Cultivating appreciation for spouse: non-sexual

    What would you say drew / draws you to your spouse from a non-sexual standpoint? Trying to cultivate a better appreciation for the spouses God has given us. Thank you for your replies in advance.

    For me, I would say I had never really had a girl pay serious attention to me before my wife did, and she seemed to genuinely respect and care about me as a person, right from the start. I had always been a loner and felt very nervous around girls, but she had a way about her that disarmed me and made me feel at ease. It is still the same today. She takes good care of me and she loves me, and that has made a real difference in my life. I know I have a long way to go, but still I have come a long way already, and a big part of this is her love in my life that God has used.

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      My husband has a way of making everyone around him feel special. People are drawn to him from little, little kids all the way up to senior citizens. He is unfailingly kind, generous and helpful. He is hard-working and humble (sometimes too humble!) He is smart and creative and funny and he loves me unconditionally. He’s just one of a kind and I can’t imagine life without him. Sometimes we relate as lovers and sometimes more like brother and sister, but he is always the most important person in the world to me. I am unbelievably blessed to have this man for my very own. 🙂

      Under the stars Answered on June 9, 2019.

      Thanks, your comment really encouraged me.
      I would also say that my wife and I often relate like a brother and sister. We have even talked about it. I think it’s something that sometimes has made us both feel a bit uncomfortable and awkward, since our society so often overemphasizes the sexual side of romance. Of course, that side is present in our marriage, too — sometimes more than others. But it’s a relief to hear that other couples often feel a brotherly/sisterly dynamic too!

      on June 9, 2019.

      Now you have encouraged me. I hesitated to put that for fear of being misunderstood, but you know when you look closely at the marriage relationship, we are at heart brother and sister in Christ. It is the only aspect of our relationship that will remain in Heaven (as I understand it) since we will “neither marry nor be given in marriage” in Heaven. So when we feel that brotherly and sisterly affection and playfulness, it is just another side of love.

      on June 10, 2019.

      How true!

      on June 10, 2019.
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        The top two things would be his intelligence and sense of humor. I noticed those immediately on the day we met. I was also drawn in by his ambitiousness and hard working attitude. He’s also a very positive person, which I realized was something to be appreciated, after having dated so many negative men.

        On the floor Answered on June 10, 2019.
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          Her smile and laughter

          Her looks

          Her sincere faith in Jesus

          Under the stars Answered on June 11, 2019.
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            His love for Jesus has always been the #1 draw….

            Under the stars Answered on June 11, 2019.
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