Built Up Desire In Women
I know that when a guy is aroused throughout the day it builds up his fluid. And the more fluid he has to ejaculate the more he desires sex/release and better his O.
Is there an equivalent thing in women? Not her getting mentally ready throughout the day, but a specific physical reality where she is building up something that increases her pleasure in O or sex?
Example: If we stopped halfway through ML (maybe kids need something and we can’t continue till next day) it would leave me very antsy. I would feel almost physically jumpy till we finished. But DW doesn’t seem to have that problem. If we are interrupted, or something turns her off, she seems perfectly content to just cuddle and fall asleep afterwards having only enjoyed half of the pleasure. Is that normal for women? (Does this point to the physical reality that I have a built up physiological need for release but its more mental in my bride?)
No, it can abate pretty fast. Shoot, it can even vanish, while in the midst of things. It’s like we can be almost to that summit of the mountain, and like someone snapped their fingers, we are magically transported all the way back down to the base. Then to look back up to how far we have to hike again and how much energy it would take, with no guarantee of the same thing not happening again, it becomes too much and we just say “that was enough for me.”
For a man, it would seem the seminal fluid is preparing itself, certain tubing gets closed off for the urine so you can ejaculate. So your pressure and “build up” makes sense. A woman doesn’t have that. But I do recall a few women talking about getting “achy” if they don’t get an orgasm.
I’ve read that there is a physiological need in some women, past a certain point. I can’t find my source for that, but I know it’s true for me. It’s that achiness that Seeking just described. It’s as though muscles have become so tense that it takes them a long time to relax. And by a long time, I mean I’m still feeling it the day after. I don’t always need one, but when I do and it doesn’t happen – well, my body definitely lets me know about it.
My wife is the same way, she is fine if she skips the orgasm. Depends on your age I think, the older I have gotten, I too can skip the orgasm and feel fine, maybe a little reved up, but not to the point of being uncomfortable. When men get excited, they mostly need to finish. But skipping the orgasm can be nice too, there is kind of an art to it. On a 10 scale, if you only get excited to about a 6 or 7, it won’t bother you. If you get to an 8 or 9, it will.
For DW, it could end quickly nor does she necessarily need release. OTOH, if if I’m dressed hot, paid attention to her throughout the day and had some meaningful, quality face-to-face conversation with her, she will be all over me, ready to go and expecting a “trip around the moon”. 😍
I have experienced both. We have been interrupted or lost momentum before and my climb up the mountain has just fizzled to the point where, yes, I’d rather just cuddle than try to climb all that way again with no guarantee. OTOH, when I get to a certain point, if I don’t get release I will be antsy and irritated and even jittery until I either find some other way to calm down, have an orgasm, or get so focused on other things (the next day) that the energy bleeds off (which actually makes it that much harder to get excited for sex the next time.)