6/16/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day
Both! (Next question)
If it was bad sex, then I would want better and if it was infrequent sex, I’d want more. But for us it is neither of those.
We already have good sex! Could it be better? Perhaps. But not that much. Most weeks we have enough sex.
So, if I had to say one or the other, I would say more sex. Because more of what is already good sounds nice to me! 😀
More. We have great sex, just not as much as we’d like. Sure it could be better, but I think the ways it could be better would automatically happen with more frequency. (For instance, I would feel more desired, therefore more desirable, and therefore more easily aroused and less prone to a need to get certain details exactly right in order to enjoy completely. )
Cannot complain about the quality OR the quantity right now, as we’re having the best sex of our lives with nearly the max frequency we’ve ever had too.
That said, I think we’d go for better quality. The reason is that we may already be near the limit of what we can readily do physically from a quantity perspective (unless we were to e.g. shorten the time of our PIV). Quality wise, there are some options, like longer/more intimate foreplay, learning her body better, finding ways to avoid getting stuck at the “O cliff”, getting some vacation sex, etc.
Qualitative vs. quantitative. It’s really something that has to be balanced just right.
If the quality of our sessions is higher, then I don’t necessarily need a higher quantity. I’d rather have more quality driven and meaningful sex as opposed to a higher quantity of sex.
For us, it’s similar to what Duchess pointed out: It becomes a cycle where one leads to the other. For us, higher quality can lead to a higher quantity.
The only problem right now is that my higher stress levels is affecting our current quantity. 🙁
Obviously both, but if I had to choose between them, I’d definitely opt for better sex. My experience over the last year plus with a dramatic increase in quantity and improvement in quality has led me to conclude that I really don’t need sex as often as I once thought, as long as the sex we’re having is high quality. When DW is enjoying it, and we’re both letting go and just enjoying giving each other pleasure and interacting at a level of great intimacy and vulnerability, it is so fulfilling. I’d definitely prefer fulfilling sex once a week over duty sex every day.