Being for someone…
I’m a big fan of Bob Goff and something that he teaches that I really like is the idea of being for someone and not being against them. This speaks a little more clearly to me than Christians being known by their love though I think it is the same thing.
This is certainly something we need to practice for our spouses, being for them which naturally includes encouragement and support, but it is also a way we can represent Christ in a world where so many people are against pretty much everything.
Who can you be “for” today? Your spouse? Your friend? The employee that serves you? Everyone?
When things get crazy, and they do, I am often reminding myself of how He values others.
This concept actually makes me think of Luke 9:50, “But Jesus said to him, “Do not hinder him; for he who is not against you is for you.” This is a huge key with me in my political standings and choices. Even if a politician is not a believer, if they protect Christian beliefs and freedom, they are for us because they aren’t against us.
I was just sharing with another a little advice very similar to this, and it’s something I am trying to practice on here…. rather than always focusing on one who may be “attacking”, when it could be easy to “sin in our anger” in one’s defense and let our tongue set fire (trust me, I really wanted to when our sister Brynna’s compliment she received was being belittled and twisted), instead, we can stand in agreement and show support to the one with whom you “are for”. It’s another way to defend and take a stand, and it’s choosing to build someone up, rather than to tear another down. … but to be clear, there is a time and a place to boldly come against sin, a bully/”attacker” or abuse directly… we need defenders and protectors in this world. Afterall, I am not a pacifist 😉
Maybe it seems more clear a statement to you because you received the context of that teaching. It seems like a good idea based on the context here. Is yours more of a rhetorical question? Well anyway, I would say that I have a number of people including my DW that I am for and I know that by Christ’s love in me they are encouraged.
Do you think this relates to finding ‘common ground’ with others? I’m always surprised when this happens with others that I don’t connect with (which is a nice way of saying I don’t like them). Once you really talk to someone, chances are you can find common ground and build on that.
It made me also think of Luke 9:50 (though I’m trusting SC for the reference since I didn’t look it up). We just discussed this very concept this past Sunday. It always amazes me how tightly God weaves his messages through multiple conduits in rapid succession. It’s like he really wants to get a point across and so I hear it everywhere, but so awesome how he coordinates all these messages just to reach my heart. He puts so much effort into communicating with us and asks so little effort for us to come to him. We have a good God.
As to your question, we live in a world so divided and full of people who are always up in arms about something and always protesting this or angrily “against” that. If we can be the ones who are instead for: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control, as well as just for each other in general…well that would have to be a pretty appealing thing in the midst of all the against!
And yes, I am always very much for my DH; I am his biggest fan, advocate, cheerleader, defender, and caretaker. Not that I never fail at it, but it is always my heart to love him well.