5/5/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day
Very reflective question SC. We’ve been married 17 years. Would probably say that the first year was great just getting to know each other better. Then about year 15 in which we went to a marriage conference and began to work on other things to enhance the MB like reading some books along with branching out a little through fun experimentation. The last two years have been challenging with her increased work load/responsibilities.
We have been married 20 years. Our best years so far have been the last two. Reasons: we went to counseling for several years, getting help to address the deep issues in our marriage, learning communication tools, dealing with our own deep issues and taking personal responsibility for our feelings rather than just blaming our spouse for our feelings.
Our best years so far began at 18 1/2 years and went for 2 1/2 years. This was because we had worked on our marriage, working through our pasts and establishing new habits of communication and connecting, and that trust and connection led to the place of our best sex. Plus all of our kids were past the ages of total dependency, or when they needed almost constant supervision.
Been married 25 1/2 years.
That’s a hard question, but I guess I’d say that the last 5 years have been our happiest. We are past all the earlier hardships of finances, raising kids, and overall adjusting to our different viewpoints on how to do anything and everything. We are now enjoying the fruits of our labor. Married 33 years.
We’ve been married for 18 years, and I feel like every year is a little better than the one before. The past year brought more intimacy (physical, emotional, and spiritual) than we’ve shared previously. It came with some struggle for sure—growing is tough and painful at times, but it has brought greater joy and new depth to our marriage.
We had fairly good years until about the 12th year, which is when things fell apart due to some stuff happening, which was out of our control, and we didn’t handle it well. Now the last couple years have been the very best so far, due to finding TMB and putting our marriage back together. We have been married over 20 years.
What has been the best year(s) of your marriage and why? I’d have to say this one because it honestly keeps getting better. This is a second marriage for each of us and we’re finishing year three next week. This is another milestone anniversary (3rd) as a blended family. According to Ron Deal & FamilyLife, years 1, 3, and 7 are the big milestones for blended family marriages. If you can hold on till then, blended family couples can get to their honeymoon phase after year 7.
DW likes to say that during the first 12-18 months, we kept on “stepping on each other’s air hoses”. And while we can still do that quite well 😀 , things have evened out and we keep discovering things about ourselves and each other that make it easier to live with each other. God keeps on using the other to chisel, sand, etch and development His character, holiness and fruits of the Spirit. It’s not been easy and we knew that coming it, it’s just been harder than we thought, even with great kids inside and outside the house.
Both of us feel called to help encourage, serve and invest in marriages and blending families. We’re praying together how we can serve our local church and community as we journey on into the 2nd half/last 3rd of our respective lives and ministry.
How long have you been married? Finishing three years in a week.