Bed makeup, clutter and cleanlng
My last question here (HD vs LD) didn’t seem to go over well so I’m going with a bunch of much easier questions . After a wild night of sex (let’s hope!) who makes the bed? Or don’t you? Who is the clean freak in your marriage and who takes care of the clutter? I will answer these after a few responses. I apologize, in advance, if these have been asked before. I am fairly new to the board.
I am the one who usually makes the bed. On the rare day that I leave early, DH will often do it. Not because he thinks it has to be made, but out of love for me, since he knows I like our bedroom cleaned up. Neither of us like clutter, but he tolerates it a bit more than I do.
DW usually makes the bed – cause she likes too! Cleanup after sex, we both do it. I always put my clothes away and am sure to put dirty clothes in the laundry basket. DW doesn’t like clutter so I try to limit how much I leave out of its place.
DW is our “clean freak” and we always use a towel. Even so, she’ll change the sheets weekly, sometimes more often. I sometimes make up the bed but it’s usually her.
It depends on whether our LM is AM or PM… when its AM, she often goes straight to the shower afterwards and I “recover” in bed for a while. It’s some of my best napping. And sometimes I make the bed afterward but more than once she’s stripped the bed after she’s dressed so what’s the point of making it up?
I make the bed every morning due to my strict upbringing overseas in a boarding school where part of daily chores included making our beds. I guess old habits die hard. My DW cares much more about clean than keeping things neat and organized. I cannot stand clutter. Yes, we have had our battles over clutter vs. cleanliness. But, as we age, we have learned to work together in our differences here.
We use towels to contain the mess of LMing, so our sheets don’t have to be changed multiple times each week. We make up the bed together when we go to sleep. I make the bed in the morning because he leaves for work before I get up. One of us will toss the towels in the washer.
Neither of us are “clean freaks”, but we each have our particular ways about us. There are things we both have had to just “let go” of our expectations on. One day we will have an empty house and we can keep things the way we desire. With making the bed, my husband pulls the covers up on his side of the bed when he gets up (I am still in bed.) I am more likely to just throw the covers back and roll out of bed, and go about my day.
Neither of us is a clean freak.
We use towels and old shirts to contain and clean up bodily fluids, though they don’t stop the sweat that pours off of me. 😉 I clean the vibe and put away our wedge afterwards. She takes care of the towel(s).
For bed making in general, she does that much more than me.
We tend to sleep in our love making mess. I sleep naked but after several minutes enjoying the “afterglow “ DW will slip back on her underwear or pajama bottoms. The bed never really gets made except when the bedding is changed which we shoot for weekly. As SC mentioned about her husband, I tend to pull up the bedding when I get up so it’s halfway made. 🙂