05/27/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day
On average, which spouse in your marriage bed is more vocal during the pre-orgasm part of a lovemaking session? What about near/during orgasm?
Bonus Question: Was there ever a time that either of you, but particularly the normally quieter spouse, was much louder than usual?
A few funny stories come to mind with this one. But to answer first – I am typically the more vocal. About all I get from DW is a few soft moans and the occasional “grunt”. I personally get a lot out of vocalization and hearing it. I wish I heard it more from DW.
I have encouraged her before to be more vocal, but it just isn’t her. But one time after a few encouragements, she told me “you couldn’t handle it!” and laughed it off. Then the next time we are having sex, about 1 minute into it she let our a series of wails that rivaled the most professional. I went off like a bottle rocket! ….turns out, she was right 🙂 Since then there have been a few times in the last year or so where she has relaxed a little and let out some more primal sounds around an orgasm, but only if she knows we are alone in the house. Her modesty is what keeps her muted mostly.
I will often say some things or make some noise. Partly just out of sheer natural enjoyment, but also often as a way to encourage her with how much I am enjoying whatever is going on. One time while dog sitting for her brother, we were alone and doing the “doggy style” and it was especially hot, and I let out some natural, loud vocalizations. That’s when the Yorkie-poo, that we did not realize was watching, threw in his vocal encouragement with a loud yip! We both finished with laughter that lasted for a few days! It was great!
I (the DH) am almost always the louder one in both the pre-orgasm and orgasm phases. Zelda is usually quite quiet. While she does make a fair number of involuntary sounds, they’re often not as loud as the bed, LOL.
My pre-orgasm noises are mostly voluntary. However, they feel good/natural to do, certainly get me more into it, and also seem to arouse Zelda sometimes. At orgasm, it’s the opposite–while I can suppress the sounds, they are mostly involuntary so it takes effort and can even take away from the pleasure. Zelda will sometimes give a good groan or “ohh” at O, but it’s nothing like the sounds coming out of me…we’ve even joked about the deep, animalistic sound I can make.
No real standout time where she was loud, but a few for me. These usually happen if I’ve been forced to edge myself/hold back hardcore during PIV for an extended time to make sure Zelda gets a climax during it. Most memorable was the second time Zelda got an O. It was the first time in our now “go-to” position with the vibe, first time without a condom in over 7 months, and also first time she climaxed before I did…it basically triggered my O unexpectedly just 1-2 seconds later, catching me very off guard for our first simultaneous O and I let out some crazy groans with our bedroom window open!
Edit: they’re vs. their and another typo
Her and her. Both of us are verbal (me) and vocal (her) pre and during. She, however, is very vocal and expressive during her O. My personality fits – I’m an extrovert. OTOH, she is an introvert and demure, so her sexual freedom of expression is a delightful secret for us!
DH has always been the one who is particularly sensitive about being overheard, so has never made much noise. I mainly tend to pant leading up to, which gets louder and faster and therefore occasionally mixed with voice (is that what other people mean by moans??) when things get really intense. I think I work a little like a steam engine in that if I let off too much whistle, I have less energy to get to the top of the hill. 😉 DH has made an effort recently to be more intentional about letting me know he is enjoying our time together, which I appreciate.
I’d say me. It’s just natural and better than that, my DW enjoys hearing my responses and it turns her on so if I respond vocally, it starts a cycle for both of us. I’m probably still more vocal nearing & during orgasm. She actually goes silent before she explodes in waves during an O, then she moves WAY MORE than I do during an O.
She’s had her vocal moments during higher hormone cycles when she’s natural more desirous, turned on and it’s coupled with the kids are out of the house so we know we won’t be heard. I LOVE that kind of Tarzan and Jane, primal scream love-making. So much fun!!!
While the proximity of our kids’ bedrooms make us a little cautious in this regard, DW definitely is the louder of the two of us both in the buildup and the conclusion. I do give her some competition at the end on occasion, especially lately when I’ve managed to last several minutes (thanks Promescent!) and then finally O. Those tend to be extra good for me and she’s had to shush me a few times… when we’re at a hotel or the kids aren’t home, we have “loud sex” and break the decibel meter 😉
We both are mostly quiet. Years of children and crowded living quarters must have trained it out of us. But if anyone would be more vocal, it would be me.
I didn’t even know people made much noise during sex. That is, until a friend got married. She informed me that they often heard their dad making (almost scary) noises in their parents’ room, after the children were in bed. She would ask her mom and her mom wouldn’t tell her. After the friend was married, she knew exactly what the noises were!