11/24/2020 – Today’s Questions of the Day
This one has intrigued me for years!
Do you and your spouse share your vehicles or do you each have your own? Why, or why not?
If you each have your own, how do you decide which one to take, and who does the driving when you go somewhere together?
We have almost always had our own cars. There have been periods of time when we’ve had to share a single vehicle (usually following the unexpected loss of the other one) and we could do that right now but it’s certainly less convenient.
My husband and I have different preferences – I have an SUV big enough to conveniently transport our rear-facing kiddo plus everything we’d need for a road trip, room for home improvement materials, etc. His car is a sporty little manual – a Subaru hatchback (lest you think a manual is a Man’s Car, I drove a stick for seven years).
My husband does most of the driving – he enjoys it and does a better job of driving AND carrying a conversation than I do. We take mine most of the time because it’s where the car seat is. If we don’t have the kiddo, we take his car.
My wife always has the new vehicle, so I don’t have to worry about it being reliable. I usually have my own vehicle which tends to be something older that I can still maintain myself, but I seldom drive it because I have a company truck I drive most of the time. If I am just dashing to the store, sometimes I will jump in her truck. When we go somewhere together, regardless of whos vehicle, I usually drive. I also have a motorcycle that I ride more for recreation than transportation, but sometimes if I am going somewhere by myself, I will just throw a leg over it.
We share our vehicles. There’s one he typically drives to work, and one he leaves home for me, plus an extra thats main purpose is recreational. But he is almost always the driver when we’re together. He likes to drive, I like him to drive and it makes him feel manly in a way. I’ve gotten used to being chauffeured around every where the past 5- 6 years, with having teen after teen needing to get driving hours in.
We have our own vehicles but I drive no matter whose car we’re using. (I was raised old school in manners. Eventually that’ll change with our age difference and she’ll then be “Driving ‘Mr.’ Daisy”.) 😀 Currently, our vehicles are the same model, only hers is 2 yrs newer. That’ll probably change if we move one of them to a RAV4.
While we will switch on occasion out of convenience or I’m taking care of maintenance on her vehicle, she doesn’t like driving or taking mine for family stuff because mine isn’t as clean or nice as years with 2 yrs, another 45k miles and seen the worst that teens and preteens can dish out…twice.
We have a fairly late model family vehicle that’s “hers” and an antique pickup that is my daily driver. We occasionally trade if the other has a need for the other vehicle for any reason. Since we both are behind the wheel a lot for work, we tend to share driving duties 50/50 or so.
We’ve always had our own. Sometimes we switch, but not often. I have a rather large truck with a louder than normal exhaust and she doesn’t like to drive it. But sometimes it happens. My truck currently isn’t street legal, so if I want to drive to work, I have to take her car…but I usually ride with a co-worker.
We each have our ‘own’ vehicle, though we freely switch depending on the particular errand. If I am golfing, I take the ‘large’ SUV (easier to fit the clubs in). We also have a smaller SUV that I used to drive to work before the ‘work at home’ started. My wife thinks of the larger SUV as ‘her’ car, which is fine with me. It is very spacious and really convenient when going grocery shopping, moving kids into and out of college, etc.
Why do we have the number of vehicles we have? I work for an OEM and am able to lease up to 3 vehicles at a discount. The 3rd vehicle is used by my daughter who is going to college to become a nurse; she uses it mainly to drive to her clinical assignments, or she used to until COVID got worse. Now it looks like she will be coming home shortly after Thanksgiving for the remainder of the year.
As for who drives, when DW and I go out she is usually doing the driving because she gets intensely car sick if she is a passenger. I don’t mind it at all, though she is a bit more ‘aggressive’ a driver than I am. When we first started dating I recall being surprised by how much she used the horn to signal her displeasure if the person in front of her was not going fast enough.
Finally, we have a 4th car that used to be my DW’s parent’s vehicle. My father-in-law passed away in August, and my mother-in-law no longer drives, so she gave it to my youngest son (no one else in the family wanted it).
Wife drives the newest kid hauler. I drive the older kid hauler. Suburbans are great for hauling things other than kids, so I actually like it. 🙂 Oldest son is now driving the oldest kid hauler. Also have an old farm truck for hauling wood, trash, livestock, deer, etc.
Our new vehicles are usually 8-12 years old when we buy them. We then proceed to drive them until they go to the recycler.
There’s always been his/hers rides here. Sometimes mine was the company truck, but then there was a farm truck or two around as well. Things are different out in the hinterlands😁. The most “family car” we ever had was a Durango (back when they were still cool looking.) 4WD with a 318 v8. That was DW’s daily. Now we have only two, FJ and Tundra. Usually take my truck when together but if the FJ goes, she drives – because she loves it as much, maybe more than me😆.
None of the above.
We share our vehicle (no ‘s’, as it’s not plural). We have one vehicle for our whole family of 6 and find a way to make it work. Occasionally that means an extra trip for the person “staying home” in order to drop off the other. More often it means I get on a bike and put in some miles.
When we’re together, I almost always drive at her request.
p.s. I debated answering this question at all, as this might be the most anonymity-breaking post I have ever done. Not too many American families of 6 with only one vehicle it seems.