Would love to help dw get a 2nd O. Currently, it’s always me pleasuring her manually (only ever from clitoris). Usually she’s too sensitive for me to continue afterwards. Only once or twice did she let me keep touching and then only for a minute and it didn’t lead anywhere.
How long do I wait to start stimulating after the first? 30 seconds? 2 minutes?
Should method\location of stimulation change from first to second? C to G? Does it matter which comes first? Does a g-spot orgasm feel different? I remember reading something where you need to push through or bear down differently than with C. (Am I off here?)
Thanks for asking. Having you guys check up on me means a lot.
As for progress, I am blessed with such an amazing bride. We are growing ever so slowly but making progress in the right direction. I think the most telling thing for me has been that she smiles at me more and more during cuddles and intimacy.
Sounds small, but that’s a big deal for us. She’s enjoying herself more (sex seems to be moving into the emotionally enjoyable category).
Still praying for that breakthrough and beyond blessed that Christ is strengthening us as we wait.
This was recently covered in a similar thread:
I’m sure there’s more to discuss though. I’ll probably hop back on in a few hours to comment more.
p.s. – Has your/your DW’s situation improved since the last time you posted? (Assuming you’re willing to talk about it.)
It’s great to hear that you’re seeing improvements. Slow progress is still progress, and in general it is good to self evaluate every once in a while to see if you can honestly say “I am happy with the progress we have made.” If you can say that, then you’re doing well! It is also refreshing here at TMB to see so many of us husbands having amazing, Godly wives. I wonder if that’s part of the reason we so desire to make sure they’re highly pleasured…?
Back to the original question, I do think it’s most important (as I said on my answer to the question I linked to earlier) to make sure that your DW wants to try for more than one O. It is her body and she will be the one potentially experience the multiple O’s. That said, it’s clear from my reading (which I’ve done a lot of, but we’ve never tried for multiples ourselves) there is a portion of women who just can’t seem to get it to work, at least not without going through overstimulation/pain. And that’s completely okay. (ETA: it’s okay that they can’t have multiples, not okay to have to go through pain…)
I suggest you communicate with your DW. If she wants to try, go for it and have a good time. Make it a fun experience, experiment some, and learn more about each other. Each woman is different in how they respond (timing, etc.) From my reading, there are some broad trends (such as most women seem to have best luck with clitoral O’s first, and G-spot O’s can make some women “done”), but really you need to learn your wife. Talking with Zelda (my DW), she’s not really interested in this now (and wants to be sure that I don’t covet ideas like this and the women that do them). That said, it’s not a hard no for her, and that door may be open in the future. I’m happy either way!
If she gets too sensitive while stimulating her manually, you could gently switch to G-spot stimulation, then see if her clitoris is ready after 30 seconds or a minute or so to go for round to.
You could get her permission to tie her up and keep up the stimulation through her sensitivity while she screams if she’s kinky.
@SC & Scott
Thanks so much for your care and thoughts….
- I have not asked her about this at all. We almost never talk about those types of things because it makes her very uncomfortable. We are still solidly in the realm of ‘I’m leading us to talk about our intimacy in general’. Those conversations get to happen 1-2 times a month.
- I just try and gently introduce new things when she’s really aroused and enjoying lovemaking. I hope she will like it and it will lead towards a more positive overall experience. I tried recently to touch her g-spot after orgasm and she didn’t immediately stop me. That’s new. So I was looking for tips to continue in that thread.
- I think that this doesn’t really need to be my focus at the moment. Additionally most of my thoughts are more appropriate in a new thread. So I’ll post there.