2nd O?

    Would love to help dw get a 2nd O. Currently, it’s always me pleasuring her manually (only ever from clitoris). Usually she’s too sensitive for me to continue afterwards. Only once or twice did she let me keep touching and then only for a minute and it didn’t lead anywhere. 

    How long do I wait to start stimulating after the first?  30 seconds? 2 minutes? 

    Should method\location of stimulation change from first to second? C to G? Does it matter which comes first? Does a g-spot orgasm feel different? I remember reading something where you need to push through or bear down differently than with C. (Am I off here?)

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      Thanks for asking. Having you guys check up on me means a lot.
      As for progress, I am blessed with such an amazing bride. We are growing ever so slowly but making progress in the right direction. I think the most telling thing for me has been that she smiles at me more and more during cuddles and intimacy.
      Sounds small, but that’s a big deal for us. She’s enjoying herself more (sex seems to be moving into the emotionally enjoyable category).
      Still praying for that breakthrough and beyond blessed that Christ is strengthening us as we wait.

      King bed Answered on November 29, 2019.

      So good to hear!

      on November 29, 2019.
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        It’s great to hear that you’re seeing improvements. Slow progress is still progress, and in general it is good to self evaluate every once in a while to see if you can honestly say “I am happy with the progress we have made.” If you can say that, then you’re doing well! It is also refreshing here at TMB to see so many of us husbands having amazing, Godly wives. I wonder if that’s part of the reason we so desire to make sure they’re highly pleasured…?

        Back to the original question, I do think it’s most important (as I said on my answer to the question I linked to earlier) to make sure that your DW wants to try for more than one O. It is her body and she will be the one potentially experience the multiple O’s. That said, it’s clear from my reading (which I’ve done a lot of, but we’ve never tried for multiples ourselves) there is a portion of women who just can’t seem to get it to work, at least not without going through overstimulation/pain. And that’s completely okay. (ETA: it’s okay that they can’t have multiples, not okay to have to go through pain…)

        I suggest you communicate with your DW. If she wants to try, go for it and have a good time. Make it a fun experience, experiment some, and learn more about each other. Each woman is different in how they respond (timing, etc.) From my reading, there are some broad trends (such as most women seem to have best luck with clitoral O’s first, and G-spot O’s can make some women “done”), but really you need to learn your wife. Talking with Zelda (my DW), she’s not really interested in this now (and wants to be sure that I don’t covet ideas like this and the women that do them). That said, it’s not a hard no for her, and that door may be open in the future. I’m happy either way!

        Good luck!



        On the floor Answered on November 29, 2019.
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          First of all, talk about it. Wife has to want it…or at least want to try it. Then it’ll be up to her to help guide you in her journey.

          This morning DW wasn’t really interested in her O. I firmly believe in SHE COMES FIRST…BUT she’s been sick all wk so she was going let me bring her along. However, after my O and enjoying our afterglow. I offered again and got out a small vibe and started her till she wanted to be finished manually. Then as we’re lying there, I suggested going again and we did the same thing. Later when we were doing brkfst, I suggested we find a day and see how many she can have and DW said sure. 😍🔥😍🔥😍🔥. I think the key is having emotional intimacy outside the bedroom which leads to great communication in subject matter like this…which leads to more of “this and that”. 😍😍😍

          On the floor Answered on December 13, 2019.
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            This was recently covered in a similar thread:

            Helping dw have more than one O

            I’m sure there’s more to discuss though. I’ll probably hop back on in a few hours to comment more.


            p.s. – Has your/your DW’s situation improved since the last time you posted? (Assuming you’re willing to talk about it.)

            On the floor Answered on November 29, 2019.
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              If she gets too sensitive while stimulating her manually, you could gently switch to G-spot stimulation, then see if her clitoris is ready after 30 seconds or a minute or so to go for round to.

              You could get her permission to tie her up and keep up the stimulation through her sensitivity while she screams if she’s kinky.

              Queen bed Answered on November 30, 2019.

              Can you explain please?  Do you mean scream as in pain? Or uncomfortable because of the sensitivity? Both of those sound terrible.  Is that something that some find it to be worth it if she wants to keep going for pleasure afterwards?

              on December 1, 2019.
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                @SC & Scott

                Thanks so much for your care and thoughts….


                1. I have not asked her about this at all.  We almost never talk about those types of things because it makes her very uncomfortable. We are still solidly in the realm of ‘I’m leading us to talk about our intimacy in general’.   Those conversations get to happen 1-2 times a month.
                2. I just try and gently introduce new things when she’s really aroused and enjoying lovemaking.  I hope she will like it and it will lead towards a more positive overall experience.  I tried recently to touch her g-spot after orgasm and she didn’t immediately stop me.  That’s new.  So I was looking for tips to continue in that thread.
                3. I think that this doesn’t really need to be my focus at the moment.  Additionally most of my thoughts are more appropriate in a new thread.  So I’ll post there.
                King bed Answered on December 1, 2019.
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                  I previously forgot to link to this older survey that might be of interest to you:

                  Multiple Orgasms – TMB

                  The results roughly agree with the 25/50/25% split for never/sometimes/usually multi-orgasmic I mentioned in the other link I gave here. Also, I sure hope you and your DW or still doing okay after the last post you made.


                  On the floor Answered on December 13, 2019.
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