6/5/20 – Today’s Question of the Day
With all that’s going on in our world and social media, I think a little levity might be in order so today’s question comes from Mrs. NWNL…
- Have any of your kids or friends seen or discovered elements of your bedroom reportoire? (books, toys, props, furniture, etc)
- Did they know what it was or ask about it?
- How did you respond?
- What was their response?
We’ve never been really careful enough about keeping toys and lubes in hidden places. Once, when the kids were younger, our oldest son (maybe 8 or 9 at the time) was trying to rub his mom’s shoulders since she had said something about being sore. All the sudden he bolted upstairs. A couple minutes later he came back in with a vibrator from the drawer in DWs night stand and proceeded to try to massage her shoulder with it. DW and I were trying so hard to not to laugh while we reprimanded him for getting into things in our room. Still makes me giggle just to think of it.
Our 3 year old son got into DW’s nightstand and found several of her toys. He found the magic wand and carried it around singing into it like it was a microphone. We’ve had to hide it in a different place!
He’s also found the bottle of Astroglide lube in my drawer. He thought it was a bottle of antibacterial soap!!!
I know some of our kids have seen some toys…my daughter wanted to take our wedge into her room for her to lay on. We keep some basic toys in a plastic tub on our headboard, next to the lube. My Satisfyer Pro is right next to the phone, I have had to grab it out of the hands of my grandson more than once 😆 , I am guessing they have no clue what it is since it’s so different looking.
I think the most shocking find was when our oldest (not sure about the others) saw his dad’s shopping suggestions “because you bought this, you might like…” on Amazon…which revealed most of our toys, since that was when we were really beginning our toy collection. He confessed that on the night before his wedding, when he was sharing about the toys they bought for their honeymoon. We got a good laugh out of it, his dad was a little red, and I encouraged him to buy his toys online from better places than going into an adult store….they were just going where her parents shopped. 😯
Our kids are young enough that this hasn’t really been an issue. Other than catching my oldest looking through my nightstand drawer one time (at worst, he might have seen [still wrapped] condoms), nothing has happened at all. We charge our vibe(s) by the sink in our master bathroom openly and without incident.
For those interested in avoiding future issues, they can look at this previous thread: Toy storage
My daughter found our sex toy box. It came out in a conversation and I’m actually really glad it did. She was mid-teens, and I made sure to respond without any shame, for me or for her. I responded, “sex toys are fun. It’s ok if you use them, its ok if you don’t”. I’m hoping that she will be able to go into her marriage without a feelings of shame or failure about sex toys.
Our youngest son was in our room (why, I don’t remember) and he saw our jar of coconut oil and asked by DW what that was for. I think she said it was something like cream for dry skin. On another occasion, the same son saw our sex toy box and asked what that was for. It is actually designed for holding files, and that’s what I said was in it; important ‘family documents’. He seemed to be suspicious, but has not asked since then. After that incident, we told him it was not appropriate for him to be in our room and there has not been any issue since. That is a good thing since we have moved some of our sex toys to the bottom drawer of our nightstand to make them more convenient for us to get at.
- We have a plethora of sex books on our bedroom bookshelf. One time DW was letting a friend borrow some blending family books before she got married and commented, “WOW! You have a lot of books on sex!” (Yes, we do.)
- DW’s youngest daughter (a teen) was laying on our bed admiring the new heart-shaped Liberator pillow I’d purchased for DW. She asked DW if she could have it for her room. DW did NOT respond BUT wanted to say, “You wouldn’t if you know what touched that the night before and what is was used for.”
- Her daughters have also asked our Liberator wedge and ramp but she’s just said they’re to lounge with.
- Yes, I believe they’ve seen our toy cleaner, my metal rings, and probably a couple small vibes that have been out on our vanity and they like to come get stuff from DW but they haven’t said anything to her.
To our knowledge our son has not seen anything that we have. He has been very good at respecting the closed door and not ventured in. That said, he was getting something out of my wife’s purse that she had given permission for him to get and found a coupon book to a certain store that sells adult “equipment”. He was quite upset thinking it was sinful (I think he was around 11 or 12). Since we had already discussed some aspects of sex with him, we very calmly told him that in marriage there are things we can enjoy. The booklet did not have any explicit pictures or any pictures of toys, etc., just things to purchase or things to do.
However, last year he was with some friends at the mall and were browsing a store for some fun things, when they saw a section in the back that sold sex toys and he seemed to think he knew what they were and what they were for. They moved on to another store.
Not that we’re aware of, but we have been interrupted a couple of times lately. We’re pretty careful about making sure our kids don’t know what we’re up to—we save the louder occasions for when they are in bed and/or away from the house (not so much lately!). All our toys are in a nondescript pouch in a drawer that they’d have no reason to be in (unless they were putting away my laundry, which they don’t do). I think we’re safe.