6/25/2020 – Today’s Question of the Day

    What is your favorite activity to do as a couple (other than sex)?

    Do you find that doing that particular activity together more often increases your desire for sex? Or does more sex increase your desire to do that activity together?

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      We have two that are tied for our favorite. One is going for walks together. It’s a great way to be together, talk about what is on our minds, do some bonding, get fresh air and exercise, etc.

      Two, is eating out. While Mrs. OWM is a great cook, it is fun to give her a break and have a romantic dinner together where we feel special and enjoy being treated well.

      Another activity that is very close to the above is watching a good movie together and enjoying popcorn and snuggling!

      I don’t think these activities increase our desire for sex, but rather to do more together – which includes sex!

      Under the stars Answered on June 25, 2020.
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        Oddly enough – do a job or work together on a project. Any good time spent doing something together increases my desire for sexual connection. Her, not so much. At least not that I have ever been able to detect. It might make her more accepting of it later in the day, but the carryover is not very long.

        On the floor Answered on June 25, 2020.
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          Our list includes:

          – enjoying morning coffee on the front porch

          – gardening and yard work

          – bicycling..our normal ride is 18 miles but we have taken day trips including staying  at a B&B. We try to ride several times per week, weather permitting.

          – walks through the neighborhood

          King bed Answered on June 26, 2020.
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            Eat! We both like food….we have been known to call it a love language 😀 (oooh, I could have used that in yesterday’s QOTD! 😉 ) We have enjoyed trying new things and finding hole-in-the-wall places to have a new experience. And if it’s an hour or two drive into the mountains all the more better for him, because he loves the mtns and they just give a feel of adventure, and for us, because of the talk time.

            I can’t say that the activity makes me desire sex more….I actually am not feeling too sexy after some of those meals 😀 When we were experimenting with a sex schedule, we were intentional to make our date night (because of eating out) an ‘off’ night. But, a good or peaceful time together is the biggest aid in not putting any hindrances in the way. And for him, he’s pretty much always desiring sex.

            Under the stars Answered on June 25, 2020.
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              Laughing!
              We have a lot of activities that we enjoy, and some in-activities too, but laughing together brings us closer than anything.

              Fell out of ... Answered on June 25, 2020.

              Question part 2, oddly enough, we have broken out in laughter during sex before, and still finished. I dont know that it increases our desire, but its part of our life.

              Honestly, I realize that laughter isn’t really the kind of activity you were looking for in the question. We just don’t have real set activities that we do with any kind of scheduled frequency. And nothing we do that specifically increases desire or enhances it.

              on June 25, 2020.
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                I don’t know if we have a “favorite activity” that sticks out really. Instead, I’ll list things we enjoy doing together on at least a somewhat regular basis:

                • Doing kitchen chores together
                • Exercising (often start/end together with half the kids going with each of us)
                • Laying in bed talking about the past/present/future of us and/or our kids
                • Playing board games (Scrabble, Boggle, etc)
                • Watching movies together, either in a theater or at home
                • Going out to eat (rare, and with COVID-19 that means one of us picks it up and brings it home)

                Doing anything together makes us more likely to end up with coitus honestly. And the reverse is true. Maybe the only one that directly plays in is the laying in bed talking one. Although the last time we played Scrabble the last round had us both shirtless and that ended up being awesome…

                -Scott

                Under the stars Answered on June 25, 2020.
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                  Eating out…board games…cooking and eating in while watching something together…and we’re still trying to find something more active to do together BESIDES sex. 😀

                  Under the stars Answered on June 25, 2020.
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                    Wine tasting is our favorite activity to do together. It definitely puts us in the mood.

                    On the floor Answered on June 25, 2020.
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                      We both love to camp and hike. Hopefully we’ll get an opportunity to go this summer without the kids for at least a day or so!

                      Queen bed Answered on June 25, 2020.
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                        Probably our favorite activity was our morning coffee, before everyone was supposed to stay home. Now, it hasn’t happened for months, that its been just DH and I.

                        Otherwise, I suppose our favorite activity is working together on whatever our current project happens to be. No, it doesn’t make us want more or less sex.

                        Under the stars Answered on June 25, 2020.
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