All things new

    Hey guys! Just wanted to share a praise in hopes it would make other people hopeful!

    My husband and I had rough beginnings, both virgins, it took us a while to get sex to work. ( about a month after our wedding).

    We only were ever able to get one position to work, more of a female dominate one.. my husband has always been afraid of failure, and I totally get it…. in return I’ve been afraid to try new things cause I don’t want it to fail and make him feel worse…

    Recently though he has gained a it more Confidence and is just going at it trying new things…

    Anyway… we got a new position to work and I’m just so proud of him! Now it’s me who has to get on board trying new things… 🤪

    This is just a praise and encouragement out there to show other people that lifelong intimacy is a journey  where things can always be  found new.

    Dont give up hope guys! It’s sacred for a reason

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      I think what killed confidence in the beginning for us was condoms… wrong size, etc…

      I now have an iud and am never going back…

      Twin bed Answered on July 24, 2019.
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        Lol we’ve only honestly ever been able to get me on top to work… performance anxiety and failure killed what everyone says the easiest “missionary” is… lol. But now we got it!

        Like I said- with age for us is coming confidence… I’m way more confident in all areas of my life than I was 3 years ago.

        No… I have been too nervous to try…would like to make it a goal though for this year at least on my end.

        Tbh- It’s not at all something I expect my husband to do. My husband is super gracious/loving and not grossed out by much…. but I really don’t expect it from him- if he tries great- if not, great 🙂

        Twin bed Answered on July 24, 2019.
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          Take things as slow as you need to in order to feel comfortable. We had issues with anxiety, too. Mainly because I was afraid of hurting her. Things eventually got much easier, though.

          California King Answered on July 24, 2019.
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            So happy for you! Enjoy this journey and just remember: practice makes perfect! Practice every day, maybe even twice a day! 🙂

            Also, some positions don’t “work” for us in the sense that we could ever thrust to completion in them, but they are fun to get into and feel the sensation for a moment or two before moving on to something else. Look at them as foreplay if they won’t bring you an O. Definitely check out CFSP.com (Christian Friendly Sex Positions).

            Under the stars Answered on July 24, 2019.
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              awesome! Sounds like maybe you’re in the same boat as us, as we were also both virgins and it took us six weeks after the wedding to have PIV for the first time. And yes, it also took us a while to introduce new positions, etc, so we completely understand. Congrats!

              California King Answered on July 24, 2019.
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                Great to hear about your creative freedom! Things that we comfortably enjoy after nearly 50 years of marriage never crossed our minds in our early years. Many were seemingly too edgy or engendered a fear of failure or embarrassment. In our older age, our performance takes a back seat to just enjoying the intimacy and unfettered joy of each other spiritually, physically, emotionally, and relationally. A perfect, peak performance is not our goal. Mutual pleasure and joy in the marriage bed is all we need! Keep on keeping on! Be open to each other, be comfortable with each other, laugh when you ‘fumble the ball’ or ‘he misses the mark.’😉

                Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on July 24, 2019.
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                  Yes, it’s been 3 years so far for us! But we are both gracious and talk through things- it was just nice to feel a success!

                  Twin bed Answered on July 24, 2019.
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                    It took us more than five weeks to have a successful PIV.. and more than a year to start oral sex.

                     

                    You two are married for three years. What positions have you been trying?  Is oral sex part of marriage bed?

                    Queen bed Answered on July 24, 2019.
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                      it took us some time to find the right-sized condoms, too. Once we found the right ones, that really helped a ton.

                      California King Answered on July 24, 2019.
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                        Thanks for sharing an encouragement for others!

                        Under the stars Answered on July 26, 2019.
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