Church Question

    This may be an off the wall question but do any members attend different churches than their spouse?

    My wife and I have attended the same non-denominational church for 30 years. Over the past few years I have become disenchanted with our church and would like to look for another church. My reason for leaving is simply I am not growing spiritually. God’s Word is being taught but it is more milk than meat.  I am certain that my wife would not want to leave. We discussed leaving (my idea) years ago and I realized that  she would not leave this church ; if I pushed the issue friction within our marriage would result.

    I love the membership and the pastors and would miss them if I leave,  but I am drying up Spiritually. My immediate thought would be to look for another church and attended it by myself.  I hate this concept, a man and wife should worship side by side. I will pray about leaving and discuss this with my wife.

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      Talk to the pastor and your wife about your concerns and what you’re feeling.  My biggest concern would be spiritual leadership in the home and what is the best way to serve your wife, attending together or someplace else for a season? In the long run, I believe it’s healthier to be able to attend, be involved in a small group and the potential to serve together.

      Are you regularly serving in your current church?  Are you in a small group together? Are you involved in ministry and helping disciple younger Christians in need of mentors and mature spiritual influence? All churches could use that. 

      Under the stars Answered on September 9, 2019.
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        I agree with Seeking. You are one flesh and that includes being in the same church together. If your relationship is right, God is also working in her heart to either want to leave or to at least follow your leadership. If she is unwilling to follow you, you have a bigger problem than which church to attend.

        It’s never a good idea to attend church separately. A house divided against itself cannot stand.

        Hammock Answered on September 9, 2019.
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          I feel husband and wife should go together to the same church, as previous responses have said. In addition to the suggestions given, a break from your church and try different churches. Summer would have been a good time, as churches are doing short series sermons.
          We too have had that feeling of not growing spiritually. We connected with a life group. That helped a lot.

          Double bed Answered on September 9, 2019.
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            Please don’t take this the wrong way, but if you would like for your diet to include more meat, a Sunday morning service is probably never going to sate that appetite. It is much the difference between an unwanted child and a grown man hunting. One gets fed because he can not fend for himself. The other gets in the woods and hunts. If you are counting on your preacher to feed you more than milk, you likely have the wrong idea of who is ultimately responsible. IMHO, The pastor has enough on his plate dealing with the infants, and it could be that he is relying on the more mature Christian’s to not only forage for themselves, but also help with the less mature.

            It may be that what you are sending is more of a calling, if you follow it.

            On the floor Answered on September 9, 2019.
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              Lots of typos but you get the point.

              On the floor Answered on September 9, 2019.
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                If there is a yearning to be fed more, you can do personal studies to scratch that itch too.

                Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 9, 2019.
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                  I attend a sunday church and then I “double dip” with a few sermon videos from a few other churches I enjoy.

                  Queen bed Answered on September 11, 2019.
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