Couples with kids question

    For couples with kids staying at home, do you wait for kids to go to their rooms to start sexual activity? Do you lock the bed room door?

    Queen bed Asked on February 11, 2020 in Children.
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      Never bothered waiting – and at times we had littler ones sleeping in our room in their own bed – because with so many we would have waited forever.

      Planned sex would have seen the door locked – where we had a lock –  but definitely not the spontaneous kind.  Have had each kid walk in more than once but never more than twice.  They learn.

      Queen bed Answered on February 11, 2020.
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        When your kids are smaller, not so much of a problem, but as teens, I was more inhibited.  I can be pretty quite, but my wife when she orgasms, can not keep from making noise, so often times, she would skip having an orgasm when our teenage kids were home.  For us, having teenagers in the house definitely dampened our sex activities, although, we did go “take naps” sometimes on the weekend. I am sure they knew what was going on.

        Fell out of ... Answered on February 12, 2020.
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          Our teen daughter definitely interferes with our sex life. First of all, she has no siblings to distract her. She’s not even consistently up late so that we could just go to bed before her and have our privacy. She is completely random–and abrupt–about when she goes to bed. Her bedroom shares the east wall of our bedroom; the bathroom (not a master bath) shares the north. DD not only takes marathon showers, she also tends to sit in bathroom and read for long periods of time so that we often end up staring at each other wondering whether she will be done any time soon. This is one reason our nighttime showering habit has switched to a morning habit; it’s hard to shower when she’s camping on the pot. The switch is a bad thing, because we prefer to be freshly showered to fully engage in all the fun things we do when we are ML without inhibition, and we can’t fully relax and engage when we are both thinking about the fact that we haven’t showered. She also stays up even after she has gone to bed, texting her boyfriend! (Or reading.) She has bat ears and almost always hears conversations we mean to keep private, so goodness knows how much she hears through the wall.

          The room we use for a second relaxing/watching TV space is on the other side of our bedroom, with access only through our bedroom, so if we close and lock our door during the day, we are effectively closing off part of the living space in the house (though she does still have the main living room). We have done that occasionally, but ironically she seems more “clingy” about wanting to be right where we are the older she gets (unless her boyfriend is here, and I’m just not going off to have sex while her boyfriend is here!)

          These things are on our list of problems to solve, but there are other things higher on the list right now. And I frequently realize that my days of seeing my only child every day are dwindling faster than I ever thought possible, so at the moment, any come-down-hard, me-parent-you-child-me-boss style solutions aren’t appealing. We’ll figure out a way to work around it eventually.

          Under the stars Answered on February 12, 2020.
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            Wait? NEVER! Otherwise, we could be waiting a long time, especial since our BR is off the LR with the TV beside our doors. It just means we have to be quieter when things getting exciting!

            Yes, we lock the door regularly at night, whether something is planned or not…but they usually don’t want to barge in (teen girls) because I’m the girls step-dad rather than bio-dad.

            Under the stars Answered on February 12, 2020.
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              We have 4 teens. We have always enjoyed sex at different times of day. So, we have always had a lock on our bedroom door. We have also had to face a fact…our kids know that we’re having sex. We have taken the path of “your parents have a healthy love for one another, and you should be grateful for that.” Through the years they have come to understand that, if the door is locked and it isn’t an emergency, they ought to walk away or risk hearing something uncomfy.

              California King Answered on February 13, 2020.

              That is  great, I think it sends a good message to our kids if they know their parents have sex without knowing or hearing too much. I know some are grossed out by it. I used to hear my folks when I was at home and thought it was awesome they loved each other and had fun.

              on February 13, 2020.
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                Let me also add that we have two fans in our room PLUS a ceiling fan. Wife has a fan closer to the bed  for white noise to sleep (and help with hot flashes) and there’s another fan closer to the door which she always turns on for our romps, especially the Sunday Afternoon Delights. 😀

                Under the stars Answered on February 13, 2020.
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                  We have two kids in college, and one in high school. One college kid is away, and the other goes to the large state university in our town and is frequently home. Our regularly scheduled sex occurs Saturday morning; none of our kids are early risers, so even if they are all home there is no problem with our regularly scheduled time of 7 AM. If sex happens during the week, we usually wait until 10 PM or so and just go to bed. During the week normally we only have the high schooler around, and he usually is studying or playing games with headphones on.

                  When the kids were young, we did what most other couples did; sneak away when they were watching a video or take advantage of their nap time. Good memories.

                  On the floor Answered on February 14, 2020.
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                    We have two kids in college, and one in high school. One college kid is away, and the other goes to the large state university in our town and is frequently home. Our regularly scheduled sex occurs Saturday morning; none of our kids are early risers, so even if they are all home there is no problem with our regularly scheduled time of 7 AM. If sex happens during the week, we usually wait until 10 PM or so and just go to bed. During the week normally we only have the high schooler around, and he usually is studying or playing games with headphones on.

                    When the kids were young, we did what most other couples did; sneak away when they were watching a video or take advantage of their nap time. Good memories.

                    On the floor Answered on February 14, 2020.
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