Anyone had a long separation from their spouse then had an intense sexual event once you were able to be together again?
I guess you could say I am an expert in that department. Over the years, my wife and I have endured many long separations, a few of them being a year in length, and then several that were 6 months. I am working on the road right now, and this separation will be a short 2 weeks or so.
I think that I sometimes build up the reunion in my mind, to more than it can be, but on some occasions, it turns into something bigger. We have gotten pretty competent at drifting into and out of those separations, relatively seamlessly, picking up where we left off, but seldom with a lot of additional sex or big events. We generally, but not always,, reunite the same evening I get home, and it is usually a bit more intense, but not a major deal.
Early in our marriage, there was no such thing a cell phones or internet, so the only contact was physical letters. Surprisingly, hose tended to lend themselves better to a sense of intimacy, and urgency to reconnect, and they were always much more steamy than the electronic variety.
I would suggest that if you want to make something like what you are describing possible or likely, that you talk about it in advance so that both spouses are on the same page, otherwise it is likely that one or the other will be disapointed, and the other won’t really understand that it happened or why. You don’t have to plan specific details, just general expectations of how much time you want, etc. Then be flexible, because life happens. Something as simple as stopping for a snack or a potty break can disrupt things.
For my part, I occasionally use those reunions to introduce a new toy or technique that I have been wanting to try, and my wife is generally more receptive that usual, so there is that. It can be a fun time to do something new, or a time to resume comfortable familiar activities.
While we’ve never been apart overnight since we got married, we have had a couple of occasions recently where sex wasn’t an option because we were camping in close quarters with our kids. There was a fair amount of kissing and expressions of desire, but we were unable to do the deed. Once we got home, the consummation of all that flirting and waiting was very memorable!
Our returns from separation have usually not resulted in sex that night because of getting in late and DW in particular being tired from the separation. However, the following night is usually pretty intense. Combine the fast we’ve been on with knowing all day that we will be making love that night – and the day leading up to it is filled with flirting and innuedos so we’re both pretty worked up when the evening comes.
Contrast that with a normal day when we make love, which generally consists of us deciding we have the time and inclination much later in the evening. You lose the certainty and the desire that can help bring.
My wife travels frequently to see her family out of state, and her returns in the past have resulted in some memorable times. We’ve been on a bad luck streak recently though with illness, conflict, and other things getting in the way of making the reuniting as good as in the past.
We’ve only had a very few extended separations in 55+ years, but they usually resulted in very enthusiastic sex. The best were probably while we were in college and then to be DW was in school in a different state. After a few months apart we had trouble getting home without pulling off on a deserted road.
Oh yeah!! It was a long 7 weeks, he works out of town, I showed up at the hotel and we talked for a couple of days before my arrival. We flirted and all and when I showed up he actually was so aroused he had to get a bucket of ice and kept sticking his penis in to try to control so he wouldn’t go. That was the longest apart and it was let’s say one hot sexy BIG Oing Day!! I lost count how many time I went. I loved it