Have any of you used a chastity device or belt for;
*Preventing masturbation – maybe you or a spouse use to do so or spouse worries about.
*Prevent cheating- maybe a worried spouse or protection aagainst accusations when in close contact or alone with members of the opposite sex at work for example
*Protect against giving in to temptation- for example as a young adult in your dating years.
I would really like to hear about how well it worked, or your thoughts on it.
@Ron, I personally have no problem (though I may have cautions) if a couple wants to use something like this for enjoyment. I hope you, @oldtimer1492, and anyone else who enjoys this, hears me saying, “Have fun! Enjoy! And may this bless and enhance your marriage and sex life!”
But, in your description, that sounds like a wife having sexual control, and speaking as a former “gatekeeper” and knowing many husbands do experience having their wive control and handle the figurative keys to their sexual “chasity”, there’s probably not many who desire to do it literally, and it’s definitely a turn-off for me. I have zero desire to go back to any kind of reflection of the gatekeeper/sexual refuser I was…. not even in play.
Do a “chastity” search. There are several threads here on the topic.
My thoughts? No, I would NEVER use one. Why? It seems very emasculating. Why would I ever want to do/use something like that? Personally, I am, and probably for most men here, I am one who thinks of ways to use my penis more; others here want to be less frustrated, not put more limits on Mr. Wiggly’s usage. I think it’s kind of feels like a parent/child relationship.
Never used one or even thought of using one. My thought is that it may protect the body, but not the mind. You can still cheat through an emotional attachment or just plain lusting after someone you see wondering what that person looks like or feels like naked. I think you get my drift. We are also to take captive every thought to the obedience of Christ.
We play with male chastity from time to time. For me, it is to prevent masturbation AND to have a time when my wife knows I won’t ask for sex. She enjoys a break from sex once in awhile.
I think a lot of people have the idea of male chastity being cruel or BDSM, but if there are some pretty good books about how it can make relationships better. I believe if women were more open to trying it, once they tried it, they might enjoy having their husband locked for a while. it is not something you do for weeks or months or years, but for short times to get the benefits from it.
My view of chastity devices is for fun, only. The caution is not to take it too far along the BDSM spectrum to cause harm or degradation.
Speaking of degradation – it would seem to me that staving-off the temptation of porn ought to pursued with accountability and counseling. How effective the ‘stick’ approach (locking up the penis or vagina) is a dubious approach.
Regarding masturbation – if it hurts the coming together of a couple for sexual intimacy or is done selfishly it needs to be addressed. OTOH it can be a beneficial sexual activity in a healthy marriage. Locking a penis or a vagina in a chastity device to prevent masturbation just sounds cruel to me.