Different Heights and Position Challenges

    My wife is 2 inches shorter than me.  Also, she is a little overweight (I am not minus the small belly typical to a “dad”) which means her bum is well sized :).

    What are some ways/techniques we can use to make sure the following positions are comfortable, easy, and successful?

    1. Standing doggy against the wall
    2. Standing front facing against the wall

    We have our 15 year “dateaversary” this Wednesday and I’ve shared with her a particular fantasy I have that involves these two positions and she’s totally open to it.  I want things to go smoothly.

    The “backup plan” is to just move to the bed and keep it basic but of course I want to try and make this experience go well without resorting to what’s “easy”. 🙂

    If you can number your answers like I did above so i can be sure to know what one you are trying to help me “troubleshoot” with your answer that would be great.  Thanks! 🙂

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      We have about a 10″ height differential. It’s one of those things you don’t really consider when you’re dating. 😀

      It does seem to limit some positions. We’ve tried to adapt somewhat. I built a F stool that slides under the bed. (Yes we call it that for the comedic affect.),  so as suggested stools can help. I’d also suggest you work on leg strength. I do a lot of squatting. She should work on calf strength. DW toes a lot of tip toeing.  Explore other options. Her kneeling on the couch/chair etc is helpful.

      Queen bed Answered on June 25, 2019.
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        Using a small sturdy stool might help. Or, if you are handy and have some pieces of wood to stand on, you might be able to gain the desired elevation.

        Under the stars Answered on June 24, 2019.
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          A lot depends in more than just stature. My wife is much shorter than I am, but she can almost fold herself in half, so standing rear entry is easy for us. I don’t think we could manage that against a wall, so if that is a must, then it won’t work.

          it has been literally decades since we could manage standing front, so I can’t really offer any personal expertise, but flexibility could play into it if your wife could raise one leg to your chest.

          Thankfully, I have no particular desire to get gymnastic with things. I think that could get exhausting.

          Fell out of ... Answered on June 24, 2019.
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            @one_woman_man Are you saying she would stand on this or have one foot on it?  How tall?  Just the two inches?

            Twin bed Answered on June 24, 2019.
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              Doug,

              What makes against a wall harder than standing without a wall? I would think the wall makes it easier.

              Thanks for the leg idea with front facing.

              Twin bed Answered on June 24, 2019.
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                There are many factors involved. For instance, aside from each person’s height being different, their leg and torso ratios are likely different too. That would impact your relative height differences. Or the amount of weight each person is carrying and how/where they carry it will also factor into the physics of your desired positions, how deep one can penetrate (Because as you know, gravity impacts our body shape depending on our positions), how long one can keep their balance, etc.

                So, I’m sorry I can’t say exactly what will or will not work for the two of you. It will definitely involve some experimenting – but that can be a lot of fun too!

                Even without knowing those factors, it would seem to me that she would need to stand a step higher than you  – or you might need to stand with your knees bent or she on her tiptoes – and then the question is how long can you stand that way, or concentrate on the other sensations while doing all of that!

                I hope this helps.

                Under the stars Answered on June 24, 2019.
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                  As one whose “bum is well-sized”, and is 8″ shorter than DH, (though I never actually considered that before!) my poor Hubby would have to be literally hung like a horse to reach past my cheeks and get all the way in if I were standing upright against the wall (never mind the height difference.) But, like one of the others, I can fold myself in half and would enjoy taking him from behind while gripping my ankles if I felt secure against over balancing. Hands on a small stool might work well in this scenario. Could start foreplay against the wall. For front facing, try having her sit (near the edge) on a high stool against the wall. I can’t personally vouch for these ideas, but think they would work to fit his belly with my butt! 😂

                  Under the stars Answered on June 24, 2019.
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                    What about if she wasn’t bent all the way over or upright but lateral just like on hands and knees but standing and hands/arms on wall?

                    Twin bed Answered on June 24, 2019.
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                      She could wear some shoes (wouldn’t recommend high heels though) or you could put some kind of step next to the wall to even out the height difference. Also for standing doggy if she has her hands against the wall she can arch her back as illustrated here (http://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/physical-techniques/be-more-attractive-by-arching-your-back/) which makes it easier to line things up.

                      Fell out of ... Answered on June 24, 2019.
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                        I keep getting notifications that there is new posts on this but when I come here there aren’t any.  And one that was posted yesterday is now gone from the bottom of the thread.  So confused.

                        Twin bed Answered on June 25, 2019.
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