Any sexual things before marriage?
We did deep kissing, heavy petting, full nudity, MS, and OS. Basically everything except PIV. Certainly regret it, though I don’t know that it caused us any significant problems once married.
Honestly, the first/only thing we’ve added except PIV since after getting married was the vibe, which was 12 yr after marriage. Everything else but PIV was added before.
Well… after our first real date while dating we pretty much crossed every boundary – OS, PIV, you name it. We continued this until we got engaged 2 1/2 years later when we stopped PIV. We did continue OS. I regret it some, but I am glad we stopped PIV for the year before our marriage. The honeymoon was H-O-T!!!!
Thankfully early in our dating as I started treating this young lady (now DW) like I would have any other girl, she clearly said that sex would be for marriage only. She was the first person to ever give me a reason to wait and I respected her for that and am now so very thankful she took that stance. Through her example, I accepted Christ and am glad I don’t have those regrets. I’m truly blessed with a virtuous woman and we enjoy a great sex life, due in large part to her being willing to wait till marriage.
Sex was better before than it ever has been after marriage. If I could turn back time, I would do a lot of things differently. With my now wife as well as a plethora of other women before her. Thankfully there has not been any physical contact with any other post-engagement. Virtual contact notwithstanding. I regret it all. I know it has impacted us. It has impacted her, though she would never admit it. One does not grieve the loss of something they never had. It is difficult to build a new house on an old, broken foundation. We have come a long way.
Yes, things can improve, but there is a reason God designed the marriage as he did. I wish I had’ve known that a long time ago. All I can do now is try to teach other, especially my children, the truth.
Thank you for posting this..
Happily my wife and I saved all “real” sex (like OS and PIV) for marriage.
We did some other things though…
We have both repented, we are both Christians, and happily married since the day I joined the old forums as ScienceNerd28 back in 2016.
But I must say that as a forgiven Christian who did marry the girl, I believe our relationship with all it’s faults has been sanctified by our marriage in Christ. I treasure those first sexual memories together and am thankful they didn’t derail our relationship, even though they happened a bit too early. And I am happy we had the spark back then, and still have that spark and passion after several years!
No one’s perfect but I will take the messy and imperfect, but passionate, anyday over a “perfect” relationship with no premarital mistakes, but little to no attraction.