Anyone keeping records / stats of sex activity?
OWM, who to share it with.? TMB,of course. One of the worst things to happen to sex is the Internet, one of the best things to happen to sex is the Internet. at no other place or time in history has it been so easy for Christians to ligitamately share and compare their sexual experiences and learn from others.
That is quite a list. I noticed it was all performance-based. There are no items related to relationship satisfaction and emotional connection. When a husband gets very focused on the logistics and performance aspect of sex, it can take a huge toll on a woman’s enjoyment of the sexual experience. Especially if she knows he is keeping statistics! I hope that you at least don’t share this with her. Knowing a partner is keeping statistics would be a major turn-off.
OTOH, maybe you are tuned in to the relationship aspects of sex, but they’re just harder to quantify. If that’s the case, why not add, on a scale of 1-10, how good was the emotional connection for you, and how good was it for her? And move this item to the top of your list.
I started keeping track this year, our 8th year of marriage. After having a couple tough years when we ML less than 10x a year, I had to start keeping count. BJs are really easy for me track as DW has fully taken them off the table for the past couple years and for the foreseeable future.
But I can report that we are working together on increasing frequency and have celebrated some recent victories! First time ML in consecutive 2 weeks since our honeymoon. 🙂
Re: @Angler: I do the same… similar stats since 7 years ago, for each session…
RE: @ShadowSpirit , honestly I can say that while ML, my mind is absolutely not thinking about the statistics, so I give my all to my wife during love making. The satisfaction and emotional area in our relationship is very good. When we ML, I always think first about loving and satisfying her, and I see she is happy, emotionally and physically, very satisfied. 🙂