Did I find her G spot?
While we were ML (or foreplay if you like, since it was before PIV) my wife was unusually aroused. As I recall, she has been that aroused only a handful of times during our 20 years. She was extremely wet/slippery, her labia and clitoris were more swollen than I can remember and her vaginal opening was “open”.
I slipped my two middle fingers into her vagina and let my palm rest on her clitoris. I could feel a swollen lump just inside the opening on the front side. It had the size and texture of a walnut. It’s there other times as well, but this time it was more swollen and pronounced. I lightly stroked it back and forth and deemed by her reactions, it was pleasurable, so I continued. Nothing rough or fast, just letting my fingertips slide back and forth over it with a little bit of pressure. She didn’t complain about an uncomfortable feeling that she had to pee, which I understand is common with the g spot and which she usually does when I stroke the front of her vagina.
After only a few minutes of my stroking, her vagina tightened around my fingers and she orgasmed. She was so wet already before, so I can’t tell if she ejaculated or not.
There was no added stimulation of her clitoris than my palm resting on it, so she clearly orgasmed from what I did to the “lump”. I have read a lot about the g spot through the years and I have searched for it in vain inside my wife. What confuses me is that this “lump” is so close to the vaginal opening, like just inside. Not the 1-2-3 inches inside as described in what I’ve read. And I’m not sure if the g area should be smooth or ridged/wrinkly. I find both when I read about it.
To summarize, she has a walnut size and textured “lump” just inside her vaginal opening on the front side. Beyond it the vagina feels just smooth, soft and slippery all the way to her cervix. The other night when she was extremely aroused the “lump” was more swollen than usual and as I stimulated it she obviously felt intense pleasure and eventually orgasmed. It was without any obvious stimulation added to her clitoris. I don’t know if she ejaculated or not.
To clarify the position… In the illustration linked to below, the g-spot is indicated by the yellow area about halfway between the vaginal opening and the cervix (like in almost all illustrations and descriptions I’ve seen). I have marked the spot I felt and stimulated on my wife in green close to the opening.
Have I found her g spot/area, or is this “lump” something else?
Do those of you with experience of this recognize anything in my description?
Do you have any suggestions or recommendations for us?
(Edited to add description of position and illustration)
Excellent description, and ‘yes’ you found her g-spot. The size, texture, and her response says it all. The location of the g-spot is elusive. Why? Because of the somewhat vague description of its location (“you’ll find it using a come hither finger position on the upper wall of the vagina (behind the pubic bone) about . . . ) The three . . . distance is a confusing hint!
Like the clitoris, nipples, labia, the g-spot swells physically with sexual, emotional, sensory stimulation. Women are different (? my understanding – ladies chime in on this) in which sexual ‘organ’ swells first and to what extent. For us men, the organ of note is our penis!
In our experience, Mrs. Oldbear’s g-spot is the ultimate barometer of her arousal. When it’s swollen – significantly – all other sexual organs and physical responses are fully charged – her nipples, labia, clitoris, and lubrication. In this state, she orgasms powerfully when the pressure on her g-spot is ideal. Your hand resting on her pubic mons added pleasurable pressure on her G-spot via her clitoris. No doubt you also had more than one finger in her vagina and that also provided additional pressure surrounding area of your digital stimulation on her g-spot.
For us, the guarantee of maximum g-spot response and pleasure for Mrs. Oldbear is anal stimulation – a final bit of pressure and feeling of fullness. This last ‘move’ heightens every sexual nerve ending in her body! This brings her a marvelous g-spot orgasm and noticeable FE . . . even at the age of 70!
What you described certainly falls in line with what many people describe for their “G-Spot” experience.
However, I’m of the thought that the name of the pleasure path is only of limited importance. The bottom line is you found a new path for your DW to orgasm that doesn’t require significant clitoral stimulation. That’s wonderful news and you should continue to explore and utilize this pleasure pathway, particularly with how it allows/doesn’t allow continued stimulation and multiple O’s. You can also combine it with simultaneous stimulation of other erogenous zones to attempt blended O’s.
I like to use descriptions from others (such as “G-spot”) for general guidance and things to try, but in the end when something works I don’t worry about what it “officially” is. The fact is that each person is unique and may not follow the average. As I understand it, scientific analysis has yet to even “confirm” the existence of the G-Spot, and I’d say that’s because each person is different enough that it’s not trivial to ID and quantify it (because lets face it–it clearly exists for many women).
One reason I approach it this way is that my “go-to” internal fingering position for my DW doesn’t seem to line up with any of the “standard” pleasure spots for women. It’s off to one side and certainly isn’t the G-Spot (which is finicky for her). It’s certainly not deep enough to be the P-Spot, and it doesn’t seem to be next to the cervix like the A-Spot. Despite not having a label, it is highly reliable and results in very nice blended O’s for Zelda when combined with a vibe on her clitoris. In the end, I don’t care what it is, because it makes her feel really good!
Thanks everyone! I’m so excited to have found a new pleasure spot to explore after all these years. No matter the name of the spot, I have been searching for her internal pleasure spot for many years, but ignored this “lump” or spot just because I was in the belief the “g-spot” should be farther from the opening and this is too close.
If I were describing finding my wife’s g-spot that would have been my description as well. The difference for us is that what you describe as her vagina tightening and then she O’d—my wife tightens and ejaculates quite a bit of fluid (and has a little pleasure from it), but she insists that it’s not an orgasm. She says it feels good, but she says that experience and an O from clitoral stimulation aren’t even in the same realm. So either my DW hasn’t had a g-spot O, or they are so small that they don’t register for her.
As for fluid—you’d likely know if she ejaculated. At least in my experience it’s pretty forceful and clearly different than her natural lubricant. It also isn’t slick the way other fluids are. It seems like it make things less slick.
Bottom line: congrats on finding a new way to pleasure your wife! I hunted for years before finding the spot, and I suspect age and hormones made it suddenly more pronounced for DW.
From what you describe, it sounds like the g-spot to me. If it is not, I have something almost exactly as you describe, so whatever it is, it’s not just your wife.
Every woman is different, and if the length of a vagina can vary, why can’t how far the g-spot is in vary as well?