“Better than sex” food recipes
Have you ever eaten “Better Than Sex Cake”? I’m pretty sure I have, and it wasn’t very memorable. 😆 I’ve wondered if people have named their recipes “Better Than Sex _______” (cake, cookies, etc) because they aren’t sex-positive people, or if it’s just for shock value. André Rieu, for example, described the wonderful unity and exhilaration during music conducting as “better than sex” and while he was loving the shock value, I believe him that he feels it’s better. I cringe every time I hear the phrase, and I’ve heard it applied to other things too.
Can you think of something you would describe as “better than sex”?
How would you respond to someone telling you, for instance, that the name of the dessert was “Better Than Sex Dessert”?
I have had ‘Better Than Sex’ cake, and it did not taste as good as my favorite cake. It was not even close to being ‘Better Than Sex’.
Comparing other things to sex is tricky for a variety of reasons, but I do think there are experiences that are deeper than sex. At its root, sex speaks to our need for intimacy, meaning, ‘abidingness’, being part of something larger, a longing for unity, etc. There are other experiences that can provide these kinds of feelings, if only briefly. For example, I can remember times when I played in the ocean (running through the waves, diving under the sea, etc.) that filled me with a sense of wonder, joy, etc. Every time I read certain chapters of ‘The Lord of the Rings’ I burst out in spontaneous tears because I am so moved by the beauty of Tolkien’s writing (try reading the last part of the chapter ‘The Field of Cormallen’ without tearing up…I dare you.) Of course, there are parts of the Bible that do the same for me. For example, I also cannot help shedding tears of joy when I hear the parable of the Prodigal Son.
As much as I really LOVE sex, I recognize our destiny as Christians is to experience an intimacy and joy that will make sex look as mundane and ordinary as eating ‘Better Than Sex’ cake.
Yeah, I’ve never agreed with that title/cake. No, I can’t think of anything.
On the other hand, I do understand where the conductor is coming from. Conducting an orchestra or symphony band, even choir, is very similar to great sex. The emotion of the music….the way an conductor works, leads and interacts with an orchestra is quite similar to reacting and responding with two people making passionate love. As a musician and conductor, I have lived and breathed the music deeply, intimately and I know how to bring the best out of the artists and embody the music. It’s a full body, heart, mind and soul experience and when I’m done, I’m drenched and exhausted (just like great sex). My conducting style, when needed, is also from a different musical line of thinking to emote the music and bring out the passion at times more than the traditional simple “4 pt” style, it takes it and expands to live, breath and reflect the music.
Would I take conducting over sex? Not a chance…but I do agree that it is very similar.
Great question! I’ve never said something was better than sex, but I have used the term, ‘religious experience’ to describe moments when something has felt extraordinary and brought me overwhelming joy and tears. It’s been as varied as the birth of my son to a U2 concert. I’ve had some fabulous meals in my time, but nothing that equates to great fulfillment. I eat to live, not vice versa.
Thanks for the thoughtful and interesting responses. Perhaps this is where I draw the line with comparing versus equating. I would call musical and literary highs as “orgasmic” or “euphoric” but I might not describe them as better than sex, and if I hear anything described as such but I do get sad and figure they just haven’t had the pleasure of having great sex, yet.
I think it is just humorous hyperbole to express how good the cake (or whatever) tastes. I’ve never made a recipe with that title, and don’t recall eating anything called so, but I would personally be a little sad for the (most likely woman) who invented and thus titled the recipe. None that I have read looked all that spectacular, which makes me think they really don’t know what they are missing.
I think there are things in life that can be better than sex. Sex isn’t ALWAYS amazing and I think that’s ok. It’s part of the journey. That being said, some sex is absolutely amazing and I would rank at the top of my list of favorite things. Some food and/or experiences are amazing and would be on the list also. I don’t think you blanket a statement that applies every time to every experience.
I’ve made the cake myself. No, its not better than sex, but I didn’t think of taking the name literally. I thought someone was just trying to tell the world how good the cake was. Although if the cake is made right, and it was on a dessert buffet, it would possibly be the one I’d go for. (Lol, and I’d wonder who brought it and what the recipe was called in their cookbook!!)
I don’t know if experiences can be compared to sex or not. But one experience that thrilled me through and through at that point and was the very best I’d ever had, was very minor and I don’t know why it touched me the way it did. After the birth of one of our babies, I was trying to sleep in the middle of the night. However, I was cold, a bone chilling cold, like nothing I’ve ever had. I couldn’t sleep and could hardly move and felt frozen right to the core. I highly doubt I prayed, as I wasn’t really on speaking terms with God at that point. All at once the door opened, and here comes a nurse, with a heated blanket. It felt so unreal and so heavenly. Thats all I can describe it as. I never got another heated blanket after any of our children’s births. Now, don’t ask me why it touched me so deeply, but in my whole life, that one experience was the best and definitely better than sex.
I see it a just a humorous euphemism meant to sell or otherwise laud something. It does attempt to raise sex to some predetermined pinnacle of human endeavors or activities. And a little perusing around here will show that, to many, a dirt pie could be “better than sex.”
I’ve had many things that were better than much of the sex I’ve had. I’ve had some sex that has been better than most every other experience I’ve had physically and for many instances even emotionally. All things in humanity are ephemeral so “better than” today can be “less than” tomorrow. Right now at this very moment, I would love to have sex with my DW. Not much I can think of that would be “better than”…except if this insane itching from a billion chigger bites would stop! THAT would be “better than sex” at this moment. 🙂