06/18/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day
Another one from Mrs. Intrepid this week:
Have you and your spouse ever had such great sex that the afterglow from it lasted for several days?
And an additional question related to it from me:
Does the afterglow from that fantastic session cause you to desire more sex/physical touch OR does it cause you to stay satisfied longer?
Yes, because I feel so blessed to have such a marvelous wife….and the truth that she’s all mine…and we did THAT? Woah!!! I definitely want to keep on touching her. More sex? Sometimes, sometimes not I believe. My guess is for me that it probably depends on how much “build up”/”reserve” there was going into the experience.
I know sometimes she’s laughed at me that I can’t keep my hands off her and we just made love. Yep, Dear, you’re all mine!!!
Afterglow lasts for 12-24 hours and definitely makes me desire more quickly because I love how connected and loved I feel when it’s really good. Wife doesn’t seem to understand this at all. I think for her the afterglow must last for a week or two.😕
I have made it a practice to try to “nurture the afterglow”, but it seems to fall on stony ground. My afterglow might last 24 hours, IF you call the decreased desire an affect or sign of afterglow. If you are just referring to the feeling of euphoria and “all is well in the world”, then that can go for a few hours at most for me. Typically, a really hot session will cause the refractory period to extend, but when it comes back, it usually comes back stronger after a hot session. I mean who gets excited about SPAM twice in a row? But a juicy burger? Different story.
I am only gauging from observation, but DW has an afterglow of a few minutes, maybe, and really only when she was hot for it to begin with – which is near non-existent. If she has an O, she might feel more relaxed or more cuddly for a few minutes, but it’s soon back to her normal routine, whatever that was at the time. So I have found that there is just not much afterglow for me to nurture in her, so I have pretty much given up on it. I might give her a kiss or hug and say “That was great” or “thanks” or whatever, but that’s about it. I’ll cuddle if she wants to, but when I try to initiate a cuddle and she is basically ignoring me for whatever else she is doing, it is not pleasing to me. The fact that a particularly great sex occurrence makes me want sex moreso later on is a particularly irritating thing for her. In her mind, that should fill my tank fuller and equal more time and less pressure on her. It’s a bad cycle and after a while gets to making one not really enjoy sex – either of us.
Most of the time we have a positive afterglow for a while after sex. The time it lasts varies but there have been a few occasions when it lasted for days.
It definitely increases the desire for physical touch (like cuddling) but not sex. Once I ejaculate I am usually satisfied for a day.
Several days…. not that I recall. By the end of several days, there would likely be several other encounters, or at least another encounter, that would negate or color in previous afterglow. But, I also know that I don’t get the same emotional connection out of sex the same way many do.
Probably not several days, because we’d likely have new afterglow from wanting to do it again if it was that good. There’s been times that were great and worth remembering that drove us to ML again soon after (once we recovered!): we ML three times on our wedding night, the time she had 14 O’s due to position+vibrator, the time on the high balcony of a fancy hotel with a great view, the time she did something different while on top and made my O 2-3x stronger and longer than usual that we still haven’t been able to figure out or recreate… all were worth celebrating and enjoying for a good day or two, but all had us back ML again within a day or less, so no several day basking in the afterglow.
Have you and your spouse ever had such great sex that the afterglow from it lasted for several days? Probably not, because we’ve had sex again by then which has replaced the previous afterglow.
Does the afterglow from that fantastic session cause you to desire more sex/physical touch OR does it cause you to stay satisfied longer? It makes me want to make love sooner to experience that sensation again as soon as possible.
I will continue to glow as long as I can still smell him on me, which does sometimes outlast my next shower.
Generally that will make me want to do it again soon, however a bigger decider in how impatient I am is what else is going on–whether I have some big household project going on or a lot on my to-do list. If my brain is over-crowded, it can suppress my sense of impatience and even though I want it, will allow me to wait longer to do anything about it.