Couples with kids question
At night time, yes, we absolutely wait until they’re asleep. In the afternoon, there are times we’ve started a video for them and then go at it. At all times, kids asleep or not, we lock the door.
Of note–all of our kids are under the age of 10 and only the oldest has ever had a sex talk.
Been quite a while ago, but we usually waited for them to go to bed. There were some times we snuck outside in the dark or into the garage for a quicky.
Never locked the door. We taught them early on to knock, and ask to come in. Barging right on in was a no-no.
When they were younger, we waited until they were in bed, not necessarily asleep. Now that they are teenagers, there is no waiting….or we would be waiting and waiting and we would seldom have sex. We just lock the door. We get interrupted at times with a knock on the door, but we work around it.
Part of me regrets informing our kids that our red lamp is for sex, because now it’s like we are announcing what we are doing with the glow around the door at night 😳 …. but I guess the upside, I have noticed we get fewer knocks. 🙄
We normally wait until they are in bed and lock the door. There have been a few times recently that the oldest was going to be out later and we let the younger ones watch a movie upstairs so we were able to get it done earlier in the evening. That’s really nice as I seem to lose my drive to initiate when I get sleepy. My wife may not have a drive but she does like for me to be the persuer. 🙂
We have a teen and two twenties for kids. I was nervous starting before 10 or 11pm because their study area is right below our bedroom. Not the best plan. I do feel we should wait until the house is calmer and quiet. My husband bought a white noise generator which he uses to see and I use when we have sex so that the noises aren’t as apparent.
First off, always lock the door! Even if they’re well trained to knock, don’t want to risk it. To that end, I started closing our door every evening when we are in our room, even when we’re not getting frisky. That way it’s not a sure sign that we’re up to something.
We have a teen and a tween, and their bedroom doors are within 15 feet of ours. We typically wait til the younger one is in bed and the older one is in her room for the night—we have maintained that routine with them even as they’ve aged. I have to be up at 5 am, so we can’t wait super late or it gets too late. However, my wife is more reserved when she thinks the kids are still awake.
We have quickies other times, usually after determining both kids are occupied for the moment. We often play music or have the TV on as white noise—partly to cover our sounds, but also to cover the sounds of the kids that might distract DW from the task at hand.
We’ve become very good at taking advantage of times when both kids are at activities, and date nights often involve sex at home before picking the kids up from wherever else they are.
Well, if we waited until everyone was in bed, we would be waiting for hours.
As it is, the school children are in bed by 9. One bedroom is just outside our door, but when we built house, we planned the closets between the rooms. Also we insulated our room well. The 2 older teens go to bed when they want. They sleep downstairs, and we have a big house, so it doesn’t stress us. We always lock our door, as well.
When they were little, we waited for them to be asleep. They’re both in their teens now, and we just lock our door. Their rooms are on the opposite side of the house, but the game room is down the hall from us. Fortunately, if they’re in there, they typically have headphones on and can’t hear us even talking unless we’re in the room with them. So that works out pretty well.
Never bothered waiting – and at times we had littler ones sleeping in our room in their own bed – because with so many we would have waited forever.
Planned sex would have seen the door locked – where we had a lock – but definitely not the spontaneous kind. Have had each kid walk in more than once but never more than twice. They learn.