All things new
Hey guys! Just wanted to share a praise in hopes it would make other people hopeful!
My husband and I had rough beginnings, both virgins, it took us a while to get sex to work. ( about a month after our wedding).
We only were ever able to get one position to work, more of a female dominate one.. my husband has always been afraid of failure, and I totally get it…. in return I’ve been afraid to try new things cause I don’t want it to fail and make him feel worse…
Recently though he has gained a it more Confidence and is just going at it trying new things…
Anyway… we got a new position to work and I’m just so proud of him! Now it’s me who has to get on board trying new things… 🤪
This is just a praise and encouragement out there to show other people that lifelong intimacy is a journey where things can always be found new.
Dont give up hope guys! It’s sacred for a reason
Lol we’ve only honestly ever been able to get me on top to work… performance anxiety and failure killed what everyone says the easiest “missionary” is… lol. But now we got it!
Like I said- with age for us is coming confidence… I’m way more confident in all areas of my life than I was 3 years ago.
No… I have been too nervous to try…would like to make it a goal though for this year at least on my end.
Tbh- It’s not at all something I expect my husband to do. My husband is super gracious/loving and not grossed out by much…. but I really don’t expect it from him- if he tries great- if not, great 🙂
So happy for you! Enjoy this journey and just remember: practice makes perfect! Practice every day, maybe even twice a day! 🙂
Also, some positions don’t “work” for us in the sense that we could ever thrust to completion in them, but they are fun to get into and feel the sensation for a moment or two before moving on to something else. Look at them as foreplay if they won’t bring you an O. Definitely check out CFSP.com (Christian Friendly Sex Positions).
awesome! Sounds like maybe you’re in the same boat as us, as we were also both virgins and it took us six weeks after the wedding to have PIV for the first time. And yes, it also took us a while to introduce new positions, etc, so we completely understand. Congrats!
Great to hear about your creative freedom! Things that we comfortably enjoy after nearly 50 years of marriage never crossed our minds in our early years. Many were seemingly too edgy or engendered a fear of failure or embarrassment. In our older age, our performance takes a back seat to just enjoying the intimacy and unfettered joy of each other spiritually, physically, emotionally, and relationally. A perfect, peak performance is not our goal. Mutual pleasure and joy in the marriage bed is all we need! Keep on keeping on! Be open to each other, be comfortable with each other, laugh when you ‘fumble the ball’ or ‘he misses the mark.’😉