Bed makeup, clutter and cleanlng

    My last question here (HD vs LD) didn’t seem to go over well so I’m going with a bunch of much easier questions . After a wild night of sex (let’s hope!) who makes the bed? Or don’t you? Who is the clean freak in your marriage and who takes care of the clutter?  I will answer these after a few responses. I apologize, in advance, if these have been asked before.  I am fairly new to the board.

    You don’t need to worry about whether questions have been asked before, there’s always new people joining where it will be their first time to see that question, and different people tend to put their own twists on things.

    on November 28, 2020.

    You are so kind.  Thank you.

    on November 28, 2020.
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      I am the one who usually makes the bed. On the rare day that I leave early, DH will often do it. Not because he thinks it has to be made, but out of love for me, since he knows I like our bedroom cleaned up. Neither of us like clutter, but he tolerates it a bit more than I do.

      Under the stars Answered on November 28, 2020.
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        DW usually makes the bed – cause she likes too! Cleanup after sex, we both do it. I always put my clothes away and am  sure to put dirty clothes in the laundry  basket. DW doesn’t like clutter so I try to limit how much I leave out of its place.

        Under the stars Answered on November 28, 2020.
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          DW is our “clean freak” and we always use a towel.   Even so, she’ll change the sheets weekly, sometimes more often.  I sometimes make up the bed but it’s usually her.

          It depends on whether our LM is AM or PM… when its AM, she often goes straight to the shower afterwards and I “recover” in bed for a while.  It’s some of my best napping.    And sometimes I make the bed afterward but more than once she’s stripped the bed after she’s dressed so what’s the point of making it up?

          On the floor Answered on November 28, 2020.

          I have learned to laugh at my DW’s OCD tendencies in these areas. I have watched her make up the bed then get in it literally 30 minutes later. I’m a little evil about it sometimes – such as when I’ll make the bed up and intentionally leave a fold or crease in the sheets under the comforter. I have to make sure she’s the one to un-make it. I call it aversion therapy- which I know is a real thing, but it hasn’t made any difference. 😆

          on November 29, 2020.
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            I make the bed every morning due to my strict upbringing overseas in a boarding school where part of daily chores included making our beds.  I guess old habits die hard.  My DW cares much more about clean than keeping things neat and organized.  I cannot stand clutter.  Yes, we have had our battles over clutter vs. cleanliness.  But, as we age, we have learned to work together in our differences here.

            Fell out of ... Answered on November 28, 2020.
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              We use towels to contain the mess of LMing, so our sheets don’t have to be changed multiple times each week. We make up the bed together when we go to sleep. I make the bed in the morning because he leaves for work before I get up. One of us will toss the towels in the washer.

              Queen bed Answered on November 28, 2020.
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                Neither of us are “clean freaks”, but we each have our particular ways about us. There are things we both have had to just “let go” of our expectations on. One day we will have an empty house and we can keep things the way we desire. With making the bed, my husband pulls the covers up on his side of the bed when he gets up (I am still in bed.) I am more likely to just throw the covers back and roll out of bed, and go about my day.

                Under the stars Answered on November 28, 2020.
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                  I’m not a “clean freak” but I’m much cleaner than DH. I initiate cleanup afterward. He’ll hand me used wipes, wrappers. Making the bed? Me.

                  Fell out of ... Answered on November 28, 2020.
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                    Neither of us is a clean freak.

                    We use towels and old shirts to contain and clean up bodily fluids, though they don’t stop the sweat that pours off of me. 😉 I clean the vibe and put away our wedge afterwards. She takes care of the towel(s).

                    For bed making in general, she does that much more than me.

                    -Scott

                    Under the stars Answered on November 28, 2020.
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                      I’m going to have to have the septic tank cleaned out because I don’t think tissue’s are as septic friendly as TP. DW uses about 2-3 every time we have sex. Oh well…the price you pay. 🙂

                      Under the stars Answered on November 29, 2020.
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                        We tend to sleep in our love making mess. I sleep naked but after several minutes enjoying the “afterglow “ DW will slip back on her underwear or pajama bottoms. The bed never really gets made except when the bedding is changed which we shoot for weekly. As SC mentioned about her husband, I tend to pull up the bedding when I get up so it’s halfway made. 🙂

                        Queen bed Answered on November 29, 2020.
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