I touched on this topic before in a previous post and wanted to get some open discussion going as I genuinely want to get some opinions and shared experiences on the subject.
I am rather intrigued by chastity play. As in locking a man’s equipment up in a chastity device (aka-cage). Please note – I am not into degradation, dominatrix or dark stuff (like what you find on a lot of the internet). When I think of chastity play, I am thinking along the lines of locking the guy up as a bit of couple play with teasing and stoking the fires. I have read some good articles here and there and from what I have read, locking the guy up can really build sexual frustration/excitement for him and cause him to ride on a high and when he is unlocked, the sexual experience is stronger than ever. This is along the lines of what I have read…
Putting this out there for people’s opinions and experiences on this, I would be very interested to get a discussion on the following;
- Do any of you married couples play with chastity play?
- How did you go about introducing chastity play to your spouse?
- What sort of devices have you used or do you use? (Any pros or cons)
- How do you create the opportunity to lock your man up?
- What do you do in chastity play?
Again, I can’t emphasize enough that for me, chastity play is not about some weird/dark activity where the woman is some leather clad dominatrix and the man is turned into some sissy or anything like that.
I look forward to a good healthy discussion on this as i am wanting to learn what this activity looks like in a Christian marriage.
We haven’t tried it. It hasn’t been on our bucket list either.
I can understand how it might be exciting for some. Also in your case. Yet, I would suggest caution in how much stock one puts in what is read in articles (and other things) online.
I would say don’t knock it until you try it. If it is done not in a mean or cruel manner, it can be fun. We have tried it and plan to continue in the future. Since MOST men want sex more often than their wife, it can even the play time, which I would think most women would like. It also prevents masturbation, what wife wouldn’t want their husband to cut down on that?
Nope, no chastity play as you identify it here with my DW and me. However, we do have a buildup of play that leads to the release of some very strong sexual experiences that can be incredible and often are. If chastity play were something she liked, it would be ok. But it’s not the case.