Do you have to be hornier for a handjob than for PIV?

    I never thought much about this in my 20’s and 30’s, probably because I got pretty horny every day.  But as I get older, while I crave PIV with my wife and the connection, it seems like I have to skip a few days of sex before I start thinking a handjob would be really nice.  My wife can give some intense sensations in a handjob, and there is a lot of control.

    Is anyone else like this?

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      I don’t think I have to be hornier for a handjob than for PIV.  But, I’ve never really taken notice of it before.

      Fell out of ... Answered on May 9, 2019.
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        When I was younger, my degree of horniness made no difference to the quality of or ease to orgasm from PIV, a handjob, or masturbation. As a senior man (with lots of great sex under my belt 😁 ) reaching orgasm is more a matter of relaxing, enjoying, and allowing Mrs. Oldbear’s sexiness and skill as well as my own perfected technique(s) to O.

        The times of heightened horniness for either of us are far fewer these days. We now encourage each other to seize the moment. That means, solo masturbation if we are apart or me asking for a hand job at anytime. Just this morning, Mrs. Oldbear titillatingly  whispered in my ear as I left for coffee with a friend, “You need me to take care you. Just ask me, anytime!!” Last week, when I was out of town she missed me and took advantage of her horniness to relax and masturbate. When I returned, she shared about her pleasurable success to a great O and it delighted me!

        In summary, if I’m a little bit horny these days, whether we go for an orgasm via PIV or manual stimulation, I can get there; maybe not as quickly in my younger years, but we probably enjoy the journey more now than ever.

        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on May 9, 2019.
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          Because my DW has gotten so good at it (lots of practice when we were first married) and makes it really intimate, I find myself craving it sometimes over PIV. Not because it’s better, but because I simply have a taste for one dish over another at the moment at the great feasting table that is our marriage bed.

          California King Answered on May 9, 2019.
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            No, no need for that. Both PIV and HJ and OS all are amazing!

            But there are times when it is extra special to receive the bulk of the attention there and just to take it all in – yes, her too 😉

            Under the stars Answered on May 9, 2019.
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              I find that I prefer PIV sex the more aroused that I am although a nice HJ or BJ is really hot too LOL.

              Queen bed Answered on May 10, 2019.
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                I get what you’re saying. The idea of PIV is more desirable and thus more arousing.

                I would agree with GeorgeB that a well-done handjob can be intimate. But it’s still not as intimate as PIV for me.

                Now that I’m no longer horny 12 hours after a climax, I am sometimes looking for intimacy and connection more than an orgasm. When that’s the case I may say no thanks to a handjob and wait for PIV in the near future. OTOH, if I’m feeling pretty horny, then I’m down for whatever!

                Fell out of ... Answered on May 11, 2019.
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                  I love a good HJ, and at times find it better that PIV.

                  Queen bed Answered on May 17, 2019.
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                    Yes.  when the monthly time with my wife she gave me a HJ. oh man it was great.  I felt very loved that she would handle me intimately.

                    Double bed Answered on August 5, 2019.
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                      A HJ from my wife, coupled with some dirty talk, is incredible!

                      Queen bed Answered on September 6, 2019.
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                        Getting older (50’s), I beginning to feel like I don’t want to “waste” an orgasm that way.  However, there are a few times when a finished HJ happens, usually if a period is occurring and she just doesn’t want to go there. There  are also times when she wants to O together and/or we’re getting so hot and heavy that we don’t stop stimulating each other. Finally, there are times when she wants to bless me and with an O and swallow my semen.

                        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 8, 2019.
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