Can a husbad ever say it without upseting you?

    You dress nicely for a meal out as a couple. You wear something you know he likes, maybe a little more flirty than you normally wear in public. He pays you the usual compliment.

    There is a woman at the next table or perhaps the waitress or hostess is very attractive or maybe has on a nice dress or hair style. Is there any way your husband can comment on these women without upsetting you? Or are you so confident of his love that you simply observe the woman and enjoy her beauty or think if her hair style or dress might work for you?

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      My wife would never appreciate my commenting on another woman’s attractiveness so I honor that. In the context of the question above, however, I can’t imagine any woman not being at least somewhat hurt. A wife dresses nicely for her husband on their date and he comments on another woman’s good looks? What is the purpose or benefit of such a comment? I don’t think that would ever be appropriate.

      Twin bed Answered on December 15, 2019.

      i completely agree. I know my husband wouldn’t ever just spontaneously say how nice another woman looks if we were out or watching TV (now *I* will point out the attractiveness of another woman) nor would i tell him i think another man is hot or good looking. if he ASKED me i would politely say yes, i think that actor is cute or whatever but both my husband and i feel that we really only want to find each other attractive on that kind of level….

      on December 15, 2019.

      Totally agree with what bailey said. My husband and I have never made such comments about others we see. I don’t see how it is appropriate at all. Why would either of us want to hear that coming from our spouse?

      on December 15, 2019.
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        I generally don’t mind if he notices something. Maybe if he’s constantly making comments about many other women. But I understand why it’s weird too.

        Queen bed Answered on December 14, 2019.
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          There are a lot of factors at play. It depends on the couple’s relationship, their level of trust, if the comments are merely editorial not lusting, etc.

          On the contrary, if one couldn’t notice or ever comment on another female, it would seem something was amiss.

          Under the stars Answered on December 14, 2019.
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            It seems like there is a lot of comparison there that does not need to exist.  But I can understand your point and question sincerely enough.  Some people are people watchers some are not.  There is nothing wrong with a compliment and yes it can be done, rarely and simply.

            On the floor Answered on December 14, 2019.
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              Occasionally when I see an attractive lady on the TV and I say something “uh, she’s nice”,  DW just laughs it off. So it’s OK. Which is really nice because I feel relaxed about saying it. She realizes it’s just an appreciation of female beauty in general and does not take it personally.

              Queen bed Answered on December 14, 2019.
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                My husband usually compliments in away that compliments me like I would like to see you in that dress. Or that hair style would look good on you or wow your peaches would look delicious with that cleavage.

                Double bed Answered on December 16, 2019.
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                  My husband only has eyes for me

                  Twin bed Answered on December 16, 2019.
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                    My DH and I are people watchers and have artistic eyes, so he occasionally notices some random trait and will comment, and if it is a trait that borders those that are commonly thought of in a sexual way, he is really cute about stumbling around in his disclaimers before he will say what he has to say, because he does not want to make me feel like he is checking out other women. 🙂 At the same time, I sometimes see a woman that I think is just really beautiful and I will say so, open to his agreement.

                    Under the stars Answered on December 19, 2019.
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