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  • Queen bed Asked on February 23, 2020 in Sexual Abuse (How do married couples cope with the fallout?).

      You are not wrong for wanting to have sex or be physically and emotionally intimate with your spouse. Been there many many times. There’s more to process and explore I’m sure. But so long as it won’t cause you to be tempted to look outside your marriage bed (I’m considering your previous responses) it may be a good idea to go out and at least take a walk or a breather anyway.

      If you have the Bible app on your phone, I’ve found it personally helpful to get fresh air and reflect on portions of scripture (Or stare out at your incredible view, or jot down some reflections of your frustration). Matthew 11 is an amazing reflection of God’s desire to shoulder your worries and offer to take in His own light burdens. It’s an invitation to a new identity and reality of your whole, real being.

      Just a couple of ideas to try, not an attempt to try to offer any legalistic to-dos. I’ll pray for you and your bride tonight. Happy birthday

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    • Queen bed Asked on February 20, 2020 in Activities & Items .

        LOVE this idea! I’ll try it out and see how DW responds. I’d love to finish with some king cake! 😋

        Been to NOLA a couple times and I was surprised to learn from locals that Mardi Gras is actually a very family celebration, especially given its historically religious roots. Of course, all we usually see is the Bourbon Street side of it. Anyone from New Orleans out there?

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      • Queen bed Asked on February 18, 2020 in Theology of Sex .

        Disclaimer: I hold the view that Song of Solomon is wisdom poetry that provides a beautifully unique view into the MB. It’s ok if we differ on this view. For the sake of conversation, try to entertain the view. Either way, what a glorious book!

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      • Queen bed Asked on February 18, 2020 in Question of the Day.

          – First time seeing my gorgeous bride step out of our hotel bathroom in lingerie on our wedding night.
          – First time removing her top as my bride and taking in her physical beauty as the girl with whom I’d get to spend my life.
          – Later years, first time she guided my hand to help her reach O. It was and is so sexy to me, especially given her consistent shyness in our MB. Drives me crazy every time!
          – Last year when she let me perform OS until she climaxed for the first time from OS. She was hesitant to let me and hasn’t let me since, but it was amazing!
          – Last year when she we agreed to leave light on and she was reverse cowgirl and I got an amazing view of everything. That is certainly one of my most memorable and cherished moments in our MB. 😊

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        • Praying for healing on your body, praying for pain to subside, and praying for wisdom from the doctors, all in Jesus’ name

          This answer accepted by workerbee. on February 16, 2020 Earned 15 points.

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        • Queen bed Asked on February 16, 2020 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .

          I try to be intentional about us sharing our expectations and I genuinely care that she has a good time. We usually end up happily compromising with each other and DW appreciates planning ahead.

          My DW is LD and we’ve learned that sex or physical intimacy ought never be assumed. I can look back and smile about it now, but it was tough for the first few years.

          Communication (CLEAR communication!) is important for us. This is especially the case when traveling. We are both fun-loving extroverts who love to travel. I have an active imagination and physical touch is my love language, so a great time or a fun shared experience always feels like it should naturally culminate with physical intimacy, sex in particular.

          (I say “should” because that’s my natural response, but I’m not saying my wife should “put out” whenever we have a good time. I do my best to be reasonable 😁.)

          Alternatively, my DW loves the quality time and that’s often sufficient for her to have a great time and feel loved. Communication on the front end always seems like a good idea for us.

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        • Queen bed Asked on February 16, 2020 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .

          PS. I’d REALLY love to get out of this darned “double bed” so I appreciate you for responding! 😆

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        • Queen bed Asked on September 17, 2019 in Question of the Day.

            I enjoyed thinking hard about this one and I’m settling on bottomless. Legs, mound, bottom, I’ll take it all in.
            I hope this isn’t one of those “…for the rest of your life” would-you-rathers!

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          • Queen bed Asked on September 16, 2019 in Question of the Day.

              As frequency and openness has increased in our marriage the past several weeks, I have thought about this question multiple times 😄
              We’ve not done either, but I think I would like to try in the kitchen because of the bright lighting in our kitchen, and the opportunity to prop my bride up on a counter top for multiple options of providing pleasure for her. We aren’t there yet, though… but maybe I will just go for it and try it out soon! Or at least I can ask her this question and see what she says.

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            • Queen bed Asked on September 16, 2019 in Other (Other non-sexual marriage issues.).

                Amen! This is actually my favorite element of this website. Even if we come from different backgrounds and vary on theology, we are united by the blood of Christ. Sharing, mourning, encouraging, journeying together as we grow in oneness with our bride or groom is a glorious part of the beauty of being the Bride of Christ.

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