Bondage ideas

    I love my husband dearly, but he isn’t very creative sometimes. When we do light bondage, he tends to go straight for the gold, and it’s over in like 3 minutes. Are there any ideas I can print out  for him to make the experience a little longer?

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      I am wondering if articles on foreplay would be helpful?  I know I have read in different places about setting a time (like 20 minutes) of exploring other places before a man ever touches the genitals.  I just can’t remember all the wheres to give you a link.  Maybe try to set a time frame where he has to figure out other things to do before he “goes for the gold”.  Collect different props for him to explore sensory play…. feathers, beads, ice, heat, clothespins (nipple clamping), pumps, a paddle, etc. maybe if those things were right there for him, it would trigger some ideas in him.

      The biggest thing, communicate with him.  Let him know what you need and desire.  You could even take a night and “show” him how you want it done, tie him up and take charge, and make sure he is aware that what you are doing with him, is you showing him what you would like for him to try with you.

      Under the stars Answered on September 25, 2019.
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        My DH occasionally gets…impatient in LM. I use the image of a dartboard as a reminder and tell him he has to work his way in through all the outer rings before he’s allowed to hit the bulls-eye. Apparently those who actually play darts can tell me it’s an imperfect metaphor, but it gets my point (pun intended) across.

        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 25, 2019.
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          There isn’t a set way to do this, but you could recommend him blindfolding you, teasing you, touching you all over, using restraints, inflicting a little pain (if you’re into that), oral sex, and so on, before he gets to actual penetration. That will drive up the time 🙂

          Queen bed Answered on September 25, 2019.
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            Here’s a technique for light bondage – I’ve shared this on TMB. It takes more than 3 minutes to accomplish and provides a lot of arousal while doing it! Once in place you can direct him to increase/decrease, more/less, etc. the bondage. For us, this light bondage is very erotic and neither of us is in a hurry to consummate.

            Here’s the instructions:

            We’ve engaged in light bondage using a robe sash (silk preferred) to create a hip harness crotch tie. Simply double the sash over your hand and then position the loop end above the pubic mons and bring the sash ends between her legs and crotch drawing them up and around her hips. Bring the sash ends through the loop lying on her public mons and tie them together. We then enjoy experimenting with the level of tightness and positioning of the sash to maximize pleasure. The crotch tie provides easy access for PIV while creating tight pressure both both of us.

            It was a huge turn on for both of us and enhanced the intensity of our Os. In our younger years we incorporated this into our routine about 5% of the time.

             

            Fell out of ... Answered on September 25, 2019.
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              When I was a young man, I also was quick on the draw. But in time as we matured, so did our sex life. We have found that communication is key to great sex. We both are very honest with each other about what pleases and displeases us. As I matured, I now desire to please her more than myself.  Tell him that you need a lot more foreplay, tell him what hurts, what feels good. Ask him to tell you what he needs also and do not be afraid to experiment. Blessings.

              Cot Answered on September 25, 2019.
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                Hi sweetcheeks,

                There is a site that my husband and I use for inspiration.  It’s MarriageHeat.com  It proclaim es to be about inspiring vital marriages!  Per their web site:

                “Marriageheat.com is a movement and anonymous community that inspires beautiful traditional hot monogamy. MarriagHeat.com started with user generated stories about marriage sex. More and more users are understanding “Marriage Heat” to include many characteristics of healthy monogamy and the people themselves that care deeply about this life-long sacred institution.”

                We find it to be Bible based and certainly like that perspective.  There are lots of hot stories there and you might get some ideas.  I think that there is even a category on light bondage.

                Disclaimer:  I have no connection with Marriageheat other than a visitor and sometime contributor.

                Fell out of ... Answered on September 25, 2019.

                I have been on marriage heat as well, but I have noticed that there is single men commenting on the stories… so not too sure about it.

                on September 25, 2019.
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                  Would suggest a blindfold and headphones playing sexy music. He should draaaaaaawwwwww it out over the entire evening. Use feathers to tease and tickle. Interchange hot and cold during oral sex to heighten sensations. Edge you with manual stimulation if you enjoy that. He can straddle you and massage your clitoris with his penis. He can position himself to enjoy oral from you.
                  The main theme is to slow down and play with you so that you are anxiously anticipating the next stimulation, curious about what and how you’ll be pleasured next.

                  Fell out of ... Answered on September 26, 2019.
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                    In our marriage, we do bondage a bit like this…

                    I might send a text message or two during the day alluding to bondage. By the time she gets home, she is more than ready for what I had in mind. After dinner I may play with her feet and have some wandering hands etc.

                    At bed time, I will get out the toy box while she is in the shower. When she comes out, I will proceed to tie her up slowly with hand cuffs / ankle cuffs. I usually caress and stroke her while tying her up. This usually takes a few minutes. With bondage, I am into gags and sometimes blindfolds. I usually then slowly put a ballgag in her mouth kiss her. If I want her guessing what comes next, I will introduce the blindfold. Once she is comfortably tied up and gagged, I then use toys and slowly bring her up to the point of orgasm. I am never in a rush, because I am in a very happy place, just like she is. I guess it is kind of like edging. I seem to do quite well with this technique, because she comments afterwards and then again the following day. When we do bondage, I tend to make it all about her and because I am very turned on, I have no problem cumming at the end.

                    I think some people are a bit reserved about gags, but we think that gags add to the whole experience. It brings some vulnerability and trust to the situation from what I have read and understand. My wife also tells me that she bites down on her gag when her orgasms are super strong. How good is that!

                    Twin bed Answered on November 11, 2019.
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