07/15/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day
I think we’re both happy with the honeymoon. We left from the wedding. We’d shared & agreed to our sexpectations for it and we were gone for week and a half. It was plenty of time to start the process of learning about each other’s bodies and responses and we made love 3-4x/day.
Our location was awesome, a friend’s eventual retirement house with a private pool, so it didn’t cost us anything; and because of that, we’ve been able to use it again and again which brings back fond memories. Sure, some exotic resort would’ve been nice too but it would’ve cost a fair some of money and then hard to go back to, whereas, we’ve done a family vacay there and we’re heading back alone next month and I can’t wait to go chunky dipping with DW at night! (Yeah, you read that correctly, ‘cause there ain’t nothing skinny about my full moon, especially after gaining the Covid 19.) 😀
The ONLY thing that I’m aware of that my wife dreamed of/was planning for our wedding night hotel was that she wanted to get to the hotel, shower & freshen up alone, and then put on something special she had picked out for that night. I, knowing this, decided I wanted to push her limits of resolve, test my ability to “rev her motor” and push her limits of self control. So after we got there, we went in the bathroom to see the garden tub and walk-in shower and I started kissing her neck & ears from behind while hugging her in front of the bathroom mirror. This was coupled with using some well placed hands, which were stimulating areas that had previously been “no-go zones” while dating. Let’s just say the sparks flew, the fire was lit, and her best laid plan was immediately abandoned as she quickly decided to just change into her lingerie and jump to the finish. 😀 And I being the ever so strong gentleman, insisted on stopping to make her wedding night dream come true, reminding her about her dream of showering alone and freshening up and then putting on the lingerie and coming out of the bathroom. Despite my insistence and trying to protect her dream, she definitely wasn’t having any of it. Apparently, after a year of dating, her separation and the end of her nearly sexless marriage, she was as horny as I was after our dating and 11 years of celibacy for me 😀
Our honeymoon was very simple, but it was what we could afford, and if we could redo it, we wouldn’t change a thing. Except maybe make it longer. We both had a wonderful time and only look back with fond memeories of wonderful days spent in bed, having sex and talking. (Ok, I did most of the talking, but he listened with great interest, lol)
The only thing I would change, is to make it longer! A year or two? lol!
I can hardly believe we could have planned it as well as we did. Everything went wonderfully! The first night, the hotels, the B&B, the scenic drive, along the ocean, the beach, the shopping, the swimming, the memories, etc. For both of us sexually, everything was the first time! Wouldn’t want it any other way!
We went to Hawaii (Kona) and while there was a lot about it that was idyllic, there are small changes I would make. I would have gone to a different island—we dealt with “vog” (volcanic smog) the whole time. We also split our time between two resorts, and the second was lousy, so I would have done the whole thing at one. If we were planning it today, probably would bypass a hotel altogether and do a vacation rental beach house, but that wasn’t so easy before VRBO and internet travel bookings.
The other thing I’d change is my attitude. I used to be bad about just lounging around on vacation, I always wanted to be going. I’ve learned over the years to just chill and relax with DW, and I wish I’d been more that way on our honeymoon.
And FWIW, I wish we would have know then what we know know about sex. Cause the sex was ok on our honeymoon, but now we know how to make it so Much better!
I wish we could have had a honeymoon. The month prior to our wedding, I had just started my first job after graduating college and had zero leave time until the following year. We had our rehearsal on a Friday 3 hours away from home, had our wedding on Saturday, drove back to our apartment that night, and I was back at work Monday morning.
We were both extremely tired after the wedding and as well as from the 3 hour drive home. Not to mention that it took me what seemed like 2 hours to pull all the bobby-pins from DW’s hair! LOL
If I could go back, I would have talked with my boss to see if we could have arranged leave without pay for a week so we could have had some sort of simple honeymoon. However, the economy was in the toilet, jobs were hard to come by, and I didn’t want to put the job in jeopardy with as many student loans we had both racked up.
Last year was our 10 year anniversary. The trip that we had sort of made up for it. We went to a resort and rented a cabin for a week. I planned out the whole trip with a ton of fun activities (horseback riding, tandem kayaking, zip-lining, and more). It is by far the best and most memorable vacation we have had.
I just wish that we could have done that same trip as our honeymoon so we could have had a full week of exploring each other’s bodies together without the worries of everyday life creeping in!
Not partake in the booze as much. It was a all inclusive (alcohol included as well) and I had too much every night we were there which did several things… A) decreased my performance B) decreased my memories of the trip C) caused her frustration because of my selfishness
We still had a great time and enjoyed each other and the location alot but as a 25 year old fresh out of the college mentality I made that mistake.
I would also plan more private/personal time while we were there to just relax with each other knowing that this was the beginning of the rest of our lives together. We planned some great activities but in hindsight we could have done without and spent more time enjoying the time together and enjoying the beautiful island. By the way we went to St Lucia for a week.
We got married overseas, stopped in freezing cold Korea for a few days, and then went to my parents house in the US. It wasd a way for her to meet my parents and my family, which was extremely important. We had trouble getting a flight we could afford, so we had to leave the hotel rather rushed to make the flight in the morning after the Honemoon. She actually gave me a handjob (and I had to teach her how to do it) but we didn’t have time for full-blown sex until after an 8-hour flight to Korea. She’d never experienced cold like that before.
If I had done it over, I’d have insisted she wash her hair the first night. The hairspray made her head itch. I’d have told her to take lotion with her to Korea. Her skin itched from the cold dry air, also. I think I’d have given her some coffee right when we got in the room for energy for sex that night. Maybe my wife’s culture doesn’t have the expectation of wedding night sex since the groom usually goes and listens to advice from the elders of the wife’s family after the party and sleeps there. I’d have told her to say ‘no’ to the girl who wanted to follow us back to the room to get a piece of cake. I figured out a way to make her know I was waiting for her she would rush off. She was single and probably just didn’t think of two newly weds wanting to go have sex.
I’d have experimented more with sex, too, like getting her to know how to move my body around for sleep-sex and whatever else I could think of that now, in hind-sight, I’d like to be a part of our regular sexual repertiore but are not currently.