I think it parallels many of us in our culture, and I have seen this immaturity in myself as well. That is why it is important to be dependent on God and walk in the spirit, and pray that we might display the fruit of the spirit. When we do so, we won’t be so focused on self to even notice that our spouse isn’t keeping up with our demands. This is a much more important spiritual problem that we face than a spouse who we determine isn’t obeying this text. But if we match the immaturity of the Corinthians and we just can’t help ourselves, take it as literal as you’d like in applying it.

                What does it mean to me? We are sinners, we are prone to wander, we are easily led astray. I also read it for myself. It is a command for me. I can’t read it for my wife. For the record I did try that once and never again! I’ll let God speak to her through His word without my interference.

                How has it shaped my marriage? When I feel deprived but I know that all DW needs is a good back rub, I can give and do not grudgingly but in obedience to Christ. I can get lost in the joy of meeting my wife’s needs. When I have the right mindset, I can forget about myself at times. It’s not always easy or natural but I do believe it has a direct correlation to how well I depend on Jesus at any given time. John 15 makes it clear that apart from Him we can do nothing. So when we live our lives in bitterness and nothing is happening as far as spiritual fruit we display, we know why. If all the law can be fulfilled with the commandment to love one another, that would include this text. I know that my wife loves me. She gives of herself the best way that she can. Does it match the frequency that I desire? No it doesn’t. How does love deal with it? I try to meet her needs including the tasks that may stand in the way, take time for her when it’s not about sex, listen to her, care about her feelings, complement her and cherish her, do things she enjoys, and realize that this is a real woman, not a porn star or a fantasy. Many of us come out of equally immoral backgrounds as the Corinthians, and that I think is why this verse is so alluring for us. It justifies our lack of self control. We use it to put the emphasis on what our spouse isn’t doing instead of seeing the equality in the passage and recognize our need to show spiritual fruit.

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              • California King Asked on January 5, 2020 in Theology of Sex .

                  The Christian life I know does what it says plainly. What it doesn’t do is clobber a spouse over the head with it so that they can get their way. I will never deny my wife her marital rights. Turn it around, she will deny me at times. But there can still be joy if we keep a Phillipians 2 mindset of humility and servanthood. Let our interests not be focused on ourselves but on others. Can we love as Christ loves? Yes, to a degree if we depend on Him, daily in His Word and prayer. This is part of the humility of the Christian. We tend to view independence as virtuous, but we must depend on God and realize our need to be spirit filled. Without His work in us, we will quickly chase after the flesh and selfishness.

                  It’s important to communicate about unmatched drives, but at the end of the day, we do better to read and lead by example. I have tried read and force feed from the Bible and it isn’t productive and likely doesn’t come from a pure motive.

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