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  • I realize I’m late to the party, but coming from a husband, this is what I would say:

    1.  If you feeling guilt, then yes, talk to your husband about it.  However, if my wife came to me with this, I would not be mad.  I would be turned on.
    2. If you are concerned about the toy being better than your husband for your own sexual satisfaction, then you may want to investigate other toys.  You can still use this one, but find something that works with your husband.
    3. You and your husband should probably spend more time together exploring your body.  He needs to learn how to get you to O.  You need to help him.  Not all women can O from PIV, but you seem to be able to, so find what it takes with your husband but do not be disappointed if you never can from him.  I highly suggest toys that focus on clitoral stimulation to help with this.
    4. Would you or your husband object to you using the toy on yourself as foreplay?  I have found watching my wife pleasure herself as a huge turn-on as a lead-in to sex (both with toys, and preferably without).


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  • Queen bed Asked on February 14, 2020 in Activities & Items .

      Why not benwa-balls instead?  Lelo makes some that are meant to be kegel replacements, but wearing those out may have the same effect (plus, with the action of the metal balls moving inside the overall ball, may provide stimulation).

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    • Queen bed Asked on February 14, 2020 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .

        If you were to ask me what I want for this Valentine’s Day, I would say this:

        Effort beyond the bare minimum.

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      • Details, no.  Generalities, yes.  I think giving details is a bit too overboard.

        On the other hand, we do not have a problem recommending certain toys, or ideas, and may mention that our suggestion comes from our own experiences, but never details about those experiences.

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      • Queen bed Asked on January 8, 2020 in Desire Problems (men and women).

        I would suspect birth control.  It had all sorts of weird effects on my wife when she was on it (which is why I agreed to get snipped after the birth of our last child).

        I could talk to your OB/GYN about switching pills and/or having conversations with your husband about other birth control methods.

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      • Queen bed Asked on January 8, 2020 in Activities & Items .

          What Ron said.

          I’ve used them.  Don’t buy the cheap, stretchy ones.  There is one that I bought that has three rings:  One for around the penis, one for around the scrotum, and one that goes around both.  You can just use one or all three (using all three is not only supposed to help with strength of erection but duration as well).

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        • Queen bed Asked on January 7, 2020 in Question of the Day.

            We were going to a marriage retreat and knew there would be a game similar to “The Newlywed Game” where we may be asked questions and have to match answers.  So, we cheated!  =)  We started asking each other random questions and tried to prepare to win.  One of the questions was what was the favorite body part.  She said my arms.  I work out fairly regularly and since knowing that have put a lot of focus on building strength in my upper body, particularly arms and shoulders.

            By the way, we lost the game.  The questions were nowhere near what we thought they would be!

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          • Queen bed Asked on January 5, 2020 in Question of the Day.

              Mine is very similar to yours, Jpops.

              I am not sexually attractive enough to my spouse for her to pursue me.  She gives me what I need (at a minimum), but because of me not being attractive enough, her willingness to fulfill my desires is not there.  That because of this lack of spark, I’ll never have the sex life I desire (sex will be there, but will always be the same old, same old).

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            • Queen bed Asked on January 5, 2020 in Question of the Day.

                Our 2019 was among the worst for us as far as stress but pushed me to grow professionally.

                Since 2017 our finances have been a struggle due to medical issues.  Things came to a head this summer.  Combine that with realizing that the job I was in was no longer professionally fulfilling and not seeing an upward/growth path, my wife lovingly suggested I start looking for other employment, even if it meant relocating.  It was a very dark time for me, and I could feel the dark clouds of depression in my life (I deal with some level of anxiety and it typically slides me into some state of depression, but fortunately I can recognize it and have learned what I need to do to cope with it all).

                I found myself in interviews which would have been awesome positions.  Things looked good, all of the interviewers rated me high, and yes, we would have to move.  But then God shut the doors abruptly.  I found myself questioning God quite a bit during this time.   Why take me this far to just close the door?  Why get my hopes and excitement up if it was never meant to be?

                We had decided to wait until the turn of the year to do anything when a new door opened up.  This ended up being a bigger opportunity for me.  I recently officially accepted the position and start soon.

                So while 2019 was a very hard year, and I am elated that it is over, 2020 is looking promising already!


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              • Queen bed Asked on December 21, 2019 in Male Testosterone Issues .

                  Here’s what I’ve learned:

                  Yes, testosterone is a big player in this, but not the only reason.

                  Sleep apnea could also play a role.  I’m on T treatments and still deal with weaker erections.  I’ve had a sleep study ordered as that is the next thing they want to look into for me.


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