7/14/2020 – Today’s Question Of The Day
I’ve done it before. DW isn’t a fan of something on the neck or for that matter anyplace else…but I enjoy the kiss and the idea of “marking my territory” and I’ve definitely done left some marks on a couple places south of her neckline. LOL!
I’d agree that if I see it on teens or some unmarrieds, it saddens me knowing that they’re playing with fire outside of God’s designated fireplace or seriously testing the limits. I see a married couple with something, I’m gonna laugh and probably give one or both if I know them well a hard time as well as high-five the husband!
Over the years, we’ve incorporated it into our foreplay repertoire, perfecting the timing and placement of a hickie or two to achieve peak arousal for her. Typically, I give them to her after spending time on her breast(s). When I sense she is enraptured, I’ll slip off her nipple and gently/firmly/vigorously give her a hickie to the side of her areola. She has orgasmed from this move. She loves the evidence for several days, reminding her of her delight!
When we were younger we did that on occasion. But haven’t for a good number of years. We only did then in areas that would be covered.
I have a bit of a fear of hickies. Goes back to school, when a girl threatened to give me one. I remember having to outrun her so that I didn’t go home with one! I was scar less, but nonetheless, scarred for life!
We give and receive, when we are in the mood for it. We usually give where they will be unseen if fully clothed, but there is something about the feeling of the sucking on the neck.
I have never liked the “advertisement” of them though, so I am usually frustrated if I end up with a noticeable one that I have to try to hide. And when I accidentally/playfully gave one to my husband on his neck, it ended up being noticed and being spoken about from the pulpit. 😯 😆
With others, it depend on the age and marriage status of the individual. I tend not to have a positive mental reaction when I have a teen taking my food order with their necks covered. But a married couple walks in, “Well, they had fun. I wonder what their marriage is like?”
We don’t do hickies here. DH has no use for them and my only experience with them was years ago, when I freaked myself out and gave one to my little brother, accidently. My mom had a fit, to say the least, and I remained clueless for years. I thought I had caused mortal damage of some sort.
I haven’t noticed hickies on anyone, but than I am not looking for them either.
I’m ALL in favor of small, discreet, at least partially hidden hickies. I like when DH gives me one on the back of my neck under my hair. I wear it up, and tendrils fall down and camouflage it. Anyone looking semi-closely at the back of my neck would see that there is a “wound” there, but if they are thinking injury, they might think pimple or mosquito bite but if they see me as a sexual being and DH and me as a sexual couple they will realize we enjoy a full and satisfying sex life. It’s a badge of sorts for me. DH never wants me to put one on him where it could be seen, even though I would also feel sexually powerful to see my (discreet) mark on him. So I do it on his inner thigh.
OTOH when someone has a big nasty bruise the size of a Mason jar lid on the side of their neck and are wearing little to no fabric anywhere near it and have no hair swinging anywhere close…around here we say that’s a little bit redneck. No pun intended.
We’re somewhere between “major yes” and “no way”.
Our first/main incident with them was just a few weeks after starting dating, when Zelda woke up Sunday morning after we’d necked the night before. Neither one of us had any experience, and she found she had several small hickies on her neck! Worse, that was to be the first Sunday she joined me at church! She covered them up the best she could, but she’s pretty sure my boss’s wife noticed them. Since then, I haven’t been given nearly as free access to her neck.
However, there have been a couple times in just the last year that she has requested on hickey on a breast. I’ve obliged, but I’m a little timid about it because I’m worried of hurting her. I’d rather give her one on the inner thigh, but right now its pool season so that’s not going to happen. Also, I don’t recall her ever giving or asking to give me one.
I agree with what others have said here, especially regarding married couples. I’d love to see hickies on the necks of some married couples we know, and I’d definitely congratulate them!
I was just thinking the other day about this question. My wife is a no on the hickie department. She thinks it’s a bit painful, and she isn’t into any kind of pain, so I’ll do some lighter sucking. If it gets to be a bit too much in her opinion, she will scrunch up her neck. OTOH, I don’t mind and would even welcome it more if she were inclined to give. I do like them to be discreet though. When I go to the gym I wear a tank top so prefer they be a little lower on the neck or shoulder. I have a birthmark on my shoulder that looks like a hickie and for years growing up I felt very subconscious about it. It’s no big deal now, so why not just add to it? I agree with Duchess that it’s like a badge of ownership not to mention a great time in bed or the back seat of the car.