5/29/20 – Today’s Question of the Day
I became stressed out from working too often and wanted a stress release. Because of my intense work schedule sex had been barebones quickies for a month or so but I finally shared a full night off with my DW.
We went to Walmart and bought black light bulbs, lots of glow sticks and glow stick jewelry, some plastic drop cloth and a giant sized bottle of stay liquid coconut oil.
I decorated the room with some laser light show thing that was meant for Christmas or Halloween decor to shine on the side of your house. I installed the black light bulbs, set the glow sticks…. I put like 5 blankets on the bedroom floor as padding, put the drop cloth over it and spread probably 5 cups of liquid coconut oil.
I then started blasting techno music (which we never listen to)… stripped down and rolled around in the oil for probably 4 whole hours.
It all depends on what angle I go at with this question…. to break out of a routine, it was in April, I decided to lay aside the schedule (3x/wk) we had been trying for a few months, and started initiating and responding to his desires outside of that schedule, well on a somewhat limited basis (1-2x/daily), since he is always sharing his desire. This was at my initiation.
To expand our repertoire, a few months ago…probably in February, but maybe January… he had an idea of exactly how things would go, a certain “outfit”, certain placement/position, new toys to experiment with. This was his initiation.
I initiated a new toy by getting a clear jelly dildo that she used on herself while I watched from between her legs and have also used it on her myself. I love watching her stretch around it and can’t get that view much when we have PIV so it’s a nice change to mix things up.
For us, it was during an overnight getaway I’d arranged. I sat in front of her, her legs over mine, and just touched, massaged, and rubbed and explored her vulva for 15 minutes.
After the past few months of my initiating and doing some AP with wife, wife on the previously mentioned overnight initiated trying AS.
The most recent “new” thing happened just a few days ago. I guess I “initiated”, but it wasn’t my plan originally and we just accidentally ended up there. I think it may be too personal for us to share here, but needless to say it was awesome and kind of delivered what she though sex would be like before we got married. Just took almost 13 years to give it to her!
So I’ll instead mention a few things we’ve added in the last few months:
- Tried a clitoral stimulator for her (We-Vibe Melt). I was probably the initiator, but it was somewhat mutual because we both wanted a way for her to not get stuck at the O threshold/cliff.
- She initiated me touching her vulva both internally and externally sometimes during foreplay. We’ve done that a few times now. Super hot!
- I initiated a new position. Didn’t do much for us.
- She opened up to using the vibe on herself during her menstruation. I’d asked before, but she finally went for it. Ended up working out well.
- In the same session, I asked her for a HJ, but made sure to coach her for maximum arousal while conserving muscle/energy so she didn’t get tired. We think that’s the first HJ she did to completion, and in fact she did all the physical stimulation for it start to finish. She really liked it! (I seem to remember that she might have finished a HJ once just barely, but if so it was a long time ago and she doesn’t remember it.)
Bought another vibe for DW! I did the research and ordered it.
Love getting things for her – whether they be flowers or clothes or sexy things to wear! I don’t think giving gifts is one of my LL, but it always gives me great joy to give her stuff!
We had an injury that required new positions. So one of us played hurt, rubbed a little dirt in it, and got back on the field so to speak. No pain no gain as they say. In the process, we found that doggy style off the end of the bed works for both of us pretty well.
It wasn’t something necessarily new, at least for me, but it was new to my wife. Several months ago, I had purchased a toy with dual vibrators inside for me to M with. These past couple months have been extremely busy for my DW. Two weeks ago, it had been a particularly stressful time at work for her and she was really tired but one night she encouraged me to use a toy, so I pulled that one out while she watched. It was the first time using that particular piece while she watched. So, in a sense, she initiated. With her watching, it seemed quicker than normal! Otherwise, it is as Solomon says, “nothing new under the sun.” Hoping things ease up soon.