Connection FromLovemaking

    It has long been my feeling that upon completion of a love making session with my wife, I feel so,so connected. This connection, to me, seems nearly God ordained. Do others fell this same way? I know that guys feel loved thru sex, but do other women feel this way?

    California King Asked on June 24, 2020 in Theology of Sex .
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      I can on a rare occasion, but it’s when I am seeking some sort of comfort or affirmation from him.

      But, I absolutely believe there’s a spirtual work that takes place, no matter how one or both “feel” around it. I believe the unity of the one flesh, creates a covering over us in the spiritual world. It’s a big reason I believe married couples/spouses need to make sex a priority, no matter how they feel. Going without shouldn’t become a habit.

      Under the stars Answered on June 24, 2020.

      I am confident too that there is a  spiritual work that takes place. We have made sex a priority when we hadn’t resolved a dispute. I know that once when I felt that we didn’t deserve to be enjoying the pleasures of our physical union we were able to move on afterwards. When we were still virgins we resolved to ‘not let the sun go down…’

      on June 24, 2020.

      SC this is something that is not often mentioned but should be! We talk a lot about keeping our relationship good and close from the perspective of wanting to not be unhappy or of being protected against temptation toward sin, but your words put a picture in my head of creating a shelter above and around us against arrows, bullets, and bombs slung by hateful enemies. That’s powerful!!

      on June 26, 2020.
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        God made you to be connected through sex.
        Oxytocin and Dopamine among other chemicals flow during and after sex to bond man and woman.
        Which is the real danger of premarital sex. Bonding.
        And the danger of porn, creating connections via false information.
        But done the right way, sex brings two people together like nothing else.

        Fell out of ... Answered on June 24, 2020.
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          Wife here: It all depends.  When our relationship is not good outside of the bedroom, sex does not make me feel connected, but rather farther away.  If I feel disconnected from him, sex will not make me feel connected.  Sex makes me feel connected when it flow out of our already existing connection and closeness.  During the times in our marriage when I felt DH didn’t like me, sex made me feel awful

          Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on June 24, 2020.
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            @Graypoet, is that not called the afterglow? I guess that’s what I mean when I think about it, but maybe the two are different.

            Under the stars Answered on June 24, 2020.
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              I am a guy and I feel the same. Deep connection after love making session. I think about it next morning about sex we had last night.

              Queen bed Answered on June 24, 2020.
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                ABSOLUTELY!!! I know I’ve felt it. I will also add that both dear wife and I have reflected on multiple occasions after making love that maintaining our purity until our wedding night has made our marriage bed such a blessing and God celebration of His gift and His plan.

                Sadly, in our separate first marriages, DW & I did not maintain sexual purity beforehand. So now that we’ve seen the other side with our marriage, we now continually marvel at God’s gift to us and how freeing it is to enjoy our marriage bed and activities without guilt, regret or wondering, and we regularly remember and celebrate how special our wedding night and honeymoon was.

                Under the stars Answered on June 24, 2020.
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                  Sex makes me feel connected with my wife, at least if she is affectionate.  If she lays there like a log and doesn’t kiss or show affection, not so much so.  But if she gives me passionate kisses, yes.  Even with kind of inactive sex, I’d feel some sort of connection, just not as good.  If she’s super exhausted and we have sex, I can understand the lack of passion.

                  Fell out of ... Answered on June 26, 2020.
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                    Absolutely! It’s the reason why sexual dry spells are so detrimental to me. Like others, however, if we are somehow emotionally estranged it can go either way. Sometimes it will dissolve the barrier, others it will make me feel like I’ve had sex with a stranger. (And sometimes the way it goes depends on my own attitude and whether I’m willing to let it dissolve the barrier or want to hang onto my armor.)

                    Under the stars Answered on June 26, 2020.
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