August 14, 2020 – QOTD
Your first part is hard for me to separate from the superheroes we actually like and embrace because they are such a big part of our playfulness. I guess we embrace the ones we do because they resonate with us though, so maybe it works for your question after all? We like to say DH is Batman and I am Wonder Woman. We each liked those heroes as kids, and when we watched the animated Justice League series years ago, the two characters had a very appealing dynamic. Also, DH is analytical, logical, observant (except maybe about women), and can be just a bit cynical, whereas I tend to be more idealistic, poetic, spiritual (I don’t mean more Christian or more faithful to God; I just mean more interested in intangible things). Batman is all about Justice and Wonder Woman is all about Love; those are two key aspects of God’s character, so they are good characters to blend. I DO NOT however, feel very WONDER-ful much of the time. The tee shirts that have the WW logo on them with something about Mom below feel like a title I can’t quite claim. I struggle so hard (and fail so hard!) at being the mom I believe God wants me to be, it just would seem like taking a Purple Heart for getting a paper cut. Anyway, Batman is also often put in a romantic relationship with Catwoman, and linguistically, she’s a good match for me: I’m moody, inconsistent, like to sleep in sunbeams and occasionally cough up furballs.
As for the marriage bed, even though it has been said, the Incredibles is right for us. Not just the name, but some of the struggles they went through too–misunderstandings, forced retirement, the joy of being back in action together, and [crescendo horn blast!!] I loved that they showed that married couple in such a positive light, too. There was a LOT of kissing and implied sexual activity in that first movie!!
There are so many movies so it’s hard for me to go through the catalog of all that we have or have seen, but what initially comes to mind related to our marriage is a line that comes from the Hobbit. As Bilbo is running through the Shire someone asks where he is going and he hollers back “I’m going on an adventure”. Little did he know where that adventure would take him and it reminds me that marriage is engulfed in the good, the bad, and the ugly (Ok, had to slip in that Clint Eastwood movie). Marriage is about a quest that takes you both through thick and thin and when you come to realize what you’re up against, you band together, work it out and it turns out great because you are committed to a common goal. That’s our marriage. Call me Bilboa, I’m on an adventure.
I would probably say that also describes our marriage bed as well. It’s also an adventure. Sometimes we have to deal with the unforeseen while at other times it’s the goblins of our past that we have to work through or get past, and sometimes it’s our own selfish desires or motives as in Thorin Oakenshield. Sometimes it’s the wisdom of Gandalf encouraging to go beyond our strength.
Now if it was a Sci-Fi I’d say Star Trek (Daring to going where no man has gone before).
This is almost an impossible question for me….. I’m too literal, an overthinker, and I have a hard time relating movies (esp. Sci-fi) to my life, so I am probably going way off from your intention.
I think the storyline of the characters Oliver and Emily, in A Lot Like Love, seems to be us, especiallyin our marriage bed…. we seem to constantly be on different pages, we “meet up” a lot, but we just can’t seem to get our lives and desires to align at the same time. We seem to be on a constant teeter-totter, when one is up, the other is down.
My first thought would be Batman and Wonder Woman.
But digging a little deeper I think I’d go with Ralph “Elongated Man” Dibny and his wife Sue. They were so in love and enthralled with each other that even after their deaths in the IDENTITY CRISIS comic book mini-series they carried on their love affair (ever so briefly, unfortunately) as a ghostly Nick and Nora Charles type, solving mysteries and experiencing their love.
Marriage? I guess I’d say DR. JEKYLL/MR. HYDE, BEAUTY AND THE BEAST, or INCREDIBLE HULK for our marriage because between our differences in personality & tastes are pretty stark, add the stresses of life now, Covid, her schooling, parenting, and ministry, then add in early menopause and we can sometimes get sideways pretty easy. Probably more me that her (actually, truthfully, you can drop the “probably” and just increase the “more me”) 😀
Marriage bed? THE INCREDIBLES because things are just clicking or TREMOR ’cause, well, it’s self explanatory.