Body Shape of a Woman
Hello everyone, this is my first post! I have always been attracted to a woman who is plus size. Skinny women seem to be what society thinks is more attractive, but I disagree. Its no wonder that my wife fits this description and now that we enjoy married sex, I’ve found out that I like plus size because of the wonderful handles, the large breasts, the thick thighs, and nice butt. I like feeling in control in the bedroom and doing that with a plus size woman is even more erotic. Its no wonder that my wife fits this body description and I love it. Unfortunately, women of this size seem to have reservations about their beauty because of their size. I don’t like it when my wife complains about her size because I love what ever shape she is in.
With that said I have a couple of questions:
- Is this considered a fetish or preference?
- Husbands, do you feel this way too about plus size women or do you have something else that is a really strong preference/fetish in the woman you love?
- For women of this size, what has liberated you into not stressing about your size and letting it all loose in the bedroom?
Thank you for your time.
Thank you for sharing. I always appreciate the rare man who speaks up on his preference that goes against social norm!
1. In my opinion, this is a preference, not a fetish.
3. I don’t know that I fit the qualifiers, because I am not sure how “loose” I am in the bedroom, and I don’t know what is “plus size” but I definitely have some extra meat and softness on me 🙂
Without getting into too much of a story and too much detail, what liberated me the most was meeting someone whom was much like you, who convinced me that there are actually men who prefer “imperfect” bodies over what society deems ideal and beautiful. A man, who is not my husband and who has nothing to gain or lose by his honesty, helped validate things my husband had expressed, but I couldn’t believe because I felt he “had” to say them, and that he had no choice because he was stuck in the marriage one way or another.
Thank you so much SeekingChange for your comment. Maybe men should validate women in this area more. Women definitely don’t need validation from men, but it would be nice to have. Sort of like a confidence booster to the already solid identity you have in Christ. By plus size I mean dress size 10 and up? I don’t have much knowledge on dress sizes. My DW has beautiful extra meat and softness on her too and I love it. I also notice that as people age into their 40s and 50s, we gain more weight as humans, no matter the gender. We’re a fairly young couple and I can’t wait to see use in our 40s and 50s and even into our 60s with no kids in the house and we can explore our bodies more. For all the DW’s out there that don’t fit social norms for body size…you are beautiful!! Don’t settle for less and know that you are not a fetish, you are enjoyed, preferred, and beautiful inside and out.
This is an excellent question and the answers posted so far are excellent too. I think it’s a preference and a preference for a larger wife is well within the normal range regardless of what our commercialized and shallow society says.
As others have already noted, my wife’s face, character, personality, and natural femininity carry the day for me. I trust her totally. I want her healthy and encourage her – as she encourages me – to eat healthy and to exercise. My wife is beautiful but she often tells me she’s not. She is 4′-11″ with melon-like 36 D breasts and weighs about 135 lbs.. I think she’s beautiful. I LOVE her firm (especially for a 65 y/o woman) breasts and I greet “my girls” regularly in both word and deed. Breast play is a huge part of our MB although I think I enjoy it much more than she does. She has had large breasts her whole adult life and I recognize that “my girls” could have been the cause of some of her lower back issues, although no doctor has ever recommended a breast reduction. She frequently threatens to “get rid of these” and when I tell her I wouldn’t allow that unless advised by a doctor she will reply “Well, you wouldn’t feel that way if you had to haul them around all day..”
We recently returned from an 18 day trip abroad where I took many pictures of her (all fully dressed) and early on she told me daily to stop taking pictures of her because “she looks like a whale”… not so. I told her each time that she’s gorgeous, but her objections kept coming with almost every photo and she often turned away. About a week into our trip I’d had enough and told her “You are BEAUTIFUL! I want pictures of you (and me) at the places that are new to us. You are the only woman in the world that God sanctions me to dream about sexually and to fulfil my sexual needs with. I am THANKFUL I can still get it up without any help from drugs… and the day will come when I can’t…but now, when I do, IT IS ALL BECAUSE OF YOUR BEAUTY! STOP TELLING ME I AM WRONG! If the day ever comes when I stop telling you that you are beautiful, and you ask why, I will tell you “You win… you have finally convinced me I was wrong.”” That night was quiet and we didn’t ML.
But I think it got through because she willingly posed for pics and our LM (while still vanilla) was passionate for the rest of our trip. We’ve been back now for 8 days and I think it may have registered.. time will tell but so far, so good.
- I think it is a preference to like plus size women.
- Prior to getting married I did not have a ‘type’ of woman I was attracted to. For me it was the combination of looks, personality, character, etc. that determined if I was romantically interested in a woman.
1. I think its a preference. My DH married the body type he had always wanted to marry. I have friends who are different body types and their husbands got what they wanted.
2. I am not plus size if you go by clothing sizes, but I have extra on me. DH tells me if I was his size, I would be too scrawny!
3. I had a bad body image all my life. But strangely, I never thought of feeling self conscious about it in the bedroom. Not until I came to TMB and realized the struggle that some wives have. I suspect though, its because I knew how much DH loved my body. Also, I made a conscious decision on our wedding night, that I would not stress about my body or hide parts of it from DH because I thought I was too fat. Today, I have a good body image and extra rolls jiggling won’t stop me from having fun.
- Is this considered a fetish or preference?
Let me add my voice to the multitudes. It is a preference. Or an acquired taste! Or a heart determination! (“I love the person even in a changed/changing body” type of perspective.)
2. Husbands, do you feel this way too about plus size women or do you have something else that is a really strong preference/fetish in the woman you love?
I do not have a really strong preference. For me, beauty is much more than a particular set of specifications! The way the woman carries herself, does she seek to look her best, is she happy, is she at peace with herself, is she confident, etc. are marks of beauty for me.
Having said that, I really like the way DW looks and keeps herself looking her best. She is slim and between a small and a petite size. If I was asked for a preference, it would be exactly the way she is! DW is basically the same as 30 years ago when we married. And I’m almost the same too.
Great answers! What a DW should realize is that us men become wired to become “ready” for our wives. This is TMI but I become erect just by seeing DW in a bra, its a natural response. She could be doing the most unsexy thing, but the fact that I saw extra skin on my DW makes me ready to go. It’s simply because its her and there’s so much experience, ups and downs, love and good memories between us. I hope our wives see that we so much treasure every single inch of them.
I agree with Olorin, it is looks (face), personality, and character. I honestly think it is women that think the skinny slender type is sexy, I have rarely heard men over the years make a remark about a thin woman and say, wow, she is so sexy.
I also prefer plus size women, but I could probably find a slender woman attractive too. If a woman is slender, I like the ones that look very fit, not just skinny, but tones muscles type. Outside of that, give me plus size any time.
I’d say it’s a preference. Although, anything can technically become a fetish….. I’d say it depends on where your heart lies.
For me, my “type” has changed through the years with every magnificent transformation my wife’s body has gone through. From the thin athletic type when we met in college, a few extra pounds after marriage, the stunning pregnant body with engorged breasts during and after pregnancy, to now where she has transformed yet again. It’s the REAL and natural look she has that I’m attracted to along with her vivacious personality, her shining smile, her boldness, and more! Photoshopped 2D “beauty” does nothing for me.
I just wish she could see herself through my eyes instead of looking through the judgmental eyes of the world. Then she would understand why I just want to take in all her beauty at every chance I can get!