Breast Intimacy in Your Marriage Bed: Delightful, Meh, or Uh-uh?
Most husbands are captivated by their wife’s breasts. That’s very true for me. As a young father, I was enamored with Mrs. Youngbear’s milk engorged breasts and ‘creatively’ incorporated breast suckling into our foreplay. To my delight I found her milk and the suckling experience to be exhilarating and Mrs. Youngbear made it clear that she desired – even craved – my attention on her breasts. This began our lifelong love affair of breast intimacy.
In another post, I explained our breast intimacy as an ‘adult nurturing relationship.’ Unlike ANR (adult nursing relationship) or ABR (adult breastfeeding relationship) which are scheduled, lengthy, daily routines intended to produce and sustain lactation, our breast intimacy is simply nurturing for both of us. Certainly, ANR, ABR, and our definition of ‘adult nurturing relationship’ may lead to consummated sexual intimacy, but not always.
How do TMBers feel about breast intimacy (ANR, ABR, or ‘adult nurturing relationship)? Where are you on the spectrum from Delightful to Meh to Uh-uh?
I could see why it would be delightful. Back in the years where there were no emotional blocks or walls between us, I had some interest in this and I did some reading on it. Although I was not interested in the actual lactating part, because that sounds like way too much work and time.
There was something very soothing and intimate about holding each other and the gentle extended suckling. I could feel the oxytocin being released.
As for now, I think I could only do it when or if I can get fully emotionally attached again and regain the full trust that’s been lost. Otherwise, it’s too intimate for me.
@Duchess, concerning the concerns you shared in the comments in the other thread, about feeling too motherly…. all I can say is, the times we did it (not a lifestyle, just the random practice of extended holding and suckling), I never had that feeling come over me. It was fully a husband and wife dynamic….a very intimate husband and wife dynamic.
Breast intimacy is a major delight for me! But neither of us ae into ANR, ABR, or ‘adult nurturing relationship. We are happy for those who enjoy that.
I have always enjoy DW’s breasts, including before, during and after her pregnancies too. Breast play and intimacy happens daily.
Similar to the experience of others, her nipples have changed so that since nursing our babies, stimulation and sucking is only enjoyed when she is sexually aroused. That is a disappointment to me, but means we need to be understanding of each other and find ways to indulge in nipple delight too.
Thanks for the feedback, thus far, from everyone. It’s interesting to note that the votes are spread out across ‘delightful’ to ‘meh’ to ‘uh-uh’ with a trend toward the lower end of the spectrum, particularly for the ladies. Thanks for the distinction between breast/nipple play. Many (most?) couples engage in it during foreplay to orgasm. However, the notion of purposeful breast time to bond in a loving and nurturing manner is in the minority.
For some, it’s physically uncomfortable. For others, it’s not desired, even weird. For those who find or would find more breast time to be delightful, SC puts it well, ‘There was(is) something very soothing and intimate about holding each other and the gentle extended suckling. I could(can) feel the oxytocin being released.’
An interesting theme that emerges from the response, particularly among the ladies, is the discomfort from breast/nipple play. It seems that childbearing can change the sensitivity of breasts and nipples. Then, too, menopause can affect the joy or no joy of breast play by DHs. Perhaps this is worthy of another post question.
In our case, Mrs. Youngbear/Oldbear has always craved and desired breast and nipple play from before kids through her many years after an oophorectomy.