04/01/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day
In the hypothetic scenario where you have to tell your closest friends either (a) your favorite sex position or (b) that you use toys* in the MB, which of the following would you do?
- Tell them your favorite position.
- Tell them that you use toys (realizing their may be follow-up questions, such as “which ones?”).
- Tell them both! No prudes here!
- Tell them neither, thus no longer being their friend.
*For those that don’t use toys, please say so and replace “toys” with anything “odd” that you have used for sexual pleasure (kind of like the 02/20/20 QOTD).
I just want to add a comment…. it was because of a friend who was willing to openly talk about her love for sex and her husband, even though it wasn’t the details being asked about here (though I know she would have if asked), that led me to changing in my own marriage. We never know what kind of impact our openness can have. So I encourage us believers to quit being so ashamed, so we can have a healthy impact on marriages in this world!
I have no qualms about sharing what would be helpful to close friends, and some family. My DH says nothing about me is surprising anymore, and I suspect some other acquaintances of mine think the same about me, too, so why not share something that might be helpful? In the right time and conversation, though.
I would choose 1. Tell them your favorite position.
A. We don’t use any toys currently and I can’t think of anything odd that we do at the moment.
B. I have already intimated to a friend (our Sunday School leader no less) that my favorite position is doggy style.
I would think for me the first time sharing, even with a close friend, would be a little embarrassing or awkard. After that I think it would get easier to talk about with them. I think sharing the favorite position would be easier than sharing what toys are used, but maybe favorite position also includes toys. That said, I would probably share both. Like SC, it has to be the right circumstances, but probably would not include family. That’s way too much information for them. Not sure what anyone in my congregation would think…but then, maybe they already have a suspicion. 🙂 I’ve often wondered what any of them would say if they ever saw me going into the local toy shop. Would they keep it to themselves? Would they approach me about it? It’s like the old tootsie pop commercial asking how many licks to get to the center? The world may never know. The question now has me wondering about who I might even share that information with if given the opportunity.
I would have no issue talking about the value and pleasure of Liberator products. Toys? I’m not sure about. Positions or activities? I’m not so sure about either. I know dear wife has shared a few things and activities.
With that said, HYPOTHETICALLY, if I “HAD to”, I’d say #3 since I’m definitely not a prude…and neither is DW.
We know only one couple, that we are #3 on. That started when they walked in on my wife and I while we were, naked, and ‘busy’.
They had lots of questions, her to my wife, and later him to me.
Past them, sex is something that we don’t talk about person to person.