How well does the spray work (experience – not just ‘it desensitizes’)?
How much does it affect pleasure? Can he still orgasm through intercourse? How do you use it in a way that does not desensitize her? Is there a length of time application in use? How long does it last?
@Scott, you are to kind! I was quite excited to see this question as I think I can offer a useful answer!
I have been using Promescent for several months and it has been fantastic! I have suffered with PE for 19 years, and this is the first thing that has worked for me (I’ve tried all the methods, exercises, etc. to no avail). Promescent does use lidocaine, but as long as you wait 5-10 minutes after spraying before having PIV, it will not transfer to DW. It handles the surface sensations without making me totally numb, so I get to enjoy the pleasurable parts of sex without it all being over seconds after it starts. In fact, I often have to build to my orgasm, making it far more pleasurable! I’ve gone from having 15-60 seconds before climax to 5+ minutes (including a few sessions that were only over when I chose to end them). A couple of weeks ago I actually had a situation that we had to change positions back to missionary because in spite of great sensations in WOT, I just wasn’t getting there. When we flipped to missionary I was able to finish pretty quickly.
It’s not cheap (about $1/spray and I usually do 4 sprays), but worth every penny. Watch for deals on Amazon or the Promescent website (ie Black Friday).
I, too, am waiting to see what others share here.
In particular, I would like to hear from @lovabug99, who has had great success with the desensitizing spray they use. I have major respect for both him and his wife for actively trying so many things to make their MB a happy place!
I tried one once long ago. Felt like spraying oragel on your penis, or sore throat spray. All I have ever seen contain some form of lidocaine. The main problem I’ve heard is that they are not local, in that they will transfer onto your spouse, killing the whole point. I did try some condoms many years ago that had it on the inside. That did the stated job, so well that it was just not enjoyable at all. I tried a few before I threw the rest away.
I used the lidocaine sprays years ago, they work, there is an initial numbing that occurs within 1 or 2 minutes, but more deep down numbing that takes 10 minutes or more. Wipe it off good and let it soak in, wife never noticed it. I think sometimes it did make it difficult to keep a good hard erection though. I remember it lasting 30 minutes to an hour.
When I was younger, I had PE, I would last a few seconds to maybe 2 minutes on a good day. I am not circumcised. I asked a urologist about being circumcised to help with PE and he said he can help because you are removing some pleasure nerves, but he also said when you get older, you might wish you had those back, so I didn’t do it. He also said there was mixed results anyway.
I’ll add two additional details of my experience:
-yes, I’m circumcised
-Promescent tends to last 45-60 minutes. I spray right when we’re getting frisky, enjoy some foreplay and bring my wife to an O, then enjoy PIV. It is usually at least 20-30 minutes since I sprayed at that point, and it’s still effective.
We tried some condoms with desensitising product inside of it. The problem was that it made things so numb down there that I could not feel it when the condom slipped off and staysed inside DW. We were in panic mode for a while, and had to do a search and recovery.