04/09/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day
WOT- esp, Cowgirl…. making the best of it:
1) have sex less often,
2) find other non-intercourse activities for sexual release, that mutual masturnation others talk about, might have to become an option.
3) when in WOT, try to make it as visually and audibly appealing so we don’t have a “marathon” (as mentioned in yesterday’s QOTD 😉 )
4) hopefully, find a vibrator that works as needed, so that it can override my lack of ability to focus, so that I could actually still experience an O with PIV.
Reasons I don’t like it:
1. Too much work, I can’t focus which means I get very little pleasure.
2. Takes too long, my husband doesn’t seem to care for it either, maybe the stimulation is wrong, but he has trouble ejaculating with it.
3. Too much control in my hands, I just don’t want that in the bedroom.
We haven’t tried all the positions available. So, my dislike is limited to the ones we have tried. Of those, I think it is called “head to toe” position – is the one I dislike the most. If we could only use that position? I would employ the use of pillows to make it more comfortable. Or, I would modify it slightly.
Why dislike it? It doesn’t allow several things: including not seeing each other, no kissing, not being able to access other parts of each others body (apart from their feet!) to stimulate each other, and it also stretches a particular muscle excessively – as this position bends my penis down too much 🙁
When we young we were adventurous and tried many different positions. we tried each one a few times minimum 3 times. The only position we tried once and did not like it at all was doggie style. First no face to face contact. Second hard to touch my wife breasts as we learned those were very sensitive during love making and really helped her get to orgasm. Third neither of us had any feeling of penetration in this position. So it was not really fun for us.
Right now any sexual positions would be great. But no intercourse in the TinyTim bed.
I haven’t found one I don’t enjoy in some way. However, I wouldn’t want to have to do it standing up every time. It’s tricky to get everything to fit together, the potential for one of us getting hurt is significant, and it’s exhausting. OTOH, the times we’ve done it that way have been highly spontaneous or adventurous (in the shower, in a “family bathroom” at Disneyland or an airport, etc.) so those experiences were quite enjoyable for other reasons.
The position I dislike and why I don’t like it is spooning position. It is difficult/challenging to stay in, there is no visual face to face and my wife is limited in providing any hand stimulation.
To make it more enjoyable if that was the only position I would get some mirrors and place them so I could see her face/expressions. Not sure what else to do to make it more enjoyable since she wouldn’t be able to kiss/nibble nipples or whisper in my ear.
We’re only limited to a couple positions due to pain, ED, etc. but while i do love performing OS for my husband, i do not like the finishing in my mouth although i absolutely allow it and he knows i deposit it into a kleenex and he’s good with that 😉
So i have thought that because of ED and my soreness issues, there may come a time when that’s the way we’ll have to finish sex which isn’t my favorite way by far but i would be willing to do it because of course i love and want to please my husband and also we are trying to cherish what we do have in TMB and not make a big deal of things and just roll with it! (I do have to say it would be hard for me because i have to control the retch factor, last time we ML i was able to do that)