Can you throw a change-up?

    Don’t know if there’s been a QOTD, or if this would qualify, but here’s a lighter one for consideration:

    In baseball, a pitcher who becomes predictable is also hitable and therefor not effective. That’s why a “change-up” is such an effective pitch to have in one’s arsenal. It looks like one thing, but is actually another, which throws a hitter’s timing and swing plane off and when executed well, can be one of the most effective pitches thrown.

    Not that we’re trying to “strike out” our spouses, but do you have any change-ups in your arsenal? Or do you do things the same way every time to the point of banal predictability? I understand some folks like predictability. That’s fine. But even for those, if you drill down into your routines I believe you’ll find a slight change is effective even for you. If you rub the same spot the same way for too long, you loose sensitivity and start irritation instead.

    So, what’s your change-up? It could be switching sides of the bed, changing positions, switching hands your using, etc. (on that note, it has been said among men for eons I’m sure that if you switch hands your using pleasuring yourself, it will feel like someone else is doing it for you. Yep, it does)

    On the floor Asked on July 3, 2020 in MARRIED SEX.
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      I’m not sure that change-ups go so well in our MB (Major league Bed  😉 ). I do know that because DW likes the predictable, my change-ups might end up being a sinker.  And like they say, “Three strikes and you’re out!” If you catch what I’m saying. You only have so many balls!

      I usually pitch my ideas on away games when we are on vacation, overnight date at a hotel, for her birthday, or other special days.  I’ve learned that even at home games, a  few advanced signals that something new is comin down, I’m more likely to get to first base and maybe get a homerun! LOL!  And I like my wood bat a lot! Now let’s all go play summer ball!

      Under the stars Answered on July 3, 2020.

      That is a seriously committed sports analogy! (shakes head and rolls eyes) Boys!!!

      on July 7, 2020.
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        I like to do things that will surprise or even shock my husband. It’s usually little things that go a long way, like flashing him when and where he wouldn’t expect it. Initiating things at times out of the norm. Surprising him with a plan of something he “dreams” about. For me it, it’s really about the timing than anything else that is a “change-up”.

        Under the stars Answered on July 3, 2020.
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          It is surprising, or maybe not, at how much novelty and increased pleasure can come from my DW simply changing which side of me she is on during OS. Nothing much else has to change and I still get a “new” experience. Little things can mean a lot. Just like baseball x a little more finger pressure here, a little less there…and the ball moves. Or balls…your choice. 🙂

          On the floor Answered on July 3, 2020.
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            My wife doesn’t like change up too much! She is like, “what the heck is that?”

            On the floor Answered on July 4, 2020.
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              We are with SeekingChange on this! We both go after each other, when the other least suspects it!

              Be spontaneous!

              Hammock Answered on July 4, 2020.

              That’s great! But it’s not just initiations I’m talking about. I’m assuming that is what you mean here. But. How do you break routine?

              on July 5, 2020.
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