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  • Queen bed Asked on June 25, 2020 in Question of the Day.

      We both love to camp and hike. Hopefully we’ll get an opportunity to go this summer without the kids for at least a day or so!

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    • Best decision we ever made. My wife has a blood factor that adds a blood clot risk if she were to take any hormonal birth control. So that meant using condoms, which were OK, but neither of us really liked.

      No problems at all.

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    • Queen bed Asked on June 9, 2020 in Question of the Day.

        #1 small change that would improve: My DW realizing that she’s a contributor to our problems and being willing to read blogs or listen to podcasts to work on her issues

        #2 small change that DID improve our marriage: Me taking all of the pressure off sex; no asking for sex nor asking for specific things. We’re still early in the process and the quantity is the same, but the quality is much better.

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      • Queen bed Asked on June 9, 2020 in Intercourse (PIV) & Positions.

          My DW averages about 2. Definitely one strong/complete one when the focus is on her pleasure. Then maybe one more, sometimes fuller, sometimes only partial.  Like other posters, she probably couldn’t take any more than that.

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        • Queen bed Asked on June 5, 2020 in Oral Sex.

            Try expressing your gratitude for what she did do without critique or criticism. This is something I’m working on with my DW; I have learned that some of the ways I expressed what I wanted of her actually made her think she wasn’t good enough, which then discouraged her from doing more.

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          • Queen bed Asked on June 5, 2020 in Question of the Day.

              I definitely say erotic. First. her body is all mine!

              Second, I know her body and know what it takes to bring her to O. It does not seem like fun to have to go through that with someone new, And it also seems like it would be a lot of work to try to do that in a 3-some or some other multi-partner experience.

              Anything I can imagine someone else doing to me, I can imagine my wife doing to me *better*

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            • Queen bed Asked on June 4, 2020 in Non-Sexual Romance .

                I am definitely craving touch from my wife, both sexual and non-sexual. But then physical touch is one of my love languages. From others, not really.

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              • Queen bed Asked on June 4, 2020 in Question of the Day.

                It depends for me; if it’s something I generally know how to do or have *some* experience with, I’ll leap. But when I have no experience, I am definitely a thinker. In fact and overthinker in many ways, sometimes far beyond the point of reasonableness.

                My wife, on the otherhand, is always a thinker. Thankfully she can also be an overthinker, so that doesn’t generally cause issues between us.

                This pretty much holds in the MB. As long as my wife is not trying to humiliate me, *trying* to cause me pain, or bringing a 3rd person into the MB, I’m game. But for her, she’s got to think anything through until she knows she can feel safe and free.

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              • Queen bed Asked on June 1, 2020 in Question of the Day.

                  Given the subject, I’d say from an intimacy, my DW gave me an extra special Christmas night of intimacy where she went beyond a couple of her boundaries, and did so with great passion. However, that type of thing has been few and far between. But I remember it like it was yesterday!

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                • Queen bed Asked on May 31, 2020 in None of The Above.

                    I’m primarily here for hope and encouragement. I’ve been married 23 years and our MB is not where I wish it would be. I’ve been pursuing more learning lately through some other marriage blogs, but I don’t tend to get much of that from these forums. But what I do sometimes get is hope that things can indeed get better.

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