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    Yes, I don’t like how the platform handles reported posts instead of removing the post altogether, the system just lets it sit there. 🙁

    Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on November 25, 2019.

    Removing it would give anyone the power to hide anything.

    on November 25, 2019.

    I agree.  Keeping certain posts out, for at least a time, allows all the users to see certain users “true colors”…. but when it has offensive language, it isn’t pleasant to have to read it multiple times.

    on November 25, 2019.
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      Well, maybe Dale and Paul will ask for additional help monitoring things and more of us can get involved.

      On the floor Answered on November 25, 2019.
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        Agree with all of this. Mods who have been here for a long time and are trusted by Dale and Paul, with the ability to close threads or even delete in extreme cases would be beneficial. I also feel that the comment, with its lack of notifications, is ineffective at best and problematic at worst.

        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on November 25, 2019.
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          What we can change is limited, sadly. I’d like to see better reporting, but I can’t set it.

          As for editing questions, the idea is that it allows for clean up of poorly written questions. I’ve just bumped that privilege up to a higher level. It will take someone a long time to earn enough points to do that.

          Downvoting is powerful because it takes points from others. It costs you the same number of points, but if 10 people downvote the same person they each lose a point while that person loses 10. Fewer points means fewer privileges/powers.

          Fell out of ... Answered on November 25, 2019.

          i had no idea downvoting costs points. Oh well, i don’t care, i felt strongly enough on a couple to downvote

          on November 25, 2019.
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            @PaulB If a troll is identified, are you and Dale the only ones that can delete their profile?

            On the floor Answered on November 25, 2019.

            Currently, yes.

            on November 25, 2019.
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              I think that person might be from Married Heat. I’ve read some of the site and there is a particularly nasty poster (nasty in that their values, IN MY OPINION) are not Christian. Their SN has Marge in it.

              Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on November 25, 2019.
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                Appreciate the input.  We are working on some security improvements, but if a person is determined to cause trouble, they will.   As PaulB stated, there is a delicate balance in keeping out the trolls and other Internet denizens and at the same time offering the help and encouragement and healing that TMB is known and respected for.  Oftentimes, hurting people come onto a board like this with raw emotions and language that may not be “appropriate” or may be even downright offensive.  I think it behooves us to remember that Jesus reached out to the worst sinners of His day (in fact, He still reaches out to us worst sinners!) and ministered to them–and we are called to be like Jesus!  Now, the line between a troll or spammer and a legitimate poster is not always easy to discern, and there is often some erring on the side of grace because we do not want to turn away a real person with a real marriage that is having real problems or needs a little bit of real encouragement.  To give you one example:  there was a poster who came on the old boards several years ago and he was raw and hurting, really intensely struggling with not just his marriage but the whole concept of there being a God who loved him and wanted to have a relationship with him.  Honestly, he came close to being booted off the boards at the time–more than once, in fact!!  But, in reaching out through PMs and later by phone, this poster (who is still here today) got saved and his marriage got strengthened.  I am honored to call him my friend and a brother in Christ now.  But that would not have happened without a lot of patience and grace-filled ministry.

                Trolls are bad, but Jesus is good!  🙂

                Fell out of ... Answered on November 26, 2019.

                And the very reason I added in my asking for people to pray for TMB, included praying for these people to encounter Jesus.  🙂

                 

                on November 26, 2019.

                I’ll just add this… I love that testimony!  I have always loved that testimony.  I call that person my friend, and he has been a blessing in my life.  God works in mysterious ways!

                on November 26, 2019.

                I will add to what Dale said here with a simple confession. I am the member he was talking about. To make a long story short, when I first joined TMB, I was seeking out help in overcoming what I had come to understand was a pornography addiction. I was not a Christian, and was actually pretty adversarial and vocal about it. Under the old rules, that disqualified me from membership, and I fully expected to be shown the door. Dale reached out to me, and cordially invited me to refrain from posting while it was decided. In the mean time, I did a lot of reading, and saw a side of Christianity I had not seen before. GRACE. I know TMB benefits just about everybody that visits, but for me, it was truly life changing. There were those who opposed my being allowed to stay, but I now recognize that it was not personal. They were motivated by their desire to protect the board and it’s purpose. I had an incredible advocate in Dale, who managed to tame my angry spirit while things got worked out. In the process, we had many conversations where he ministered to me. I am a born again follower of Christ because of those conversations. They would not have happened without a little bit of tolerance. I will let wiser people than I decide what steps are appropriate to protect the integrity of the board but I did want to share my own experience.

                on November 26, 2019.

                Wow, I missed this when it was originally posted. Thanks for sharing this viewpoint everyone, Doug especially!

                -Scott

                on June 30, 2020.
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