Best Date Ever
Forgive me if this has already been asked in a question of the day. SeekingChange’s question about songs has got me thinking about some of the sweetest times of our marriage. (Also, SeekingChange autocorrects to PrepondFrance on my device. Worst Autocorrect Ever!)
What was the best date you’ve ever had with your spouse, either before or after marriage?
The date that pops into my mind was when Dh and I drove to the closest Medieval Times for his birthday. And by close, I mean a 3 hour drive. If you’ve never been to one, it’s a dinner theater with a jousting tournament that’s perfect for geeks and/or horse lovers like us.
His birthday is close to a major holiday, and we seriously underestimated the traffic. We were exhausted by the time we got there and were pretty hungry and cranky. We were super quiet during the show. Afterwards, we went to see a movie we’d been looking forward to. So by the time we got to our hotel, we were done. I’d bought new lingerie and had some plans for the night. But by the time we dropped into bed, we just fell asleep in each other’s arms. We woke up about 30 minutes before checkout. So, no sex.
I’ll never forget how sweet it was to fall asleep with him like that after such a crazy day. In terms of my plans, it was kind of a fail. We’d never do it again. But it’s one of my best memories with him.
I don’t know if this is considered “a date” because it was part of a 12 day trip for our anniversary, but it’s been one of my favorite times in our 26 years together.
We were visiting the Pacific NW, we were up really early to walk the coast, and it was a really low tide. We collected buckets of sand dollars, and discovered the tide pools that we both enjoyed exploring. I had my bedhead in a hat, no makeup on, wearing a hoodie, and we spent hours out there together just enjoying the view, the sounds, the time together and the new experiences.
There are so many!
But one of the best would be the time DW planned a special getaway without giving me any details. So, we went for a drive and ended up at a nice B&B where we could relax, talk, go for walks, eat great food, watch a movie, snuggle, have lots of sex, and build memories!
I wouldn’t call it a date, but more of an excursion.
It was the only time that my wife went backpacking in the mountains with me, beyond a few yards from a vehicle. We hiked into th Sangre de Cristo mountains and set camp well off the trail somewhere around 10 or 11 thousand feet. I packed in a huge amount, including all the food for 3 days, and even a queen sized air matress that completely covered the floor of my tent. I did pretty much all the cooking and cleaning and setting up camp, and all she had to do was hike in and enjoy. The second day we hiked up to the end of the trail, where there was an old decrepit line shack right at timberline. It was in a basin close to 12000 feet surrounded by steep rock walls on 3 sides, and a beautiful alpine lake filling most of the floor of the valley.
It was something that I was pretty well accustomed to, and it was always something I wanted to share with her. That was the one and only time that we shared anything like that and I am grateful that we were able to do it.
I’m with SC…I’m not sure I’d call my favorite a “date” either…One morning, while living in KY, we woke up and had no plan for the day. We were married less than a year so this was still new. We decided to get in the car and drive to see where a road went. We drove through KY, then TN, then Alabama…Stopped at the Air and space museum, then drove through MS and into AR long enough to hate the roads. We turned around and headed back and stopped in TN for the night. We had to buy clean underclothes and toothbrushes because we made no plans for this. But it was the most fun because it was spontaneous, and we had to other worries. No careers, kids, big money problems…Just two young and newly married 20 somethings out for a drive.
One time that sticks in my memory was when we were at a friends wedding. We had an overnight sitter for our kids (a rarity) so we didn’t have to worry about being home at a certain time and we could stay the night at the hotel the wedding was at. We had a lot of fun dancing visiting with friends etc and finally left to go up to our room at the hotel at about 1 am. Despite it being so late we had really good sex (who knew the mirror they had at the foot of the bed would be such a turn on). My favorite part of it all was falling asleep naked snuggled next to dh in a cocoon of blankets and feeling completely relaxed and comfortable. Unfortunately I woke up a few hours later with an awful stomach bug, fever chills, throwing up the works. But even with that it still remains a top ten memory. Another more recent time we unexpectedly ended up with a sitter and a whole morning to ourselves and decided to go climb a nearby mountain that we’ve been wanting to do for a while. We made it despite cold temps and it was lovely, a very quiet climb, it seemed that we had the whole trail to ourselves and exhilarating when we reached the top!
About 20 years ago, for DW’s birthday, I planned a special weekend. I booked a rural log cabin B&B about 175 miles away and told her I had a surprise. I wouldn’t tell her where we were going. Her name is Elizabeth, and the town closest to the B&B was also named Elizabeth. We arrived and had the place, including an outdoor hottub , all to ourselves. After a nice dinner out, we came back and ML in the hot tub, beneath the moon and stars. It’s been one of those special ‘dates’ we still talk about.
Early in our marriage DH surprised me with tickets to a Valentine’s dinner theater poolside (indoor)at what was then the poshest hotel in town. We were seated with some couples who had been married for a lot longer and the wives were so jealous of me because my DH was so thoughtful and sweet.
One of the last Christmases before we finally had our DD, we had been extremely busy and just totally disconnected. Finally one night we cleared our schedule, went out for dinner, and did a little shopping towards finishing off our list. It was the beginning of our Annual Christmas Date tradition. (Haven’t gotten to it yet this year, but we will!)
When we were dating, I got a jar and put in all sorts of questions, from as a simple your fave color, restaurant, etc to pet peeves to dreams about the future, family, life marriage, and even about some basic sexpectations in a marriage. This was about four months in to dating and it was looking pretty good so I made up questions and got others from the internet. Many were preengagement questions. We went to a lake and spent the day on the beach answering questions. She added her own later and we continued to answer some questions on the following dates till the day we got engaged six months later and I made sure the last question I pulled out and was gonna ask her was the, “will you marry me?” question.
We’ve been on some expensive dates now but another one she enjoyed early on was when she had to roll dice that dictated where we were to go for appetizer, dessert, entree, entertainment AND in what order based on a secret, predetermined list I created. I included fast food to nicer restaurants. A side note: her best friend’s husband thought I was a genius because I had a 50% chance of getting off cheap.