To me, love is standing by one another through good or bad. I don’t really like the phrases that ‘we are called to love, called to serve’, etc. It sounds like a bit of a nasty job, to me. That’s more how I would feel towards unpleasant, unlikable people in life, not towards my DH, family, etc.
Love is all the little things, noticed or unnoticed, that show committment. To me, the biggest thing is that it is unconditional. Can we say we love anyone, if its still based on how the person is acting, or what they do or don’t do?
In the context of marriage, love is:
• A decision, carried out with conscious intent
• An act, taking many forms, but always to the benefit of the loved one
• A statement, made of both words and deeds, so that the loved one knows that it’s true,
All of these are the components of married love, in my opinion.
I have always loved this description, just one small picture of something so vast….
“The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you’ll see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned, why friendships don’t last. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money or under pressure or hungry, for goodness’ sake. Love is something different. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship.” – author unknown
Love is so many things. I lament that the English language only has one word for the deeply strong emotion that is love.
If I were to sum up love, it is a feeling of caring for someone that is so deep that you know your life will be different if they were not there. I believe that the deeper your love is, the more profound your loss will be when that person leaves.
Love is thinking so highly of, feeling so warmly about, and being so aware of someone that your desire to be near them is only surpassed by your determination to do well by them.
I’ve never tried to put love into my own words before, but I think that covers all the bases.